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Old March 9th 08, 05:06 PM posted to misc.kids
Banty
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Default teenager breaking curfew

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Tony says...

On Mar 9, 11:34 am, Banty wrote:
In article ,
Tony says...



G'morning.

I just joined this group looking for some advice. My ex-wife & I have
joint custody of my teenage daughter who just turned 18 this past
week. Sometime last fall, she broke curfew at my place & I punished
her accordingly. Now she's broken curfew at her mom's. My ex-wife
wants to punish my daughter & wishes that I 'match' the same
punishment at my place. Basically, to be on the same page. I disagree.
I don't have as many problems with my daughter as does my ex-wife.

Advice?

She's 18 - enough with the curfew.

Banty


Ok, I get it. No curfew for an 18 yrs old. Thank you.

What about honoring rules in both homes? I have my own set of rules
as does my ex. I don't think I should punish her for something she did
at her mom's/ Let her deal with it.


You want a validation of your argument with your wife - gee I don't know. What
*was* your arrangement as far as handling these things?

I'm afraid you're going to see more 'big picture' responses here - you're not
likely to get a stranger to limit themselves to decide if he or she is going to
pony up for your side, or your ex's side, of your current little squabble. If
you look at the implied conclusion of what has already been unanimously said - I
guess your answer is "you're right". But for a different reason - not because
particulars of what's going on between you and your ex on this squabble, but
because of the relationship that you should not be building with your *now adult
daughter*.


That's a finger fumble I must correct:

Your focus should be on the relationship you should *now* (correcting my 'not')
be building with your now adult daughter.

Banty

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