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On May 11, 8:03 pm, "Bob Whiteside" wrote:
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Hi I've been separated for two years, I have 2 children of 14 and 12
in shared custody. I learned from my daughter. who was 12 at the
time,
that her mother told her she was going to leave me several days
before
she told me!
What kind of person could do something like that?
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The kind of person you'd choose to marry and have children with?

How can a husband predict his wife will become a person from a different
planet 10-15 years after their marriage? How are men supposed to know
before marriage their brides will feel unfulfilled emotionally, in need
of a
change, want to find themselves, believe they not having their needs
met, or
feeling like they are growing apart 10-15 years later?

Well previously how could a wife predict her husband would dump her
and the kids for a whole new life? This is not a new scenario. It's
been going on for quite some time. The only difference now is that
there is financial recourse for the dumped spouse especially if kids
are involved.

The statistics are clear - 85% of divorces are initiated by women over the
objections of their husbands. It doesn't matter which criteria is used to
measure this fact, it always comes up 85% of marriages are ended by women.

Actually there is much more than just financial gains for women to take this
action. They can also get favorable tax treatment, symapthy from their
friends, emotional support from confidants who are aware of what they are
doing, and the psychological motivator in knowing they will get custody of
any children.

When asked to disclose why they ended their marraiges woman rank the bad
husband factors - abuse, neglect, affairs, drinking, drugs - very low.
Instead, they list touchy-feely stuff like needing to find themselves, not
feeling fulfilled, wanting to move on, and feeling they were growing apart
as the factors leading up to divorce.


Some men may argue that the finances are an encouragement for women to
seek divorce. Perhaps it is. But that's the type of women they like,
otherwise they wouldn't have married them.

This is total crap! Neither men nor women know how a person is going to
change over an extended period of time. And to make it worse, a statement
like the one above assumes women are consistent and predictable and men make
bad choices. I would bet there are a lot of people reading this that would
say it's the other way around - Men are consistent and predictable and the
women make bad choices because the women assume they can get men to change.