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Wiggle worm!! and etc
Rachel has turned into a really major wiggle worm. Diaper changes and baths,
and when she has her height measured are getting to be a struggle.......she sleeps like a log though, and sleeps through the night except sometimes wakes up once between 1:30a-3:30am for a feeding and changing. She may possibly actually be awake at other times but those are times I can just roll over and nurse her without waking up fully, getting up and changing her etc...... But whoa, she arches her back and neck and it gets harder to hold or pick her up sometimes. Today during tummy time I was playing with her- she loooooves to gaze at her toys and tries to reach for them!- she lifted her head all the way up for a long time- I was amazed. But then she had to put it back down after looking all around with it held up, because it became too heavy for her, lol. Diaper changes are the worst.......she keeps her legs rigid and tightly bent at the knees. I have a hard time getting the diaper on well enough so that it won't leak around the legs unless I can get her legs out straight long enough to secure the diaper. We've had several diaper blow outs! And when anyone else changes her- my mom, my husband.......it ALWAYS, 100% of the time is a blow out because they won't listen to me- they say you don't have to have the diaper secure, it won't leak. Every single time, blow out. When my mom babysits her alone for just 4 hours, I get aggravated because it always means she will go through about 4 outfits, because she doesn't diaper her right and she blows out/pees out! So annoying. Also my mom insists you don't have to change the diaper at every output- this also contributes to blowouts and I worry aboyut diaper rash, because Rachel doesn't have that problem with me....I also don't have to put an outfit on her every hour because of blow outs from improperly done diapers. It makes me want to scream, so that I don't even want anyone else to watch her! (mym mom just doesn't cooperate with my suggestions, and also she tends to not clean her u p as well, and also- she leaves pooey diaper wipes laying around the house instead of throwing them away- I have picked several up off the carpet and changing table, yuck!.....also, she will wipe poo with a cloth diaper or washcoth, and fold it back up where you can't see the poo, and leave that folded up and lying on the changing table or the crib.......so, I have left Rachel with ehr twice and have come home to a house out of order with little things like that and it drives me nuts......nuts!! I am very glad I finished errands and don't need to leave Rachel any more. It just drives me nuts when someone else does things so the opposite of what i think is reasonable or best! I do not know why my mom doesn't seem to diaper her right.....and she just doesn't listen, and she does WEIRD things. She LOST Rachel's car seat- she moved her into the house in it when we returned home form the dr that she went with me to, and I left to finish an errand and when I got home, my mom asked me "Did you put the car seat back in the car? I was looking for her pacifier and I know it's in the car seat, and the car seat is not here. " !!?? I was getting upset because I went all through the hosue 3 times before I foudn where SHE had stashed the car seat, all the while she was insisting I MUST have put it in the car. sigh..........and she told me that since she couldn't find the pacifier, she used a nipple off of a bottle. No, no no! That was so wrong....IMO. Also- I have to really watch her- I always have to check Rachel in the car seat myself when we go out anyhwree together when mom is "helping", because she has been shown at leat 6 times how to buckle Rachel into the car seat, and insists on doing it herself...I asked her if Rachel was in properly etc, and she said "Yes. Let's go"..I said "Are you sure?" "Yes, she is! "...and then I check, and she didn't even have it buckled!!!! And then said it wouldn't matter. My gosh, first of all safety, not to mention the massive (and deserved!) traffic ticket if someone didn't have a child properly restrained. It doesn't matter????? My mom really has been worrying me. She's only watched her a couple times but each time, there is a list f stuff wrong. And she also does unexplainable things.....she reversed the way I had the crib set up, moved the mobile to the opposite side and re-screwed it on, when I just stepped out for an hour, and rearranged some other nursery things. That blew my mind, because I wasn't out long, and a lot was moved...and when Rachel has all those grandma-diaper blowouts and her clothes gets changed, my mom always puts her in things other than onsies, in the nicer clothes that I really don't generally use on an average day just to lie around the house. I don't know...............this all makes me feel so anal and nitpicky but I now HATE trying to leave Rachel with my mom, and don't want to do it anymore, because I can't relax and enjoy a couple hours out, knowing that my mom does stuff like this. But because of the car seat thing I know I will NEVER ever feel ok EVER, about the grandparents keeping her and ever even so much as taking her down the street to the store....it annoys me to not be able to be trustful of Rachel with grandma. I am still boggling that she used a nipple as a pacifier!! I would say she should ahve just used her finger but I have watched her do several poo diaper changes where she doesn't wash her hands afterward. sigh.........the other grandma is going to be just as annoying I fear, in other ways, because DH told me that she has been mentioning to his dad that she is concerned and wonders if we should be allowing the pediatrician to do Rachel's shots the way they do them now. Um...........?! eh, what?? What does she think, that its not safe to vaccinate her ? The grandmas are just boggling my mind. However they used to do vaccines, we see EXCELLENT pediatricians, and I leave her shots to them. sheesh.... etc. |
