On Mon, 11 Aug 2003 13:58:12 -0400, "Stephanie and Tim"
wrote:

He hauls DS around my the limbs and his rough houseing is too
rough. The rough house play is the easiest to explain. They rough house. DS
loves it, DH loves it. The problem is that this rough housing frequently
involves DH manhandling DS's body in a way that DS has no control over.
Still fine. DS is giggling madly. The problem is that I think the acceptable
level of DH hurting DS is ZERO when this play is occuring. But it happens
fairly regularly that DS will do something by mistake that hurts him and he
begins to bawl. If DS is having fun, then begins to bawl, it has to be a
fairly painful event. So I mention this to DH, who just says - It was an
accident. The irony is that he comes down like a ton of bricks on DS for
"not being careful" when he accidentally hurts Mommy. This happens all the
time since I do not try very hard to get out of the way of flying elbows and
whatnot. So when I try to tell DH that HE has to be more careful, he just
says that DS is OK and blows me off. This is not OK with me.

As others have said, I would stay out of this one. Rough house play
that is fun for both ds and dh is ok and accidents will happen. DS
may actually hurt him accidentally too if he kicks in the wrong place.

But children *need* this kind of rough play and dads are good at it.
The only issue would be if it gets out of hand right before bed, it
can make for sleep problems so I might talk about keeping it to a
minimum at that time of the night.


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