depends on the couple in the end, my parents hadn't had any children at
their wedding and didn't want any to be at ours, when I explained I had
friends who had children who I would be inviting, we came to the decision
that we would not put the child's name on the invite and then let them make
there own decisions, in the end both came to the reception and it was
absolutely fine, but both had asked us beforehand, it would be off to take a
child without letting people know.

On the other hand, since then, when we've been invited to weddings we've
been really touched that our children's names have been on the invites.

My only suggestion is to talk to the couple, explain that you would not be
able to come if you couldn't bring the baby and that you would not let the
baby be noisy and disturb anything (sometimes one bad experience of a baby
or child disturbing procedings can make people think all parents are like
that), if they still don't want you there, then are these people really your
friends? if they can't listen and understand that a breastfed baby has to be
with it's mum....


.....another nice thing we've experienced when travelling to further afield
wedding is that the couple has requested that we don't buy them a gift, that
was very helpful as the most recent wedding we went to involved a flight, a
hotel stay and a hire car!

Anne