On Mar 12, 9:55 am, wrote:
As a mom to two kids (3.5 & 5yo) I empathize. My kids have never slept
through the night and I've given up. They go to bed at 8pm
consistently and fall asleep on their own. They come to our bed any
time after 2am (time varies) and sleep there until it's morning. I've
learnt to cherish the cuddles because I know pretty soon they will
pretend not to recognize me in public

I told myself that for 20 months, but it's no longer flying.

As long as you are getting adequate sleep and you're okay with it, let
her come to your bed when she wakes up in the middle of the night.
Instead of you going to her, teach her to come to you.

That's the problem. We're not getting adequate sleep and we're not ok
with it, which is why I asked for some help. I can live on little,
but almost 2 years of 4-6 hours per night is getting to be a problem.
My husband can't manage on less than 6. We can't function during the
day. I also don't think DD is getting enough sleep, because she's so
cranky at night and clearly tired but won't sleep.

She doesn't need to 'come to us' as 90% of the time she's already in
our bed. Otherwise she's in a crib. She does know how to crawl off a
bed when she's awake, but asleep she moves around so much I don't
trust her in a bed by herself, so she's either with us or in the crib.