back child support after death of child????

Ok, so this is coming out of left field, but please answer. My ex wife had
a baby 2-1/2 years ago from some other guy. He never paid any CS, tho she
did file and try to get some. He is hiding from CS folks, go figure.
So she felt life was too hard, killed herself and her son this week, and
left my two boys halfway across the country without a mother.
My oldest is 20, other is 14. They are the sole heirs.
Is the back support he owes considered part of the estate? Is there any
chance of them ever receiving any of it? Any ideas?
Thanks folks, she was dirt poor and the costs of this are way more than my
son can deal with. Any little help or inheritance would be great for him.
My youngest of course will have SSI benifits being a minor, but the older
one is just holding the bag, cleaning up after mom.
Thanks
Jon

Jon wrote:

Ok, so this is coming out of left field, but please answer. My ex wife had
a baby 2-1/2 years ago from some other guy. He never paid any CS, tho she
did file and try to get some. He is hiding from CS folks, go figure.
So she felt life was too hard, killed herself and her son this week, and
left my two boys halfway across the country without a mother.

How awful. It's such a shame that CPs like your ex, NCPs, or anyone who isn't
equipped to handle stress don't get help before they take such extreme steps.

My oldest is 20, other is 14.

My heartfelt sympathies go out to your sons.

They are the sole heirs.
Is the back support he owes considered part of the estate? Is there any
chance of them ever receiving any of it? Any ideas?

I wish I had better news for you. Unfortunately I believe most CS and SS orders
are written in such a manner that in the event of death of their receipient, or
the child in a CS order, the obligation is lifted. I've never heard of case
where a third party has collected on arreages on CS after death of the
reciepient and child. I know there have been cases where third parties ( ie
children of the deceased) have tried to collect arrearages of SS on behalf of
their parent's estate and they have been denied each and every time.


Thanks folks, she was dirt poor and the costs of this are way more than my
son can deal with. Any little help or inheritance would be great for him.
My youngest of course will have SSI benifits being a minor, but the older
one is just holding the bag, cleaning up after mom.

If she doesn't have any surviving family other than your shared sons, then you
might want to call the welfare dept in her area, churches in her area or other
groups that could help take care of the final matters. A 20 yr old young man,
who just lost his mother shouldn't be saddled with ANYTHING other than morning
the loss of his mother.

Best of luck to all of you.

Mrs Indyguy

Thanks
Jon

I'd be 99 percent sure that none of this is true, Mrs. Indyguy, and
that it reflects nothing more than the fevered imagination of "Jon." Don't
waste your time. Some people will say anything to get attention.


"Indyguy1" wrote in message
...
Jon wrote:

Ok, so this is coming out of left field, but please answer. My ex wife
had
a baby 2-1/2 years ago from some other guy. He never paid any CS, tho
she
did file and try to get some. He is hiding from CS folks, go figure.
So she felt life was too hard, killed herself and her son this week, and
left my two boys halfway across the country without a mother.

How awful. It's such a shame that CPs like your ex, NCPs, or anyone who
isn't
equipped to handle stress don't get help before they take such extreme
steps.

My oldest is 20, other is 14.

My heartfelt sympathies go out to your sons.

They are the sole heirs.
Is the back support he owes considered part of the estate? Is there any
chance of them ever receiving any of it? Any ideas?

I wish I had better news for you. Unfortunately I believe most CS and SS
orders
are written in such a manner that in the event of death of their
receipient, or
the child in a CS order, the obligation is lifted. I've never heard of
case
where a third party has collected on arreages on CS after death of the
reciepient and child. I know there have been cases where third parties (
ie
children of the deceased) have tried to collect arrearages of SS on behalf
of
their parent's estate and they have been denied each and every time.


Thanks folks, she was dirt poor and the costs of this are way more than
my
son can deal with. Any little help or inheritance would be great for
him.
My youngest of course will have SSI benifits being a minor, but the older
one is just holding the bag, cleaning up after mom.

If she doesn't have any surviving family other than your shared sons, then
you
might want to call the welfare dept in her area, churches in her area or
other
groups that could help take care of the final matters. A 20 yr old young
man,
who just lost his mother shouldn't be saddled with ANYTHING other than
morning
the loss of his mother.

Best of luck to all of you.

Mrs Indyguy

Thanks
Jon

"Kenneth S." wrote in message
...
I'd be 99 percent sure that none of this is true, Mrs. Indyguy, and
that it reflects nothing more than the fevered imagination of "Jon."
Don't
waste your time. Some people will say anything to get attention.

Unless I have been completely fooled, this Jon is the same Jon who has
testified before the Oregon House Judiciary Committee on the same proposed
legislative bills I testified about. I can't vouch for his story, but I do
know he is active concerning CS issues, has custody of two children, and I
tend to believe him about the ex's suicide since the facts fit what I know
about him.