On Mar 12, 10:49�am, toto wrote:
On 11 Mar 2007 22:45:22 -0700, wrote:

Any ideas? *Is he just shy and maybe I should give it more time? *He's
starting high school next year and I want his experience with friends
to be good.

Thanks,
Dad661

Is this new? *Did it begin after the divorce?

If it's not new and is just part of his temperament, I would not push
it. *He may be one of those kids who really enjoys being alone and
independent. * Does he have one or two close friends, but not like
larger groups? *If so, he's probably just fine the way he is.

If this is new or he seems to have *no* friends at all, then you may
want to see if something has changed recently that brought this about.
Are his friends beginning to be interested in girls and dating while
he is less mature? *Are his friends into sports and he feels he isn't
good at that? *Is he self-confident about his own abilities? *If not,
perhaps a martial arts class would help his confidence.

Good luck in sorting this out.

--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

The Outer Limits

I think I would ask whether something happened recently to make him
withdraw completely. For example, has he become the brunt of some
cruel jokes? Kids can be cruel and gang up together in a team
mentality, even on something simple like him being a teacher's
favorite and being a good student who won't give in to peer pressure,
and I couldn't blame someone for preferring to be alone as a result of
things like that. I know one of my best friends in school turned one
of our disagreements into a huge battle to where she demanded our
mutual friends chose either one of us. Thankfully, some people were
not scared of her big mouth, bullie ways and remained friends with me.
As we matured, however, some of the folks that chose her and her style
came around to wanting to be friends again, but of course, we all know
that type of thing comes with maturity.