I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people

Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Thu, Mar 18, 2004, 12:40pm
(EST-1) From: ('Kate)

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Kate wrote:
Was your mother a teen parent too?

Bev wrote:
Is there some reason this is important?

Kate wrote:
Important.. maybe. Her mother is likely to be more understanding so
from the daughter point of view, it's important.

Bev wrote:
Yeah , I could see that being somewhat possible that a mother who was a teen
parent could understand the teens point of veiw better, In my case with Sara I
was not I had my first when I was 21. I can admit I sure don't see eye to eye
with Sara lately.
I am trying to ease out of making all these decisions with the baby cause
lately when ever I say my opinion she gets upset and says "why don't you just
say I am a bad mother" when this is not what I feel. I feel she is a teenager
and her judgement is off when it comes to certain issues. This is getting
harder now.

Kate wrote;
From the generational point of view, teen parenting may run in families
as if what's OK for the mother is OK for the daughter. I'm not sure
that's the answer but I know there's ongoing research.

Bev wrote:
Oh I am sure as well there is indeed ongoing research on this one. I think it
depends on the family. For instance my sister was a teen mother and her
daughter became a teen mother, so there you have it right there but that is
where this starts in our family. My mother was not and her mother was not a
pregnant teen.I'd have to ask my neice who is 22 now with 2 children if this
was the impression she grew up with "Mom was so why not me ?"

Kate wrote:
I also know of
one woman who was a teen mother who had three girls by two fathers,
neither father remained involved; two of the girls became teen mothers.
I lost track of the family though so I don't know the outcome of the
third daughter. I wonder if she was able to resist the trend.

Bev wrote:
It would be interesting and again I am still thinking that with abortion and
adoption of these babies conceived by teens included, the statistics are
probably extremely high in the numbers and that teen pregnancy is not
statistically higher because it "runs in the family" all types of backgrounds
are involved here.Teens make bad choices sometimes and the results of those
choices are biting us in the ass. Heh.

Kate wrote:
What's interesting, to me, are the questions, "Does teen motherhood make
it more likely that children will become teen mothers?" and

Bev wrote:
In my opinion no, again I feel it is situational.Girls and boys (teens) are
having sex( heck some not even teens!) and not heeding the warnings or
involving themselves in drugs and or alcohol which diminishes their judgments
and moral values taught or are running from some bad situation from home and
they are getting pregnant . I can tell you here in P.A. the number of kids
pregnant is unbelievable. Drug use is horrendous, drinking as well by these
kids . I'm sure this is everywhere. It is very scary.

Kate wrote:
"Do second
generation teen mothers fare better or worse than first generation teen
mothers?" In the latter question, if second generation teen mothers do
better, is it because of the support of the mother or because they've
learned that lifestyle?

Bev wrote:
In any situation being supported is going to make a stronger person/outcome in
whatever the challenge don't you think?
Or is it just simply that they are good mothers because they were supported by
a loving parent or parents, that cared enough to understand they made a mistake
, and see them through it? I don't think it is a learned "lifestyle" I know
you like to evaluate these things, you run very deep and I enjoy your thoughts.
I hope my own thoughts on this subject are understood.
Bev


'Kate


just wondering?
Bev




'Kate