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And the saga with Mother continues...
Oh well.. I should have known. I always knew, in fact, but it doesn't change
the sore feelings. You see, DH and I have decided to build a brand new house in a brand new residential development. The house will be constructed from scratch, we have chosen a very nice and large site, where we will be planting apple trees, sugar maple, etc. It is very exciting for us, and we were dreaming of raising a large family in our new home when Little One came into being. Needless to say, the dream of a family being now quite more real, we are even more thrilled. But. There is always a but. My mother reacted very strongly against our house-building project. I suppose she would have liked us to consult with her before taking the final decision, but I did not deem it necessary, and anyway she has been living in the same house for the past 32 years, so I don't see how she could really be of help. Anyway. I tried to understand her and tried to imagine my reaction if Mlle C came one day and announced to me she bought a big house. I would feel sad in a way: I would feel as if I wasn't close enough to her that she would talk to me about it before doing anything. But I would not get mad at her, as my mother has at me. Anyway. As I was telling this to my favorite aunt, in whom I confided being pregnant, I asked her to promise me she wouldn't tell my mother I'm expecting. And she said she would never, my mother having said, after complaining about her housing project: "Well, she better not come and tell me she's pregnant NOW, or she'll never hear the end of me!" So. I haven't told my mother I'm pregnant. And I don't want to. At the same time, I feel sad that once again, I will live a pregnancy without the support of my mother. DH says "The Hell with her", and he's right. But it's easier said than done, and I feel this great sadness over me sometimes... -- Isabelle Mom to Mlle C, Nov. 27, 2004 Expecting Little One on June 7, 2006 |
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And the saga with Mother continues...
On Sat, 8 Oct 2005 17:46:46 -0400, in misc.kids.pregnancy "Zaz"
wrote: So. I haven't told my mother I'm pregnant. Sounds like she already suspects it. |
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And the saga with Mother continues...
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Maybe. She actually said that after my uncle told her not to worry about the new house, that it was a great project given that we wanted to have a big family. So she knows we want more children, but I doubt she knows I'm already pregnant. Especially that when she said this, I didn't even know myself! wrote in message ... On Sat, 8 Oct 2005 17:46:46 -0400, in misc.kids.pregnancy "Zaz" wrote: So. I haven't told my mother I'm pregnant. Sounds like she already suspects it. |
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And the saga with Mother continues...
"Zaz" wrote in message .. . Oh well.. I should have known. I always knew, in fact, but it doesn't change the sore feelings. You see, DH and I have decided to build a brand new house in a brand new residential development. The house will be constructed from scratch, we have chosen a very nice and large site, where we will be planting apple trees, sugar maple, etc. It is very exciting for us, and we were dreaming of raising a large family in our new home when Little One came into being. Needless to say, the dream of a family being now quite more real, we are even more thrilled. But. There is always a but. My mother reacted very strongly against our house-building project. I suppose she would have liked us to consult with her before taking the final decision, but I did not deem it necessary, and anyway she has been living in the same house for the past 32 years, so I don't see how she could really be of help. Anyway. I tried to understand her and tried to imagine my reaction if Mlle C came one day and announced to me she bought a big house. I would feel sad in a way: I would feel as if I wasn't close enough to her that she would talk to me about it before doing anything. But I would not get mad at her, as my mother has at me. Anyway. As I was telling this to my favorite aunt, in whom I confided being pregnant, I asked her to promise me she wouldn't tell my mother I'm expecting. And she said she would never, my mother having said, after complaining about her housing project: "Well, she better not come and tell me she's pregnant NOW, or she'll never hear the end of me!" So. I haven't told my mother I'm pregnant. And I don't want to. At the same time, I feel sad that once again, I will live a pregnancy without the support of my mother. DH says "The Hell with her", and he's right. But it's easier said than done, and I feel this great sadness over me sometimes... -- Isabelle Mom to Mlle C, Nov. 27, 2004 Expecting Little One on June 7, 2006 Lots of us are living through pregnancies without our mothers for different reasons. I am without my mother because she suffers from extreme schizophrenia and dimentia and is no longer in my life. It is a sore spot for me, and I am saddened by it. But I have chosen to build my own happy and functional family, and to put my focus there. There comes a time when we HAVE to branch out and build our own lives, and it is not fair to us and our families to have to be held back or dragged down by family issues. Love your mom, include her in whatever capacity YOU feel comfortable with, but PLEASE realize that your life and your family should come first. Betsy |
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