I liked feeding them at the same time, and I think it's a good thing to
TRY, to see if it works for you, but it's certainly possible to do it
otherwise. There are plenty of mothers/babies who don't like
simultaneous feeds who manage fine on separate ones. There is a big
difference between "This worked really, really well for me, so it's
worth a try" and "You just HAVE to do it the way that was so successful
for me," don'tcha know.

I think I've also heard of folks who had simultaneous feeds at some
times of the day and not others.

One mistake we definitely made (I think, can't go back and try it the
other way to prove my point!) was going on waking one when the other
woke at night when it was *consistently* the same one sleeping longer,
and she was getting harder and harder to wake. We should have taken
that as a sign that she was ready to sleep through. But that was later,
maybe four months. We were just terrified of playing tag team feedings
all night long, and having once achieved a night routine of one middle
of the night feed and one early morning feed, didn't want to mess with
that.

As for getting a routine going, I found a good first step was to do
more or less the same things in the same order every day, like taking a
walk at roughly the same time each morning. This was a big help for
*me* even more than the babies, because I didn't have to think too much
once I got the routine settled. I didn't have other children at the
same time, though.

--Helen