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Jill,
I think this is one of those times where you have to pick your battles -- forget about the bottle nipple as pacifier -- it probably worked out okay, and isn't going to have any major long term repercussions. BUT, the car seat buckling is huge, and the poopy wipes/diapers issue is more than annoying, it's a cleanliness issue. Rearranging the furniture and putting Rachel in "nice" clothes instead of onesies is also just annoying, but not going to potential harm her in any way. Is this type of behavior out of context for your mom? Is it new, or is the typical of what you've been dealing with your whole life? If this is new, you might want to get her checked out by her doctor -- it sounds like she might have something going on, mentally. If this is par for the course, you're going to have to lay down the law with her -- she needs to do specific things your way, or risk not being able to have any alone time with Rachel, and at worst, having no contact with either of you at all. Period. I'd stick with the car seat buckling as the first and foremost issue, and then try to deal with the poopy wipes/cloth diapers issue, but don't even bring up the nipple or clothes or rearranging stuff issues. Stick to the really important issues. If she can't get those right, you're going to have to severely limit her contact with Rachel. Rachel's safety is far more important than her feelings. Hugs. -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Check out Taylor Marlys -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password Check out our Adoption Page at http://home.earthlink.net/~jamielee6 |
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Jill wrote in message . com... Rachel has turned into a really major wiggle worm. Diaper changes and baths, and when she has her height measured are getting to be a struggle.......she sleeps like a log though, and sleeps through the night except sometimes wakes up once between 1:30a-3:30am for a feeding and changing. She may possibly actually be awake at other times but those are times I can just roll over and nurse her without waking up fully, getting up and changing her etc...... #2 likes to try and stand up while I'm nursing at the moment!! When my mom babysits her alone for just 4 hours, I get aggravated because it always means she will go through about 4 outfits, because she doesn't diaper her right and she blows out/pees out! So annoying. Also my mom insists you don't have to change the diaper at every output- this also contributes to blowouts and I worry aboyut diaper rash, because Rachel doesn't have that problem with me.... I wouldn't worry too much about nappy rash. I've not found a problem with either my 2 and they've both sensitive skin. I also don't have to put an outfit on her every hour because of blow outs from improperly done diapers. It makes me want to scream, so that I don't even want anyone else to watch her! (mym mom just doesn't cooperate with my suggestions, and also she tends to not clean her u p as well, and also- she leaves pooey diaper wipes laying around the house instead of throwing them away- I have picked several up off the carpet and changing table, yuck!. Put a bin (lined with a plastic bag) next to the change mat. .....also, she will wipe poo with a cloth diaper or washcoth, and fold it back up where you can't see the poo, and leave that folded up and lying on the changing table or the crib...... Yeuch :-( ..so, I have left Rachel with ehr twice and have come home to a house out of order with little things like that and it drives me nuts......nuts!! I am very glad I finished ...........and she told me that since she couldn't find the pacifier, she used a nipple off of a bottle. No, no no! That was so wrong....IMO. Also- I have to really watch her- I always have to check Rachel in the car seat myself when we go out anyhwree together when mom is "helping", because she has been shown at leat 6 times how to buckle Rachel into the car seat, and insists on doing it herself...I asked her if Rachel was in properly etc, and she said "Yes. Let's go"..I said "Are you sure?" "Yes, she is! "...and then I check, and she didn't even have it buckled!!!! And then said it wouldn't matter. My gosh, first of all safety, That would drive me nuts. My mil says things like "well we didn't have them". Which is stupid. not to mention the massive (and deserved!) traffic ticket if someone didn't have a child properly restrained. It doesn't matter????? My mom really has been worrying me. She's only watched her a couple times but each time, there is a list f stuff wrong. And she also does unexplainable things.....she reversed the way I had the crib set up, moved the mobile to the opposite side and re-screwed it on, when I just stepped out for an hour, and rearranged some other nursery things. That blew my mind, because I wasn't out long, and a lot was moved... Sounds like she's trying to take control there! and when Rachel has all those grandma-diaper blowouts and her clothes gets changed, my mom always puts her in things other than onsies, in the nicer clothes that I really don't generally use on an average day just to lie around the house. I'd suspect she's being a proud grandma and quite likes to