"Chookie" wrote in message
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second was that he would do best with a teacher who would not interpret
his
enthusiasm (which can include calling out, bouncing in his seat, etc) as
rudeness.

My daughter is now almost 13 going into 8th grade and I'm still trying to
deal with this. There are always a few enthusiastic kids in her class that
tend to call out answers, and have been doing so since they were little. My
daughter has alway started the year by raising her hand, as that is what the
teacher asks the children to do. By teacher conferences two months into the
year that is the one question she always asks I bring to the teacher (for 7
years now), do they really want her to raise her hand, as the child who
calls out gets the attention. Should I push her to show her enthusiasm more
by shouting out the answers too? I've suggested this to the teachers, they
would prefer they have the chance to call on her, which they then never get
to. By mid year my daughter has alternated calling out herself, which she
doesn't feel comfortable with, and just withdrawing completely. To her it
seems that since the teacher is allowing these other kids to call out
answers, instead of raising her hand that the teacher doesn't like her. So
despite the straight A's on her report card we always get the "doesn't
participate enough" or "too chatty" or some other comment that is probably
right on but is my daughter's way of coping with a teacher that is showing
more attention to the kids who are too enthusiatic to follow the rules the
teacher sets down. How exactly do I get my daughter to understand the
special attention other kids get? Especially other kids in her advanced
classes? I'd really like to get this right with this daughter, my older
daughter is off to college, and is very assertive everywhere except in
classrooms. I've seen that hurt her in high school.