Andrew wrote in message
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Just a bitter rant. Tonight I went on a binge (solo) as tomorrow my
daughter
is due back with her mother and I am just hoping and praying she comes
back
from Sweden. I think she will but I don't know. The bitter rant part is
that
people left because it was too hard the life we had and to try to let
people
relax the year someone left they had one holiday in St Lucia, three
holidays
in Zambia where they eventually settled and numerous nights out with old
school friends suddenly discovered from back in 79 all in the one year.
Also
they only worked part time to make life easier. Muggins just worked,
looked
after kid and hoped other party would be able to relax after all the work
they had put in looking after the house etc and had no holidays.

sorry guys and I fully expect to be flamed. I am bitter. Right now I am
bloody bitter. (also a bit drunk) I think I gave everything. For three
years
I took no break no holiday no weekend etc and now for the past year I have
the same but I am also mummy, daddy, breadwinner, there are no weekend
breaks due to the country boundaries I am doing it 24/7 365 but it was
'hard' for other people???? I really thought I was doing the best for my
family. In hindsight I probably should have stepped back and looked at
human
issues but you want to give everything you can and the best you can etc
etc
etc. If you want me to slow down then tell me FFS! I am not a mind reader!
I
now do the dad, the mum, the work,the kids play, I attend every
performance
of every school play she is in, I pay the school fees, the housing costs,
I
talk to the teachers when I think there are issues, do the cooking, pick
up,
transport, minding and I don't ask a thing from anyone. I am human too,
its
tough.I could use help. This Xmas only two people remembered me and sent
me
cards, my mother and my accountant. I gotta tell you it hurts. when you
marry you lose the single friends, when you get a kid you tend to lose the
ones without, when you split you are just a pariah. well, stuff the lot of
you world. when i get back on top ....

that boot you see in your face is gonna be mine!!!



I want to offer you some kind words but first I have no idea what you are
talking about in your first paragraph. Nothing like posting while
intoxicated. I have long learned not to email or post. Of course I have
not had a drink in months so that is easy.

I think it is harder for parents who use to be with the partner and then the
other leaves. I have always been a single parent so I know no different.
Vent and get it out of your system. Don't worry about everyone else in the
world, the only ones that should matter in your world is you and your kid.
The only people that matter in my world is me and my kid. Call it
selfish...... hell, maybe it is.

Mostly though Andrew..... you are tough and kind. Don't get are stressed out
thinking you have to be the perfect parent to make up for the absent parent.
It just isn't going to happen. You can't me MOM and DAD. You are Dad. If you
could use help..... have you asked for it?

Tiff