Hi all!

I read this group regularly but haven't posted much. I need to ask a couple
questions and hope that someone out there can give my hubby and I some tips
to help a friend of his. Long story short (I hope!!)

Hubby's friend John is going through a VERY nasty divorce. Neither spouse
was willing to go to counseling to change what needed to be changed and
John's wife is sure that the only reason their marriage is breaking up is
because John drinks too much (I may have to agree). John is a wonderful
provider but has always been a part-time father because his wife won't let
him say/do anything to the kids. Her attitude is that he couldn't possibly
know how to relate to a child. So John and wife work, have a beautiful home
that John built most of by himself. They have 4 kids and make bundles of
money.

Fast forward............ John's wife kicks him out. The wife works for an
attorney so John hires his own. Well there are several appearances that
John misses because his atty didn't tell him about them. So, John is in
contempt of court. John fires that atty and gets another one who is a
scrapper. John shows up for court one morning (after a night of drinking)
and his STBX says she smells alcohol. John gets an immediate breathalizer
(sp??) and blows a .03. The judge says supervised visits with his kids.

The REAL problem is that John has, for the past 6 or 7 months, been paying
his STBX direct rather than go through the friend of the court. (this is
Michigan btw). So, the court case finally gets far enough to where the FOC
is now involved and he's THOUSANDS of $$$$ in arrears. Yesterday John finds
out that there is a bench warrant for his arrest. If he gets arrested he
loses his job. Flat out. John pays his CS every week, paying $2,900 a
month. Why can't the FOC tack the arrearage onto what he pays every week?

Both my hubby and I don't want to see John go to jail and lose his job. Is
there anything that can be done? HELP!!!!!

Thanks!
Pat