I guess part of the reason I am so open about it is because of the help it
can
bring someone who asks. I once answered the twin question to a woman who
I
sort of knew as an aquaintance and came to find out that she and her DH
were
just about to start fertility treatment, etc. We became good friends and
I was
her "source" of info. throughout. She was very grateful to be able to
talk to
someone who had been through it. I realize that those situations are few
and
far between, but it's just another viewpoint.


I agree, but I don't think such people are so very "few and far between",
though. I have had a *lot* of women approach me say and ask very personal
questions -- and then as we chat, tell me they are undergoing or about to
start treatment, or just lost an IVF pregnancy, or whatever. Since the
questions happen not to bother me, it's nice to be able to offer a few kind
words to a stranger suffering as we used to. Everyone's mileage and
tolerance varies of course -- and the interruptions were less welcome when
they were 3 weeks old than later of course.

--Janet
Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96)
and Holly (4/4/01)