"bizby40" wrote in message
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Also, you mention that he's whinier with your wife than with you.
That too is very common. Children are very often at their worst
with their primary caregiver. Not necessarily because she is too
lax with him, but simply because he is most comfortable with her.
He trusts her enough to fall apart in front of her. Strange, but true.

I wanted to second this (and third and fourth it, too). All three of my
children are much better behaved and whine/cry less when they are with my
husband than when they are with me alone or with both of us. I firmly
believe that this is because my husband is the "novel" parent because he's
at work much of the time, and therefore, the kids value their time with him
more and don't want to "mess it up" by having him upset with them or by
getting into trouble with him. By comparison, I am home most of the time and
*my* being upset with them or them being in trouble with me is old hat.

I know that my husband often thinks I'm lax when it comes to disciplining
them because of the difference in the way they behave when I'm around and
when I'm not. But the truth is, I enforce the boundaries and limits
*waaaaay* more than my husband does because I am around *waaaaay* more than
he is; it's just that he isn't here to see me do it because, well, he isn't
here!
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Be well, Barbara
Mom to Mr. Congeniality (7), the Diva (5) and the Race Car Fanatic (3)

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