On Mar 9, 4:20�pm, Banty wrote:
In article ,
Chris says...



Maybe your ex is in the
"know" on a few fronts that dad's don't always get to know - ya know,
the daddy's little girl scenario.

As childish as this possibility is, it is common.....you may not also
be "in the know" on some fronts because your ex may view her sharing
the "issue" with you may represent a failure on her part as a parent
to her in what she perceives you would think.

Or she could be either hanging on to her growing up girl unable to let go, or
she may be overly controlling. �Or not.

I wouldn't think he doesn't know his daughter because he's the father. �C'mon
:-/

I just don't think we know what the story is; we'd at best get one side anyway.

Except that, unless there is something out of the ordinary going on, the whole
sitaution needs to proceed to a new set of relationships now, or soon, anyway.

Banty

Banty, I totally agree with all that you are saying here. I guess I
just don't feel the need to pick apart others' posts. I mean, if I am
relaying information on what I have witnessed based on certain
relationship styles, then so be it; it definitely doesn't mean I
intended to cover every single possible scenario that exists, as there
are many, and it definitely doesn't mean I claim to be an expert on
any of the possibilities.

I offered the OP food for thought outside of the battle/difference of
opinions that may exist. People generally aren't mean just to be so
and everyone has their reasons, so trying to get to the bottom of what
those are, is important, regardless of what those reasons turn out to
be. I don't' automatically see "drama," or "conflict" when I see the
word "ex" either. I tend to try to first find the good in everyone.

Maybe they get along wonderfully, with only a disagreement on this
issue, and maybe not, but that could equate to the mother believing
that finding out a few things about their child that she knows and he
doesn't would darned near do him in and she doesn't have the heart to
diminish the angelic perception dad has of his daughter or what she
believes may tarnish their relationship as a result for a period of
time (a lot of dads do have a problem discovering certain things about
their daughters [and not their sons]) - there are many different
reasons they can differ on their approach, unfortunately.

I know my mother didn't tell my dad a few things, and I know the
reasons why - can't say I agree with them, but I can see why, so my
words are meant to be possible eye openers as to other reasons why
what is occurring even is, not to imply that the man doesn't know his
daughter at all. I would appreciate it if they could be left out there
for someone to ponder instead of being picked apart, i.e. is that a
remote possibility? Sure it is, so what's the big deal about
mentioning it?