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On May 20, 5:44 pm, Banty wrote:
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I did a quick search here and didn't see anything about how children
can deal with adult bullies. By that, I mean familiar adults who
engage in emotional cruelty, humiliation, or even subtler tactics,
such as manipulation, of kids. Nothing physical or illegal. Of course,
kids can threaten to tell the parents, but adults may have ways around
that. Not to mention that kids may not always know when they're being
manipulated. Any stories to tell? (There's amazingly little to be
found in Google under several different searches I tried, aside from
the debate over corporal punishment in schools.) Just wondering,
especially since Dr. Rosemond, especially, never seems to discuss
this!

Lenona.

Why would I want to discuss that with a childfree regular?

Banty


So, don't. Just get the subject started, in another thread if you
will. Seems to me it's pretty important.

SOMEONE had to bring up the subject first. I remember when Cathy Young
wrote the book "Ceasefire!" (about the battle of the sexes) and some
men complained angrily in "Reason" magazine (which she writes for)
that a woman shouldn't be the one picked to write about men's rights
in that magazine, even favorably. She responded that no man had
volunteered. (Of course, aside from the magazine, there are plenty of
recent BOOKS on the subject.)

Oh phooey - how disingenous of you to bring up that as an example.

We have had perfectly good, constructive contributors here who don't have kids -
it's not at all about that. You're not someone who just appeared out of the
woodwork to take up some cause. You have a posting history on Usenet. It's not
one that's in any way sympathetic to kids or parents.


Anyway, as I said, Rosemond is more than a bit chicken on this
subject. While I don't remember his ever saying "the adult is always
right," it's very seldom he even says things like the following: "I
will not take my child's side in a dispute with the teacher, even if I
think the teacher's being slightly unfair. If I think she's being very
unfair, I'll ask someone else's opinion before talking with her."
Since this is so rare for him to say, it leads to grim
misunderstandings like this:

Rosemond, Schmosemond. You consistently bring up the name of your favorite
child rearing expert - the one that comes closest to a seen-but-not-heard
philosophy, at any opportunity you can find. In this particular case, given no
recent real fodder, you bring up some subject he *hasn't* talked about, just to
drop that name again.

Your schtick is pretty obvious and transparent.

Banty