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"Jill" wrote in message . com... The problem will be dealing with inlaws and family "I started solids at 4 months and it didn't hurt anything!" etc etc....I don't know this will be a problem, but I have become tuned in since becoming pregnant, whereas I didn't pay much attention before, that inlaws CAN be a pain! This has always been a big worry of mine.....I am afraid someone will do something to undermine my decision for my baby, behind my back, and it makes me afraid to leave her unsupervised with even the grandmothers (or especially the grandmothers!) etc. Unless you're planning on returning to work and one of the grandmothers is going to be a caregiver, there's no reason why your baby will need to be alone with them. Seriously, if you don't trust them, don't leave your child at their houses. They're not going to be able to do anything against your wishes with you in the room with them. And based on some of your other posts I've read on this ng, personally, I wouldn't leave the baby with them anyway (as it sounds like they're already accustomed to ignoring your wishes). Also, a part of me also just feels that *I* want to be the one to transition my child. *I* want to be there giving her her first solid, and her first juice etc. Is that Momzilla-ish? I don't think its Momzilla-ish. You're the parent here, and you know (or will know) what's best for your child. nancy |
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On Fri, 12 Mar 2004 05:41:18 GMT, "Jill" wrote:
My mom is demanding that I keep a notebook with everything she buys the baby in it written down, so that the baby will be sure to know what SHE bought for her. If I could just smile and nod. That is ever a "smile and nod" situtation . Strangely enough I can tell you (if looking at something of DDs) where we got it from, who got it for us and what it was for. I don't have a list anywhere except in my head. A few of these things I ready do have to write down (some handme down stuff and some specific keepsakes). Di |
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Ericka Kammerer wrote:
Jill wrote: Oh, about Momzilla-ness, I also have other worries that are totally crazy,,,it's just because I want to experience my baby, the grandparents had their chances, but the way they are acting really seems like they want to relive their own new mommy with new baby days all over. Maybe I'm the odd person out here, but really, what's wrong with that? When your grandchildren are born someday, won't you want to sneak back to that delicious new baby time for a little while? I'm already looking forward to it -- but it's more the holding the baby/excitement of reaching milestones thing than anything else. I don't think that would lead me to wanting to buy a crib/bottles/etc to have at my house for a grandkid, unless I was specifically asked to do so. -- Emily mom to Toby 5/1/02 Scheherazade, stillborn at 20 weeks, 3/2/04 |
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Emily wrote:
Ericka Kammerer wrote: Jill wrote: Oh, about Momzilla-ness, I also have other worries that are totally crazy,,,it's just because I want to experience my baby, the grandparents had their chances, but the way they are acting really seems like they want to relive their own new mommy with new baby days all over. Maybe I'm the odd person out here, but really, what's wrong with that? When your grandchildren are born someday, won't you want to sneak back to that delicious new baby time for a little while? I'm already looking forward to it -- but it's more the holding the baby/excitement of reaching milestones thing than anything else. I don't think that would lead me to wanting to buy a crib/bottles/etc to have at my house for a grandkid, unless I was specifically asked to do so. I actually know quite a few grandparents who have these things at their homes. All of them have very good relationships with their children/in-laws (not that not having such things implies a bad relationship). Personally, I don't find it at all odd or over the top. We *could* manage without having supplies at my parents' house (after all, they're just next door), but it's ever so convenient to have them there. I absolutely love that my children feel like they have two homes, and I don't find that intrusive in terms of my parenting at all. Anyway, my point was simply to say that while grandparents who don't respect the parents are definitely a problem and I can understand why someone would push back against "overinvolvement" in that situation, I think that when time, location and relationship permit, the behaviors described are actually quite normal and even desirable. My folks don't have that stuff so that they can parent my children or overrule my parenting choices. They have it to make their and my lives easier and more fun. I just love that they enjoy my children so much and get to spend so much time with them. When there's respect going both ways between parents and grandparents, this sort of interdependence is possible (if both parties want it). I don't need or want my parents to pussyfoot around, worrying about whether something they do will infringe on my parenting, waiting for me to invite them to do things. But then again, I know they would never do anything to undermine me, so I don't *have* to worry about that. Best wishes, Ericka |
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I'm not sure you can plan first snow either!
Depends where you live. ;-) (When we want snow, we go to it. It doesn't come to us.) BTW, I understand what you're saying about the grandparents taking credit for the crawling. That's just so obviously dumb that there's no point being bothered by it, is how I look at it. Perhaps easier said than done! Holly Mom to Camden, 3yo EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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