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I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the
father
having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of
Georgia.
The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any
relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very
traumatic
for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never
seen
him.
Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's
approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an
year,
can
this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason
enough
for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do
no
want
to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name
change.
Thanks in advance.
Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit
because they feel that they themselves are the enemy.
Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them
on
a
child?
I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be
that they are
treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by
the mothers
making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen
thing to do is
not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay.
There's nothing gentlemanly about walking away from your children.
Tell that to the fathers who weren't gentlemen and now have restraining
orders. And btw, what does being an occasional visitor have to do with
being a father?
Gosh, Cas, what's the matter with you? A GENTLEMAN visits his child "when
ordered" (by the court or by mommy.) Visiting the child has NOTHING to
do
with being a father. PAYING CHILD SUPPORT is what makes a man a father.
Don't you know that?
It's all about women wanting to control men's behavior - One father is a bad
father because he visits the child but doesn't pay CS. The next father is
a bad father because he pays but doesn't visit the child. Some fathers are
considered bad fathers regardless of what they do. Why do some women feel
so qualified to define what good fathering means?
The OP has her own issues and I'm somewhat surprised no one has confronted
her yet. Why is she so concerned about the child's last name when she is
the one who provided the input for the name on the child's birth
certificate? Does she have a different last name from the child? Was she
ever married to the child's father and changed her name, or was she just
another "single mother" who never bothered to marry the child's father? Is
she trying to avoid her own past and why?