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Discipline vs. Punishment
I read something yesterday that I think explains the difference a lot better
than I could on my own. Hope this helps: "There are two ways of hurting: from the outside in, and from the inside out. Hurting from the outside in only goes skin deep. It occurs when someone else is angry or when children can't make a connection between the infraction and the parent's response. It just doesn't sink in. This occurs when the response is not something that would happen to an adult in the real world. Instead of punishment, we use the concept of hurting from the inside out. We allow children to suffer the consequences of their decisions so that every time they ask themselves this question--"Who's making me hurt like that?"--they have to turn around and say "Oh, me." We oppose punishment because it doesn't lead to self examination. Instead it leads to resentment. When children hurt from the inside out by correctly suffering the consequences of their actions, they examine their actions. " John ------- http://www.members.aol.com/crucifyself03/Rsteve -Steve Walz website http://www.members.aol.com/crucifyse...walz/index.htm -Topical postings page. Should such a violent person be in a mental ward, behind bars or roaming Newsgroups? |
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John wrote:
I read something yesterday that I think explains the difference a lot better than I could on my own. John, please don't quote things without attributing the sources. For one thing, we need that information to properly evaluate it. For another, it's copyright infringement. -- Mike Rosenberg http://www.macconsult.com Macintosh consulting services for NE Florida http://bogart-tribute.net Tribute to Humphrey Bogart Toyota Prius fans: Check out alt.autos.toyota.prius |
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John wrote:
I read something yesterday that I think explains the difference a lot better than I could on my own. Hope this helps: "There are two ways of hurting: from the outside in, and from the inside out. Hurting from the outside in only goes skin deep. It occurs when someone else is angry or when children can't make a connection between the infraction and the parent's response. It just doesn't sink in. This occurs when the response is not something that would happen to an adult in the real world. Instead of punishment, we use the concept of hurting from the inside out. We allow children to suffer the consequences of their decisions so that every time they ask themselves this question--"Who's making me hurt like that?"--they have to turn around and say "Oh, me." We oppose punishment because it doesn't lead to self examination. Instead it leads to resentment. When children hurt from the inside out by correctly suffering the consequences of their actions, they examine their actions. " John ---------------------------- But this all depends on whether this terminology is a sham and a euphemism to excuse abuse by just calling it something else. LOTS of people pull THAT ****, try one out of two parents!!! Lots of people will hit/slap/spank/frighten or interfere with their child's rights and then CALL it the child's doing, when every child knows better! Steve |
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Mike Rosenberg wrote:
John wrote: I read something yesterday that I think explains the difference a lot better than I could on my own. John, please don't quote things without attributing the sources. For one thing, we need that information to properly evaluate it. For another, it's copyright infringement. -- Mike Rosenberg --------------- Irrelevant, the Internet and the invention of personal computers has made this moot. Copyright won't even exist much longer. You can't even tell if people are borrowing, stealing, loaning - as with a library, or what, when data vanishes at the touch of a key and has no physical form! Steve |
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