dress her in the nice outfits and admire. She probably hopes for an excuse to change her. Maybe that explains her putting the nappy on badly? I don't know...............this all makes me feel so anal and nitpicky but I now HATE trying to leave Rachel with my mom, and don't want to do it anymore, because I can't relax and enjoy a couple hours out, knowing that my mom does stuff like this. But because of the car seat thing I know I will NEVER ever feel ok EVER, about the grandparents keeping her and ever even so much as taking her down the street to the store....it annoys me to not be able to be trustful of Rachel with grandma. I am still boggling that she used a nipple as a pacifier!! I would say she should ahve just used her finger but I have watched her do several poo diaper changes where she doesn't wash her hands afterward. sigh.........the other grandma is going to be just as annoying I fear, in other ways, because DH told me that she has been mentioning to his dad that she is concerned and wonders if we should be allowing the pediatrician to do Rachel's shots the way they do them now. Um...........?! eh, what?? What does she think, that its not safe to vaccinate her ? The grandmas are just boggling my mind. However they used to do vaccines, we see EXCELLENT pediatricians, and I leave her shots to them. sheesh.... I didn't leave #1 for about 9 months for more than a short time. I think you're brave leaving her already. I'm happy with my mum as I know she's as fussy as me on safety, and worse on hygene. I feel a lot less happy with mil as we differ on quite a lot, but I think that's fairly usual. Ask your mil whether she'll do the next set of shots the "right" way as the pediatrician obviously isn't as knowledgeable as her ;-P As they get older you do feel happier, but even with my 3yr old I worry when she's out with mil. At least she'll tell me what happened and I can respond. Debbie |
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"Welches" wrote I'd suspect she's being a proud grandma and quite likes to dress her in the nice outfits and admire. She probably hopes for an excuse to change her. Maybe that explains her putting the nappy on badly? Lol-- I'd really rather she just change her clothes then, no blowout psychology necessary. I do like seeing her in the dressier clothes, just hate washing them...the good news is that she'll outgrow anything long before it wears out or gets too stained. That's also sad news, they grow so fast For right now Rachel's size 0-3 month stuff swims on her. I don't know...............this all makes me feel so anal and nitpicky but I now HATE trying to leave Rachel with my mom, and don't want to do it anymore, because I can't relax and enjoy a couple hours out, knowing that my mom does stuff like this. But because of the car seat thing I know I will NEVER ever feel ok EVER, about the grandparents keeping her and ever even so much as taking her down the street to the store....it annoys me to not be able to be trustful of Rachel with grandma. I am still boggling that she used a nipple as a pacifier!! I would say she should ahve just used her finger but I have watched her do several poo diaper changes where she doesn't wash her hands afterward. sigh.........the other grandma is going to be just as annoying I fear, in other ways, because DH told me that she has been mentioning to his dad that she is concerned and wonders if we should be allowing the pediatrician to do Rachel's shots the way they do them now. Um...........?! eh, what?? What does she think, that its not safe to vaccinate her ? The grandmas are just boggling my mind. However they used to do vaccines, we see EXCELLENT pediatricians, and I leave her shots to them. sheesh.... I didn't leave #1 for about 9 months for more than a short time. I think you're brave leaving her already. I'm happy with my mum as I know she's as fussy as me on safety, and worse on hygene. I feel a lot less happy with mil as we differ on quite a lot, but I think that's fairly usual. Ask your mil whether she'll do the next set of shots the "right" way as the pediatrician obviously isn't as knowledgeable as her ;-P As they get older you do feel happier, but even with my 3yr old I worry when she's out with mil. At least she'll tell me what happened and I can respond. Debbie |
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When my mom babysits her alone for just 4 hours, I get aggravated because
it always means she will go through about 4 outfits, because she doesn't diaper her right and she blows out/pees out! So annoying. Yes, but at least she does change her AND at least you HAVE clothes for her. Also my mom insists you don't have to change the diaper at every output- this also contributes to blowouts and I worry aboyut diaper rash, because Rachel doesn't have that problem with me....I also don't have to put an outfit on her every hour because of blow outs from improperly done diapers. It makes me want to scream, so that I don't even want anyone else to watch her! (mym mom just doesn't cooperate with my suggestions, and also she tends to not clean her u p as well, and also- she leaves pooey diaper wipes laying around the house instead of throwing them away- I have picked several up off the carpet and changing table, yuck!.....also, she will wipe poo with a cloth diaper or washcoth, and fold it back up where you can't see the poo, and leave that folded up and lying on the changing table or the crib.......so, I have left Rachel with ehr twice and have come home to a house out of order with little things like that and it drives me nuts......nuts!! I am very glad I finished errands and don't need