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I have a friend who does the following with his child, and he claims to have read all the Parenting magazines and literally calls himself an "expert" on raising kids (he has one, that is 2 yrs old so far). He says these things are very common for parents to do, and are safe, and harmless to a 2 year old. 1. Allows 2 yr old to drink their margaritas, beers, etc. Thinks its funny/entertaining. Did it in public in front of several other people. 2. Allows child to drink coffee. 3. Puts child out in Arizona midday sun for 1 to 2 hours per day, every day. Child constantly has a "Tan". 4. Refused to get any immunizations for the child whatsoever. 5. Allows child to stay up to midnight nearly every night, very often extending to 2 or 3am, and he sleeps in till noon. 6. Child is allowed to watch "The Hulk" movie. Now child stands in front of television with literal horror on his face, making viscious angry facial expressions and growling while squatting. Child is now hitting other kids, and walks around with Hulk blowup doll smashing everything. Parents think its "Funny" and harmless. 7. Bring child into smoke filled casino in Las Vegas at 4am, still awake. Casino owners repeatedly reprimanding parents for bringing child into casino area. They think casino owners are "dumb". Thoughts? |
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"HairlossTalk.com" wrote in message om... Hi - I have a friend who does the following with his child, and he claims to have read all the Parenting magazines and literally calls himself an "expert" on raising kids (he has one, that is 2 yrs old so far). He says these things are very common for parents to do, and are safe, and harmless to a 2 year old. 1. Allows 2 yr old to drink their margaritas, beers, etc. Thinks its funny/entertaining. Did it in public in front of several other people. Depends how much he is giving the child..... I say a sip of beer never hurt anyone....but margaritas and other liquor based drinks are harsher, and IMO I would say that it owuld be best not to give a child vodka, rum, gin etc. Again are the getting a whole glass..... two or three sips or what quantity ? There is no harm in having them try it. I am a firm beleiver that it is better to give them a drink at home then to have them go out behind your back and not know how to handle it when the time comes. On the other hand I don't think it is right for them to be laughing and joking about it....alcohol consumption is a serious deal and they shold not joke about it. 2. Allows child to drink coffee. I know many young children who like coffee...not really good for them but neither is pop and most kids in society today are drinking that. My daughter enjoys tea and she is 6 years old. It was my doctor who recommended I try to give her peppermint tea when she was 4-5 yrs old ( helps with constipation). 3. Puts child out in Arizona midday sun for 1 to 2 hours per day, every day. Child constantly has a "Tan". While fresh air is good, I don't live in Arizona so not sure about exact temps...but I know it gets hot there. Should be applying sun tan lotion 20 min. - 1/2 hr before they go out. It is otherwise not harmful to be outside for 2 hours a day, fresh air makes you sleep well at night. I would be best not to be out during the hottest part of the day. 4. Refused to get any immunizations for the child whatsoever. I am in Canada so not sure as far as what is covered in your state, if they can't afford them that is fine, not everyone can afford to get them, if they are covered, then they should be getting them....but it is up to the parent in the end. He may have to change his mind about that in time...In Ontario a child can't enter school until all immunizations are up to date. 5. Allows child to stay up to midnight nearly every night, very often extending to 2 or 3am, and he sleeps in till noon. This will have to change when the child starts school. It would be best if they had a routine.... but again not something you can do for them. The child is getting the sleep she needs..but they will have lots of trouble chaning her back to go to bed earlier...they will find out in time what they have done wrong...nothing you can do about it. 6. Child is allowed to watch "The Hulk" movie. Now child stands in front of television with literal horror on his face, making viscious angry facial expressions and growling while squatting. Child is now hitting other kids, and walks around with Hulk blowup doll smashing everything. Parents think its "Funny" and harmless. It is not funny and harmless if she/ he is hurting himslef or others..... parents will regret this when child enters school. 7. Bring child into smoke filled casino in Las Vegas at 4am, still awake. Casino owners repeatedly reprimanding parents for bringing child into casino area. They think casino owners are "dumb". I don't know why they let them in...children are not allowed in casino's....... the owners should be laying down the law !! Again no something within your control Thoughts? Although you are concerned and do not agree with what they are doing they are the parents of this child not you and you can therefore not do anything other then advise them if they ask....otherwise as another posted said butt out...everyone raises their children differently and from what you have spoken of the child is not in harm, not being abused, and is getting feed and sleep as needed. You can report them if you see something that they are doing to hurt, injure or neglecte this child, but otherwise..... it's really not your business.... you are only entitled to your opinion. Karen |
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"Nan" I have a friend who does the following with his child, and he claims to have read all the Parenting magazines and literally calls himself an "expert" on raising kids (he has one, that is 2 yrs old so far). He says these things are very common for parents to do, and are safe, and harmless to a 2 year old. I'm guessing you didn't like not getting the responses in misc.kids.pregnancy that didn't agree totally with your position?? snip examples of behavior you have a problem with Thoughts? My thoughts are unless you can see that your friends are endangering/neglecting/abusing their child in some way that you can call the authorities on, you should probably butt out. Yup, I agree, well said Nic Nan |
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Allowing a child to do these things is only a problem waiting to grow. If a
parent is that lenient with a child and allows the child to do these things, the child will soon learn that he is in control. Some these situations could also be considered questionable by the Department of Human Services. Perhaps you should let this agency talk to the parents and explain what parents do and offer to help them with finding a parenting class. I work in a day care and can tell children who are disciplined and have schedules, etc. This family is waiting for future problems which will begin sooner, than later. |
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