(Hillary Israeli) wrote in
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Ali's Daddie wrote:

*Anyway... apart from going out of town with Alegra that weekend
myself and *avoiding her altogether, do any of you have suggestions on
what to do? *
*Jarrod and I have already decided that our daughter will not be left
in the *same room with my mom or step dad unless one of us is with
them...

I think you just gave yourself the solution - don't leave mom and
Alegra alone. When you see mom approaching with food, issue a reminder
- "mom, the doctor said Alegra isn't old enough for that yet." If she
insists, pick up Alegra and leave the room. Tell mom you'll come back
when she puts the french fry down!
um... is Mom really likely to be carrying cold ucky french fries in her
purse or something? if you don't have food out, she can't give anything
to Ali, right? you *should* point out that at Ali's age solids could very
well present a choking hazard though.
basicly, it sounds like Mom knows very well how to yank your chain.
maybe if you really try you can stop giving her the reaction she desires.
think of her as a USENET troll. ignore or hug, but *don't* even think of
reacting. that gives her exactly what she wants.
lee
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It is paradoxical that many educators and parents still differentiate
between a time for learning and a time for play without seeing the vital
connection between them. -Leo Buscaglia, author (1924-1998)