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Injury Lawyers?
"Bev" wrote in message oups.com... Kat, I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group? Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are being lied to? Bev xkatx wrote: If you're talking about groups like m.k., that's how it's always been there. Back when I had first started with that group, years and years ago, we were living common. He is only the biological father of Z and A, not B. And he also is for this next one. When I joined here a few years back, I was on my own with just B. It stayed that way until a couple years ago - when Norm and I got together, but since then, we have NOT lived or claimed common law. The other groups, like m.k., I never really disappeared from in that time. I believe I was pregnant with Z with other groups and it was just after B's was born that I found this place, as, technically, I was a single parent. I was searching for some groups for my daughter who is 19 and pregnant and came across misc.kids.pregnancy and as I was reading some posts recognised you and was really blown away by what I read! Somewhere along the way I must have missed your story because I had only known you to have had B and A with Norm and that your relationship was fairly new ( couple years) and that you were having this next one of his as well. I thought the older son was living with his dad ? To whom I never knew who that was by name? SO as I read that you two have been on and off for like 7 years altogether and that you were married 4 years ago and that the older son was his as well I was like whoa ! No wonder this is so hard for you to figure out with him. 7 years is a long time and having to go it alone and that you are young as you are makes it harder for you. Then I am thinking if you tied the knot with Norm how much more difficult this is gonna be for you and it changes the legalities involving the children and all I assume. Parenting is rough single or not especially if the parents are not a united front working together in the childrens best interests. This happens in married parents lives as well. Whatever the situation is with you and Norm ,the kids have to come first and as much as breaking up or losing a long term relationship hurts like hell, you are not the first to face this road. Moving on takes time, courage and strength, you need to love yourself and respect yourself and your children. I could not agree more with the "motherly" lecture/advice Moon gave you . So then you have your oldest son now living with you as well? |
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Injury Lawyers?
"Bev" wrote in message ups.com... "Bev" wrote in message oups.com... Kat, I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group? Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are being lied to? Bev xkatx wrote: If you're talking about groups like m.k., that's how it's always been there. Back when I had first started with that group, years and years ago, we were living common. He is only the biological father of Z and A, not B. And he also is for this next one. When I joined here a few years back, I was on my own with just B. It stayed that way until a couple years ago - when Norm and I got together, but since then, we have NOT lived or claimed common law. The other groups, like m.k., I never really disappeared from in that time. I believe I was pregnant with Z with other groups and it was just after B's was born that I found this place, as, technically, I was a single parent. I was searching for some groups for my daughter who is 19 and pregnant and came across misc.kids.pregnancy and as I was reading some posts recognised you and was really blown away by what I read! Somewhere along the way I must have missed your story because I had only known you to have had B and A with Norm and that your relationship was fairly new ( couple years) and that you were having this next one of his as well. I thought the older son was living with his dad ? To whom I never knew who that was by name? SO as I read that you two have been on and off for like 7 years altogether and that you were married 4 years ago and that the older son was his as well I was like whoa ! No wonder this is so hard for you to figure out with him. 7 years is a long time and having to go it alone and that you are young as you are makes it harder for you. Oh. m.k.p is a good one. I was 16, he was 17. Here's where it probably gets even worse, which is why this part of my personal life I tend to keep to myself as much as possible, as it just seems to cause more confusion. Oh well. Z now lives with his mom. At one point, him and his older brother (now 13) lived with their dad and mom, then just their dad, now they're both living with their mom. He's over here quite a bit - almost all of last summer, but this summer, his dad has been half way across the country living and working. The boys have been spending a lot of time there with no school, and he's over here (or B is often over there) not so much anymore (due to Z's dad being further away) I'm already confusing myself, but Z was place for adoption in open adoption as an infant. Technically, he has like 2 sets of parents, birth parents and legal (adoptive) parents. B's father is Phil. Z, A and this next one's father is Norm. Norm and I were together, then not, then again, then not and so on. Then I am thinking if you tied the knot with Norm how much more difficult this is gonna be for you and it changes the legalities involving the children and all I assume. It was common law a while back, but the last couple years has not been at all. It really doesn't change anything, as at the time, we were living common law but since I gave up parental rights and all that with Z, there's no problem there. With B, Phil has no parental rights or anything either, and same goes for A - for both B and A, I am the one legal guardian - it would change if we were legally common law or married, I think. Parenting is rough single or not especially if the parents are not a united front working together in the childrens best interests. This happens in married parents lives as well. I think for now, it's a lot easier on my own without the extra headaches. There just doesn't seem to be any co-parenting type thing going on, and I look back and see this has been the case for quite some time. Whatever the situation is with you and Norm ,the kids have to come first and as much as breaking up or losing a long term relationship hurts like hell, you are not the first to face this road. Moving on takes time, courage and strength, you need to love yourself and respect yourself and your children. I could not agree more with the "motherly" lecture/advice Moon gave you . Yes, I do agree and see exactly where she's coming from. My mom has given similar advice, but now I don't bother as she tends to get angrier and angrier (with reason) It does seem now, though, that I feel a lot better asking for any help lately. She offers the advice how she sees it, but I also have to take into consideration that she only sees so much and will only say so much. So then you have your oldest son now living with you as well? No, he lives with his mom since his parents split and dad moved a fair distance away for work. |
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Injury Lawyers?
