Like I said, I'm feeling a lot of stuff right now so I'll tell ya up front,
I'm sensitive right now.

Listen, I'm really not trying to bust your butt, and I'm serious about how I'm
probably the one person who knows what you are going through.

You don't have to agree with me politically or argue semantics about
relationships to consider what I said, and open up a discussion with your son
about why he felt abandoned, even though the man you consider a father to him
was with him.

What I mostly want to get through to you is that the field of mental health is
not a science, I'm not sure it's even an art, the past five years has shown me
how much they don't know and are really just guessing. I mean this has no
disrespect to those in the mental health field, but I think sometimes we've put
too much faith in them. And they always seem to blame the mother (thank you
Freud -asshole) so I can see how you would be defensive. Trust me, anything I
said, was not in a blaming way - just trying to help you see things in a
different light.

The fact is, it may not get better right away. I can't even tell you your son
will get better. I can tell you it got better for my son but I still worry
about how he will have a normal independent life.

I understand the wish for some other resource, doctor, therapist, pill,
ANYTHING to make your kid normal. Maybe there is, don't stop looking. But
maybe there isn't. Other people looking in will blame you. You have to just
tell yourself they don't know what you know but try not to get defensive
because it makes you crazy, makes you look crazy and makes you blind and deaf.

Really I'm not your enemy.

Joelle
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St
Augustine
Joelle