Rosalie B. wrote:
"beachpeach" wrote:

I've read the trick or treat thread with interest. I'm curious about
parental attendance while trick or treating. At what age do most of
your folks think is acceptable/appropriate for kids to knock on doors
with mom or dad? We live in a HUGE neighborhood where we know most of
the people. It's very family oriented and the houses are bult very
close to each other (just trying to give a description). DD is going
to be 12, the day after Halloween and she is in 7th grade; just started
middle school. She hasn't asked to go alone (yet) but I expect her to
at any moment :-)

We've always had it that her dad took her around with or without a
friend or they've traveled in groups with other kids and parents. I'm
thinking Dad still needs to be with her another year or two. It's not
her that I don't trust....you know? My intellect tells me that there
are a bunch of kids out with parents, we've lived in this neighborhood
for almost 8 years, she can take a cell phone and yada yada yada. But
my gut says, go with dad.

I hand out the candy at home and make a cake for her birthday.

Thanks in advance.

I'm thinking of this from a different perspective.

He may want to go. His little girl is growing up after all and this
is possibly the last time for him to do this. If he does, then let


him go with her, or at least wander along behind if she objects.

Oh my gosh; did I ever give the wrong impression! I want him to go. I
don't want her to go without him or atleast another adult! It's not
her that I don't trust. It's a car that is driving too fast as she's
crossing the street, older teens who are out with cartons of eggs or
any other icky stuff that happens in life. I want him to go with our
daughter and I want to be fair about it. I don't want to be overly
protective ( I tend to be- I'm a social worker and my sister is a
public defender; that does tend to color our world :-)

I would have him trick or treat with her until 12th grade if it were my
choice :-)

He and I talked about it last night and he said that pretty much stays
in teh background. If she objects, we talked about him staying in the
background X 2. I'm just not comfortable letting go yet.

Thanks for your response...and to the other poster too!