xkatx wrote:

Since this was mentioned, and we're in a similar situation of our children
not being allowed to attend my cousin's wedding (yet the bride's families
that include children will be there) what would be an appropriate reply?
Our replies are done via email or phone. We're obviously expected to be
there, but we're not sure if we'll be able to make it, as since our kids
aren't welcome, it's all now depending on if MIL can watch the kids that
day, and she won't know until about 2 weeks before as she does school bus
charters over the summer and won't know if she has a charter to do or not
until closer to the date.
Is there any point in replying in advance with a maybe and explaining that
it depends on if we have childcare or not?

Hmmm. Trouble is, they'll need to let the caterers know the numbers.
Having said that, I would have thought two weeks should be enough.

You could always explain the situation and ask them how much notice they
need. If they need more than two weeks, then you could regretfully
decline on the grounds of being unable to give a definite yes and not
wanting to mess them around with a maybe.


All the best,

Sarah
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