--
"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it.
You remain responsible, forever, for what you have tamed."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"Purchgdss" wrote in message
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1) he's under the care of a psychiatrist for his meds
2) he's on meds (a cocktail really)
3) he's been in the hospital for certain behaviors that are concerning
that
needed immediate attention and got immediate attention.
4) we have a social worker
5) we have a therapist (in-home psychologist who is helping me with both
parenting, coping and behavior modification skills for this kiddo)
6) I've learned safe restraint techniques for when he becomes violent
(which
thankfully isn't all that often anymore)
7) he's on a behavior mod plan in school
8) he has a great IEP

Based on what his diagnosis is and how old he is, would be how to proceed.
I've had these similar issues and life events with my own son. But from
the
little you have shared, I suggest researching "Reactive Attachment
Disorder".

Never heard of it but it's definately something I'll be looking up and
reading about. I know I've shared "little" but I'm also extending some
feelers out right now to get a little more of an idea about the group. I
still consider myself very new here.


So what am I missing? Why does this kid constantly tell people that he
hates
living with me? This past weekend I was in the hospital.... very sick. I
have diverticulitis which I found out is aparently pretty rare in people
under the age of 30.... I'll be 29 on Sunday. My son threw a fit and told
some people at his school about how I left him alone with no one around.
The
reality is that his step-dad who loves him very much took me to the
hospital
where my friend met me and he took the kids home to care for them,
knowing
that my friend was with me. He explained to my son on the way to the
hospital that mommy is sick and needs to be taken care of by special
doctors
who can help mommy's tummy get better with special medicine that gets rid
of
infection. I was gone only 3 days. I just don't get it.
Over Labor day weekend, I visited with my parents and when my son threw a
fit in the middle of a Wal Mart store, he had to be restrained until he
was
calmed down... I actually asked the door greeter to call in a manager and
security guard to help me.... Are there resources out there that I may be
missing? Is this something that's just behavioral or was this something
resembling sort of like a seizure?
I'm coming out of lurk at the risk of being massively flamed and
attacked.
What I'm actually doing is asking for help, ideas, resources, links and
any
other ideas and advice anyone is willing to offer and share.

It could be that your hospital stay freaked him out and he reacted by
going
into "self-preservation" mode. Crazy lying and false accusations are
hallmarks
of Reactive Attachment Disorder. Check out the behaviors list and if he
meets
enough of the criteria start exploring the options.

I definately agree that the hospital stay freaked him out. He's never seen
me so sick. I know that he wanted to visit and the visit he had with me on
Saturday was pretty short. I enjoyed hugging him and I was reassuring him
that I was ok and that I'll be better soon. He was clingy but I was in and
out of a fog. I'll be honest, the pains of labor are a welcome memory to the
pains of this nasty little disease. at least I've got 3 great kids to show
for it!


I must say, this mental illness is not a "doom & gloom" thing, they CAN
get
better. My son is proof.



No, Mental Illness isn't doom and gloom.... In fact, it's one of the most
common ailments and one of the least understood. I've got a really good
therapist for my son, and a very good psychiatrist. I like to think of it as
a team effort.... the Psychiatrist, the GP, the therapist, the school social
worker, the teachers, the resource center at the dept of social services, my
sig other, my parents.... it does help. I've done stuff for myself to ensure
that I'm able to handle issues properly.... I'm in counseling myself....
I've been through anger management classes (to understand my own
frustrations and anger issues along with my son's anger issues and violent
outbursts) and parenting classes....I've worked with social workers in the
past to give me ideas, resources and help.... I've stopped being afraid of
social services and I've actually embraced their help. I'm not afraid to
ask.

Just my 2 cents.........
Christine