xkatx wrote: "Bev" wrote in message ups.com... "Bev" wrote in message oups.com... Kat, I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group? Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are being lied to? Bev xkatx wrote: If you're talking about groups like m.k., that's how it's always been there. Back when I had first started with that group, years and years ago, we were living common. He is only the biological father of Z and A, not B. And he also is for this next one. When I joined here a few years back, I was on my own with just B. It stayed that way until a couple years ago - when Norm and I got together, but since then, we have NOT lived or claimed common law. The other groups, like m.k., I never really disappeared from in that time. I believe I was pregnant with Z with other groups and it was just after B's was born that I found this place, as, technically, I was a single parent. I was searching for some groups for my daughter who is 19 and pregnant and came across misc.kids.pregnancy and as I was reading some posts recognised you and was really blown away by what I read! Somewhere along the way I must have missed your story because I had only known you to have had B and A with Norm and that your relationship was fairly new ( couple years) and that you were having this next one of his as well. I thought the older son was living with his dad ? To whom I never knew who that was by name? SO as I read that you two have been on and off for like 7 years altogether and that you were married 4 years ago and that the older son was his as well I was like whoa ! No wonder this is so hard for you to figure out with him. 7 years is a long time and having to go it alone and that you are young as you are makes it harder for you. Oh. m.k.p is a good one. I was 16, he was 17. Here's where it probably gets even worse, which is why this part of my personal life I tend to keep to myself as much as possible, as it just seems to cause more confusion. Oh well. Z now lives with his mom. At one point, him and his older brother (now 13) lived with their dad and mom, then just their dad, now they're both living with their mom. He's over here quite a bit - almost all of last summer, but this summer, his dad has been half way across the country living and working. The boys have been spending a lot of time there with no school, and he's over here (or B is often over there) not so much anymore (due to Z's dad being further away) I'm already confusing myself, but Z was place for adoption in open adoption as an infant. Technically, he has like 2 sets of parents, birth parents and legal (adoptive) parents. B's father is Phil. Z, A and this next one's father is Norm. Norm and I were together, then not, then again, then not and so on. Then I am thinking if you tied the knot with Norm how much more difficult this is gonna be for you and it changes the legalities involving the children and all I assume. It was common law a while back, but the last couple years has not been at all. It really doesn't change anything, as at the time, we were living common law but since I gave up parental rights and all that with Z, there's no problem there. With B, Phil has no parental rights or anything either, and same goes for A - for both B and A, I am the one legal guardian - it would change if we were legally common law or married, I think. Parenting is rough single or not especially if the parents are not a united front working together in the childrens best interests. This happens in married parents lives as well. I think for now, it's a lot easier on my own without the extra headaches. There just doesn't seem to be any co-parenting type thing going on, and I look back and see this has been the case for quite some time. Whatever the situation is with you and Norm ,the kids have to come first and as much as breaking up or losing a long term relationship hurts like hell, you are not the first to face this road. Moving on takes time, courage and strength, you need to love yourself and respect yourself and your children. I could not agree more with the "motherly" lecture/advice Moon gave you . Yes, I do agree and see exactly where she's coming from. My mom has given similar advice, but now I don't bother as she tends to get angrier and angrier (with reason) It does seem now, though, that I feel a lot better asking for any help lately. She offers the advice how she sees it, but I also have to take into consideration that she only sees so much and will only say so much. So then you have your oldest son now living with you as well? No, he lives with his mom since his parents split and dad moved a fair distance away for work. Holy macaroni Kat ! I am so sorry that I opened that all up like that. Yes the twists and turns in all this can confuse a mind rather quickly ( my mind even quicker!) I couldn't follow how Z was you and Norms son but yet he was not living with you , again I apologise for making you explain and appreciate that you did. You could have just told the nosey "old lady" to mind her p's and q's ! smile Bev |
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Injury Lawyers?
