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intro and question attachment parenting
Hello Robyn, you had some really good tips here, like only doing one calming
thing at a time to avoid overstimulation. I will keep that in mind. As for the milk thing, I am allergic to milk myself, so I don't have any dairy at all in my diet. Including things like whey, casein, butteroil etc. I am very careful to avoid it. But I will try to keep track of other things that may be affecting him. I also really appreciate what you said about him knowing who is nursing and loving him, even if I have to let him cry on his own now and then. As for the rest: I walk each day for about an hour or so. I sleep with the baby in the afternoon and sometimes in the morning, and my hubby does all the chores (bless his heart). We have found that running the water in the tub works really well to calm him down. We just sit with him in the bathroom and let him space out while he listens to the water. He also likes to be carried on his stomach like you mentioned, under the arm. I just wish that I could put my baby down for a nap without having him suckling. He always wakes up as soon as I take him off the breast. Unless we are sleeping together for a nap, or overnight, then he's fine. But during the day he's always got to be in the Snugli or at my breast. I guess things are getting better now that I look back on it though because he used to have to be on my breast all night too, and now he's much more independent. Yay! So, things are progressing. I'll post again in a week or two and see how things are going then. Thanks again, Alicia "Robin" wrote in message om... Alicia, Your experience rings a lot of bells for me. I didn't label my baby-handling approach, but I used a lot of AP techniques, including co-sleeping, for the first few months. But my first baby was colicky and, like yours, "sucky" -- always wanting the breast or (when he was able) his hand. And he spent most of his waking hours crying. I looked at my friends whose babies woke up calm and spent most of their waking hours with their eyes open and their mouths shut (the opposite of mine) and could NOT figure out what I was doing wrong, and they couldn't figure out why I was always so stressed out and couldn't "manage" my baby. The point was, I wasn't doing anything wrong. In fact, many of my friends with "easy" first babies had a much "harder" second baby, whereas I had an "easy" second baby! So it's not the parent ... some babies are just like that. You've already gotten some very good advice on this thread: Take care of yourself (or you won't be able to care for your baby). Get assistance --remember that AP is built on a model in which parents didn't do everything alone. And you'll bond just fine -- that baby knows who's nursing him and loving him, and a little crying alone when you need a few minutes' sanity break won't damage that bond. Here are some other tips, in no particular order, that really helped me. 1. I couldn't use a sling, despite trying several brands. I'm too busty and short-waisted for any of them to fit, and I couldn't wear my baby safely or comfortably in one. My salvation was a Baby Bjorn front carrier, which was better than any other carrier I tried, and is adaptable for both very young babies and older ones. Since my kids didn't walk till 17 months, I got a lot of use out of my Bjorn! 2. Some of my baby's colic, it turned out, was allergy to some things that were coming through my breastmilk. The big one was milk protein. I'm lactose intolerant and so take in very little dairy, but even the lactose-free products and the aged cheese I used carried enough milk protein to trigger my child's crying jags. When I cut out ALL dairy products from my diet, the crying cut way down. This takes a lot of label reading -- watch out for breads, margarines, and prepared foods, and ingredients such as whey or "milk solids." But it was well worth the trouble, and I wish it hadn't taken me so long to discover this. It also helped when I eliminated garlic. My lactation consultant says that some babies love garlic-flavored milk, but mine was apparently sensitive to it. 3. My son often settled down when I held him on my shoulder -- "right the way over," as our wonderful NP described it, balancing on his tummy with his head partway down my back. I remember one night I spent mopping the kitchen floor one-handed with him over my shoulder, because in any other position he'd cry, and he also seemed to like it when I was in motion. Or I held him at my side, under my curled arm, with his tummy balanced on my wrist and him facing the floor. It looks really funny, but it worked for us. He also liked when I held him up in the air, over my head, with my hand on either side of his torso, but you can't walk around that way ;-) 4. It helped to get outside as much as possible -- walking, strolling, or just stepping out the front door with the baby for a "porch break." This helped my frame of mind, too. 5. Sleep when the baby sleeps. When people told me this, I said, "Yeah, right." But really -- whatever you were planning on doing during that nap is not so important as falling over. Learning to nurse lying down was a real help, since my all-day sucker could go for an hour on a single breast, and I could just doze off with him attached. 6. One of the best tips I got for calming a colicky baby is that whatever strategy you use -- patting, singing, stroking, humming, rocking, walking, etc. -- use only one at a time. That is, don't rock and sing, but do one or the other for a little while, then switch to something new if that didn't work. Sometimes too many "calming" activities just overstimulates a sensitive baby. Good luck, and let us know how you do. --Robin |
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