to leave Rachel any more. It just drives me nuts when someone else does things so the opposite of what i think is reasonable or best! I do not know why my mom doesn't seem to diaper her right.....and she just doesn't listen, and she does WEIRD things. She LOST Rachel's car seat- she moved her into the house in it when we returned home form the dr that she went with me to, and I left to finish an errand and when I got home, my mom asked me "Did you put the car seat back in the car? I was looking for her pacifier and I know it's in the car seat, and the car seat is not here. " !!?? I was getting upset because I went all through the hosue 3 times before I foudn where SHE had stashed the car seat, all the while she was insisting I MUST have put it in the car. sigh..........and she told me that since she couldn't find the pacifier, she used a nipple off of a bottle. No, no no! That was so wrong....IMO. Also- I have to really watch her- I always have to check Rachel in the car seat myself when we go out anyhwree together when mom is "helping", because she has been shown at leat 6 times how to buckle Rachel into the car seat, and insists on doing it herself...I asked her if Rachel was in properly etc, and she said "Yes. Let's go"..I said "Are you sure?" "Yes, she is! "...and then I check, and she didn't even have it buckled!!!! And then said it wouldn't matter. My gosh, first of all safety, not to mention the massive (and deserved!) traffic ticket if someone didn't have a child properly restrained. It doesn't matter????? My mom really has been worrying me. She's only watched her a couple times but each time, there is a list f stuff wrong. And she also does unexplainable things.....she reversed the way I had the crib set up, moved the mobile to the opposite side and re-screwed it on, when I just stepped out for an hour, and rearranged some other nursery things. That blew my mind, because I wasn't out long, and a lot was moved...and when Rachel has all those grandma-diaper blowouts and her clothes gets changed, my mom always puts her in things other than onsies, in the nicer clothes that I really don't generally use on an average day just to lie around the house. I don't know...............this all makes me feel so anal and nitpicky but I now HATE trying to leave Rachel with my mom, and don't want to do it anymore, because I can't relax and enjoy a couple hours out, knowing that my mom does stuff like this. But because of the car seat thing I know I will NEVER ever feel ok EVER, about the grandparents keeping her and ever even so much as taking her down the street to the store....it annoys me to not be able to be trustful of Rachel with grandma. I am still boggling that she used a nipple as a pacifier!! I would say she should ahve just used her finger but I have watched her do several poo diaper changes where she doesn't wash her hands afterward. sigh.........the other grandma is going to be just as annoying I fear, in other ways, because DH told me that she has been mentioning to his dad that she is concerned and wonders if we should be allowing the pediatrician to do Rachel's shots the way they do them now. Um...........?! eh, what?? What does she think, that its not safe to vaccinate her ? The grandmas are just boggling my mind. However they used to do vaccines, we see EXCELLENT pediatricians, and I leave her shots to them. sheesh.... etc. You are fortunate to have a healthy wonderful daughter and a mother who is in your life and wanting to be a grandmother. While you are together with your mother, just remember that you are ultimately responsible for Rachel's safety. If you don't trust your mom, don't let her watch the baby. End of story. As far as your inlaws, sounds nice that they are concerned about Rachel. Still, don't leave them alone with her if you fear for her safety. My mother and I have disagreements about a few things, but ultimately I am the mommy and she knows it. A few things we disagreed upon: ~What clothing to put on Morgan. She kept her too warm! She also kept wrapping her up in blankets. ~Bathing. I still can't bathe her alone. Mom does it with me. LOL! Some battles CAN'T be won! There are other areas...I'm too tired to write now. Of course, she can't move stuff around like yours b/c she does have a shattered wrist. LOL! Don't sweat the small stuff. You Da Momma! ~Carol Ann Mom to Morgan born 3.24.04 http://tinyurl.com/28zno ---Pictures! |
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"Carol Ann" wrote My mother and I have disagreements about a few things, but ultimately I am the mommy and she knows it. A few things we disagreed upon: ~What clothing to put on Morgan. She kept her too warm! She also kept wrapping her up in blankets. Typical grandma behavior, I deal with this too, and being told I am making the baby cold.....also, me keeping her cold is the cause of her hiccups, crying spells, and spitting up. Also its why she won't sleep in her crib and likes to be held- she's cold. eyeroll...but I do worry a bit because all the SIDS info warns about keeping the room too warm and baby too bundled...Rachel sweats when she's bundled up too much! ~Bathing. I still can't bathe her alone. Mom does it with me. LOL! Some battles CAN'T be won! This is one thing I don't mind, bath help for the wiggle worm! Extra arms are good in this case. There are other areas...I'm too tired to write now. Of course, she can't move stuff around like yours b/c she does have a shattered wrist. LOL! Don't sweat the small stuff. You Da Momma! LMAO! ~Carol Ann Mom to Morgan born 3.24.04 http://tinyurl.com/28zno ---Pictures! |
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