"Bev" wrote in message ps.com... xkatx wrote: "Bev" wrote in message ups.com... "Bev" wrote in message oups.com... Kat, I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group? Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are being lied to? Bev xkatx wrote: If you're talking about groups like m.k., that's how it's always been there. Back when I had first started with that group, years and years ago, we were living common. He is only the biological father of Z and A, not B. And he also is for this next one. When I joined here a few years back, I was on my own with just B. It stayed that way until a couple years ago - when Norm and I got together, but since then, we have NOT lived or claimed common law. The other groups, like m.k., I never really disappeared from in that time. I believe I was pregnant with Z with other groups and it was just after B's was born that I found this place, as, technically, I was a single parent. I was searching for some groups for my daughter who is 19 and pregnant and came across misc.kids.pregnancy and as I was reading some posts recognised you and was really blown away by what I read! Somewhere along the way I must have missed your story because I had only known you to have had B and A with Norm and that your relationship was fairly new ( couple years) and that you were having this next one of his as well. I thought the older son was living with his dad ? To whom I never knew who that was by name? SO as I read that you two have been on and off for like 7 years altogether and that you were married 4 years ago and that the older son was his as well I was like whoa ! No wonder this is so hard for you to figure out with him. 7 years is a long time and having to go it alone and that you are young as you are makes it harder for you. Oh. m.k.p is a good one. I was 16, he was 17. Here's where it probably gets even worse, which is why this part of my personal life I tend to keep to myself as much as possible, as it just seems to cause more confusion. Oh well. Z now lives with his mom. At one point, him and his older brother (now 13) lived with their dad and mom, then just their dad, now they're both living with their mom. He's over here quite a bit - almost all of last summer, but this summer, his dad has been half way across the country living and working. The boys have been spending a lot of time there with no school, and he's over here (or B is often over there) not so much anymore (due to Z's dad being further away) I'm already confusing myself, but Z was place for adoption in open adoption as an infant. Technically, he has like 2 sets of parents, birth parents and legal (adoptive) parents. B's father is Phil. Z, A and this next one's father is Norm. Norm and I were together, then not, then again, then not and so on. Then I am thinking if you tied the knot with Norm how much more difficult this is gonna be for you and it changes the legalities involving the children and all I assume. It was common law a while back, but the last couple years has not been at all. It really doesn't change anything, as at the time, we were living common law but since I gave up parental rights and all that with Z, there's no problem there. With B, Phil has no parental rights or anything either, and same goes for A - for both B and A, I am the one legal guardian - it would change if we were legally common law or married, I think. Parenting is rough single or not especially if the parents are not a united front working together in the childrens best interests. This happens in married parents lives as well. I think for now, it's a lot easier on my own without the extra headaches. There just doesn't seem to be any co-parenting type thing going on, and I look back and see this has been the case for quite some time. Whatever the situation is with you and Norm ,the kids have to come first and as much as breaking up or losing a long term relationship hurts like hell, you are not the first to face this road. Moving on takes time, courage and strength, you need to love yourself and respect yourself and your children. I could not agree more with the "motherly" lecture/advice Moon gave you . Yes, I do agree and see exactly where she's coming from. My mom has given similar advice, but now I don't bother as she tends to get angrier and angrier (with reason) It does seem now, though, that I feel a lot better asking for any help lately. She offers the advice how she sees it, but I also have to take into consideration that she only sees so much and will only say so much. So then you have your oldest son now living with you as well? No, he lives with his mom since his parents split and dad moved a fair distance away for work. Holy macaroni Kat ! I am so sorry that I opened that all up like that. Yes the twists and turns in all this can confuse a mind rather quickly ( my mind even quicker!) I couldn't follow how Z was you and Norms son but yet he was not living with you , again I apologise for making you explain and appreciate that you did. You could have just told the nosey "old lady" to mind her p's and q's ! smile Bev LOL No, it's alright. It's normally just the confusion part I like to avoid at most costs... You're lucky you're not around when we're all out and about... There's N (Z's older brother, adopted as well), Z, B, A, N & Z's mom and dad, me, Norm... It's a crazy time, as Z and B are brothers, Z and N are brothers, B and A are brother and sister, Z and A are brother and sister, N and A and Z and B are brothers and sister... Oh my. Don't worry... When it comes down to someone asking, it's quite amusing if the parents of all these kids are around and EVERYONE is mom or dad or whatever, my brother, your brother, their sister, whatever. It's just hard to explain, that's all. I guess, just now, I realized that a lot of this garbage is hard to explain all around and it is a big, huge mess with everything in general... |
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