14yr old girl, 19yr old boyfriend
I talked to her last night & she agreed with me on allot of things (all
of
which she wanted to talk to me about).
Yes, I've read that, and I do agree with what Joelle said about letting
her
express herself. She may have agreed with you, but really, is that what
you
really want? She may be trying to act like a big person and she may
believe
on the outside that she maybe even IS an adult, but deep down, she is a
child, and I have no doubt in my mind that she knows that, even without
knowing all of the story and without ever meeting her.
At that age, kids often agree. I doubt there's a 13, 14 or 15 year old
who
has not agreed with an authority figure just to get by. Even now, I find
that sometimes it's just easier to agree with someone (my own parents, my
aunts, uncles, whatever) just to end a conversation, or move on, even when
I
either know or just feel I am right.
Actually I dont think that she was agreeing just to not have to argue her
point any more. At times she acted almost as if she was told to say what she
said (& possibly to believe it?). Her points were not valid ones & as soon
as I explained to her why that was, she appeared to accept it & understand
it, more like she was actually looking for an explination of why those
thoughts were invalid.
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