In article , "karen" says...

I was wondering if french kissing a 5 year old boy by his step-mother is
sexual abuse. Please help me and let me know. I'm the mother.


Yanno, when I was in my 20s, I knew five couples with young kids who divorced.

All five of the non-custodial parents - ALL FIVE OF THEM, ALL FIVE OF THEM! -
told others that the custodial parent and/or new partner of the custodial parent
of sexually abused the kids. I believed - - oh, about - - NONE - - of them,
knowing personally about the situations.

In the twenty years since then, I find that I know few people who got divorced
during my decades-long friendships. I think it's because I learned to detect a
certain flighty selfishness in a lot of the folks who eventually go down that
path and don't form connections with them.

I'm not saying that what you say is necessarily false. But it's so highly
unlikely that a woman would be french-kissing a 5 year old boy, and so DAMN
COMMON that ex's accuse the child's new situation of being abusive, that I just
get sick and tired of reading this stuff.

But- I'm not the one you worry about, of course, me being some stranger on
USENET. But I can assure you that any judge and any arbitor and just about
anyone involved in family court (except the the lawyers), is damn sick and tired
of it too.

So before you take any steps in this direction, look yourself in the mirror and
really think about that incident somebody told you about, or that affectionate
roughhousing that you saw from a distance - WHATEVER is was (unless you want
folks to believe that a woman went about sexual acitivity with her stepchild in
the witnessing presence of the birthmother), and tell yourself out loud to that
image in the mirror that you are certain that a stepmother tongue-kisses a five
year old boy in a sexual way. Al least start there - because evidently that
person will be the LEAST hard to convince of those you'll have to convince if
you go forward with this.

Are you DAMN SURE of this accusation??

Banty