"Krystle N" wrote in message
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look donna i know ur trying to help me but calling me careless and that
other word you used.

What other word did I use that is upsetting you so much? I have re-read my
post a bunch of times trying to figure out why you think I am insulting you.
I still don't see it. I know that tone is hard to judge in written context,
but no where, that I can see, did I insult you. How have I hurt your
feelings so badly?

..thats not helping me..i know i made the mistake of
having sex..and we did use protection...i told him to take it off
because it was burning...i come to find out i'm alergic to it..it may
sound stupid but i am..and i'm only human..

Right, but then why did you not try another method of contraception? I
haven't totally forgotten what it is like to be a teenager, but I do recall
that having sex without protection is kind of a careless attitude. That's
not insulting, Krystle, that's a description. We're all careless at
times - everyone who has been ticketed for accidentally driving over the
speed limit is guilty of being careless. It's not a character flaw for
heaven's sake.

.yall may say tell ur mom
that u might be pregnant..but if yall were here..yall'd
understand...every day she comes home from work she yells at me..i don't
ever do anything wrong..as soon as she walks through the door she yells
at me for no reason..my mom has an anger disorder...she gets mad at the
littlest things.

I believe that I, and others, mentioned that the advice to speak to your
mother would not be useful to you if you fear for your safety. Krystle,
people, myself included, have put a lot of effort into responding to your
post thoughtfully, non-judgementally, and with an adult-to adult tone,
because you are in a difficult, adult situation. If all you wanted to hear
was "Poor poor kid, How awful for you" the code is to ask for support, not
advice. It's kind of like when someone posts that something is a rant -
that kind of means that they're reacting emotionally to a situation, rather
than looking for discourse and information.

.i have a pregnancy test already i'm just affraid to
take it because i'm affraid that i might be pregnant..i know what i need
to do...thanks for yalls help it's been really nice for yall to help
me..it's just that i don't know why yall are putting me down.

Who has put you down? Every post that has propagated on my system has been
very neutral in tone. And every post has given you excellent advice. I
really don't understand your perspective here.

.the guy i
had sex with is 17 ...he's my ex-boyfriend..and i don't really want to
be with him..and yall are probably goin to ask me why did i have sex
with him...the reason is..if i didn't...he wouldn't have left me
alone..i tell him to quit doing things...for an example..we were
standing in the lunchline yesturday at school...he kept pokin me and i
told him to quit ...and he wouldn't stop ..i kept telling to quit and
kept telling him to quit...and he just wouldn't quit... i know i should
go to the police station and have a restraining order put on him.

.... so the alternative is to have sex with him? I totally don't understand
your thought processes here. What I am picking up loud and clear is that
you are having a little trouble acknowledging that you have any
responsibility for the mess you find yourself in.

..but
if i'm pregnant..who would be the father of my child?...see yall need to
ask me these questions b4 you know what to say to me.

Wrong. You need to provide the information you wish to have evaluated when
you post. This is an newsgroup, not an encounter session. Had you
mentioned these things in your post, you may have gotten different
responses.

Donna