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Old December 10th 06, 07:48 PM posted to misc.kids.moderated
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Hi! I'm a retired older mom (in her 60's) who has pretty much raised
her kids (who are all in their 40s) alone. Father-still alive- but
little contact/support and never has been. Stepfather died 20+ years
ago. I had just turned 40...3 were out of highschool and the youngest
was in the 3rd year of high school.

Problem is I know have the opportunity to move approx. 2-3 hrs from
'home'. It is a location that we are all familiar with and love. It
would help me tremendously. I 'retired' from my full time job a few
years ago but still work part time. In the last year, I find I am
getting more tired, really don't want to work any longer...but
financially 'must' with where I currently live. This move gives me
that opportunity of not working and sharing expenses with my sister and
brother-in-law. Yes..we have gone over all kind of scenarios of 'ifs'.
Problem is 3 of my 4 children are ok with this. I have 1 who is
really upset. She has 3 teenagers who I am close with and do quite a
bit of 'errands' with. I have tried to say to them, it is only 2.5 hrs
away and I think I would probably see all of my children/grandchildren
more and with better quality time. I still plan on being with them on
special occassions and holidays and expect to come back 'here' about
every 4-5 weeks and spend a day or two with each of them... IF THEY ARE
EVEN AVAILBABLE. They all have very busy lives. I could take them
shopping and not have to charge it. In the summer, they could come for
a visit...beach/boardwalk/shoppingoutlets. I feel I talk to them,
email them more than anything. When I do see them it is usually to
grab 30/60 min. here and there! I am probably home alone and eat
alone 25 out of 30 days/nights. You get the gist.

Does anyone have any suggestions?