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"Sarah Gray" wrote in message
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He is angry because I cheated on him, so his mindset is that
*everything* I say and do is wrong.
Betrayal is a strong motivator for denying you any assistance of
any
kind in his eyes!

He's never going to give you a dime, I would plan on going it
alone
from here out!

The thing is, it's for *his daughter*, not for me. And frankly, I
am
not willing to fight this in court past the motion I filed to
increase
support. If he really does quit his job to haul me into court
over
and
over, that's his problem- he'll just be accruing arrearages.
Well, it is very sad that you cheated on him. Were you married or
just
in a relationship? It would be a very hurtful thing to work
through.
It would be nice if he could look past the hurt and see his
daughter.


We were married. I'll admit, I was a pretty crummy wife in many
respects. That has nothing to do with how well of a job I do
raising
our
daughter. The only reason I *didn't* file for divorce once I
realized
things were not working out at all, was because of our daughter.

Again, it is very hard to look past hurt. Hurt tends to obscure
just
about everthing else. You say you only need $250 per month to make
it
financially--the court will probably order much more than that. If
you
really want to keep things cooperative for your daughter's sake, you
could send back the monies over and above the $250 per month. Just
because the court orders it doesn't mean you have to keep it.

I see your point, but why should I be cooperative when he refuses to
agree
to the $250 in the first place? I think the money would be better
spent
in
a college savings fund for my daughter, but I'm sure you think that
that
would be stealing money from him or something.

Well, if you tell him that the money is going into a college fund, and
you
keep him apprised as to how much he is contributing to the fund, he may
not
be as upset. But let's just hope that he is reasonable, and agrees to
the
$250.

She controls her money, she controls the child, she controls HIS money,
and
he's supposed to be reasonable by by giving her free cash? With all due
respect, what the heck is WRONG with you?

Where, pray tell, is she controlling his money?

Technical control, right now. But give it time, and it will become literal
control; albeit via third party, but nonetheless control.

What the heck is wrong with
you?

Being that I consistently address the facts, I would say not a whole lot.




If he is lurking here, he will have begun to understand how unfair
courts can be to NCPs.

Code for "fathers".

Most often, yes.