If you were getting by just fine, he's an ok guy, and he was seeing his
kid, then why did you have to stir up the pot? I sincerely hope you're
working.

You mentioned that the CS amount wasn't huge. Maybe in his eyes it was
a huge amount. If he was always 3 months behind, that must indicate
that he couldn't handle that amount. Why didn't you just talk to him
and try to come to some agreement instead of sicking the wolves on him?


Just Me wrote:
FYI I'm posting this to the divorce group as well.

My ex and I have been divorced for a year, separated for a year before
that. We have a 2 1/2 year old son who I have primary custody of with my
ex having visitation every other weekend.

My ex has done well with the visitations, he has only missed a few in
the last year. Child support on the other hand has been a huge
mess...he's usually 3 months behind. Currently he hasn't paid anything
since May so I contacted Child Support Recovery Unit. He had been
allowed to just pay on his own and send the checks to the clerk of
courts but obviously that wasn't working. I finally have everything set
up and CSR was going to start taking money out of his pay checks *this
week*.

Well now for the last week and a half I haven't been able to reach him
by phone. (He lives 2 hours away) I found out yesterday though that he
has quit his job and left for Florida...we are in the midwest. I called
his dad whom I'm still close to and he had no idea that my ex had left
for Florida. After his dad made some phone calls it appears no one in
his family knew that he was leaving. His dad is livid and to say the
least, so am I.

My question is now what do I do? I have a child here who misses his dad
and can't understand why he can't talk to him on the phone. I feel like
he's running because of the child support and I don't know what to do
about that. Any thoughts?

TIA