"dmr" wrote in message
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On May 14, 10:02 am, "teachrmama" wrote:
"dmr" wrote in message

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I don't know how it works in the US, but here in Canada (Quebec to be
more specific) some parents had found a way to save money on child
support that I believe is unfair for the children.

This is a true story:

A man separated from his wife. They have 2 young children of 8 and 4
yrs old. The guy is General Manager at a Sherwin-Williams chemical
coatings store and makes a pretty good salary.
He has little time to spend with the children but giving full custody
to the mother means he will have to pay full child support (Something
like $1200.00 USD per month). So, his new girlfriend who's also
separated and has shared custody, give him the idea:

- Apply for shared custody and convince your ex-wife that it's the
best things for the kids. Don't worries, if you don't have time to
take care of them just leave them with me.

The man managed to get the shared custody, and so reduce considerably
the amount of child support he was going to pay to the mother.

Find the error!

I'm not certain I understand your objection. The children spend equal
amounts of time in each of their parents' homes. Both parents work to
support their children, right? Both parents provide fortheir needs
while
the children are with them, right? And I bet the father still has to
pay
*some* amount of child support, right? BTW--how do you know the father
did
this *just* to save money? Did he tell you so?



I have nothing to do with that guy, his ex or his actual girlfriend.

Now let me understand. Let's say you were that guy: You would be ready
to keep your kids away from their mother simply not to pay full child
support? Do you care about how the child feels about that?

Those types of questions are based on the false assumption parenting time
and money can somehow be viewed as equalizers. CS money is for providing
the care and maintenance of minor children. Parenting time is used for
developing social skills, stretching individual limits, becoming
self-confident, learning teamwork, encouraging academic achievement, etc.

Quite frankly, children learn those lifestyle skills from their fathers so
the more time they spend with their fathers the better. If a father pays a
little less CS because he has increased parenting time that is a good thing
because of what the children receive form the time with their fathers. CS
calculations are based on one parent having the children 100% of the time.
When the other parent has more time with the children it is only reasonable
that the CS amount be adjusted.