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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
hey guys,
my son started breast feeding again and it's really creeping me out. I had my daughter about 3 months ago and we share a bed together. she feeds thru the night and one day I noticed that my son was in bed with us also. I didn't think this was a big deal...I thought it was really sweet at 1st. then I woke up 3 nights ago and we was suckling on my breast. I told him "Mommy doesn't want you feeding off her anymore. this is for Doris now." he threw a fit and cried. the next day he was hysterical and demanded my breast. I finally caved in and let him feed. i'm really embarassed by this. we go to the mall & I'm afraid he'll demand my breast out in public and then i'll have to show the world that i'm breast feeding a 7yr old boy. I feel horrible. it's also creepy b/c He's 7yrs old!! so far Doris hasn't been upset by any of this and i think she is too young to be upset by it. what do I do? any advice? is this sexual in nature? he is 7yrs old -Deb |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
No way should you give in.
.... and having your other baby in bed with you is not good either: It will distroy your sex life and may permanently damage your marital relationship. Apart from that the constant supply of milk thru the night is not good for the child's teeth. Ask a dentist if you don't believe me! wrote in message ... hey guys, my son started breast feeding again and it's really creeping me out. I had my daughter about 3 months ago and we share a bed together. she feeds thru the night and one day I noticed that my son was in bed with us also. I didn't think this was a big deal...I thought it was really sweet at 1st. then I woke up 3 nights ago and we was suckling on my breast. I told him "Mommy doesn't want you feeding off her anymore. this is for Doris now." he threw a fit and cried. the next day he was hysterical and demanded my breast. I finally caved in and let him feed. i'm really embarassed by this. we go to the mall & I'm afraid he'll demand my breast out in public and then i'll have to show the world that i'm breast feeding a 7yr old boy. I feel horrible. it's also creepy b/c He's 7yrs old!! so far Doris hasn't been upset by any of this and i think she is too young to be upset by it. what do I do? any advice? is this sexual in nature? he is 7yrs old -Deb |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
Hi - First of all, congratulations on your baby. It's great that you're co-sleeping with her and nursing. As for your 7-year old, you need to take a combination approach. First, make sure you're spending PLENTY of time with him when he's awake. Give him 1 on 1 time without the baby whenever you can. This may be partly an attention-getting thing. Next, NO, you've got to be firm. Even if he screams, he's not the kid who nurses. He's the kid who's in grade school, who can throw balls, etc. Remind him of what he IS and what he CAN do that the baby can't. And be firm about what he CAN'T do. He can't fight with other kids, he can't eat dessert without dinner, and he can't nurse. Third, TALK with him. (Maybe this should be first :-)) Talk about the changes brought along by the baby, about how much you think of him, your big kid, and let him talk with you about why he wants to nurse. Then you talk to him about bodily privacy and why it's okay for a baby to nurse but not a big kid. You've got to be firm about the nursing, but give in where you can in other domains; his life has just changed a great deal. Good luck, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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CJS wrote:
... and having your other baby in bed with you is not good either: It will distroy your sex life and may permanently damage your marital relationship. Gosh, I wonder how the 67% of the world's cultures that cosleep are handling that... Apart from that the constant supply of milk thru the night is not good for the child's teeth. Ask a dentist if you don't believe me! Why don't YOU ask a dentist? The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry states that nursing, even night nursing, does not contribute to the development of ECC. -- tristyn www.tristyn.net "i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. i do not think that they will sing to me." |
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what do I do? any advice? is this sexual in nature? he is 7yrs old If this isn't a troll, I think your bigger problem is that you've got a seven-year-old to whom you're afraid to say "no." And of course it's not sexual, he's seven years old. It's comfort. -- tristyn www.tristyn.net "i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. i do not think that they will sing to me." |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
iphigenia wrote:
CJS wrote: ... and having your other baby in bed with you is not good either: It will distroy your sex life and may permanently damage your marital relationship. Gosh, I wonder how the 67% of the world's cultures that cosleep are handling that... The same way they handle starvation and cholera. They tolerate it because it cannot be changed. -TOE snip -- tristyn www.tristyn.net "i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. i do not think that they will sing to me." |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
"CJS" wrote in message
... No way should you give in. ... and having your other baby in bed with you is not good either: It will distroy your sex life and may permanently damage your marital relationship. Oh ye of little imagination... -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [20mo] mom) This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "Rejuvinate your skin." -- Hydroderm ad Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
In article Zfsub.8600$iS6.6884@fed1read04, Circe says...
"CJS" wrote in message ... No way should you give in. ... and having your other baby in bed with you is not good either: It will distroy your sex life and may permanently damage your marital relationship. Oh ye of little imagination... I wish these guys could spell better. He mispelled "I only have sex in bed at night". Maybe he needs to meet one of the boyfriends spoken of on another thread who boff ex-wives all day ;-) Banty |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
It will distroy your sex life and may permanently damage your marital
relationship. Oh ye of little imagination... I wish these guys could spell better. He mispelled "I only have sex in bed at night". Maybe he needs to meet one of the boyfriends spoken of on another thread who boff ex-wives all day ;-) Some people have day jobs. |
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7yr old and started breastfeeding again
"Beth Kevles" wrote in message ... Hi - First of all, congratulations on your baby. It's great that you're co-sleeping with her and nursing. This is great when they are so young, but I know of a child who was still seeping with his mother and nursing when he was four. The mother had to go to bed when he did and the couple had no adult time together for all those years. Their marriage broke down. The child was used to having a feed whenever he wanted as mum was always there and he would have tantrums if he didn't get food or drink on demand. I think it is better to try and establish a regular pattern with feeding and sleeping as soon as you can. The older they get the harder it becomes to break the habit. As for your 7-year old, you need to take a combination approach. First, make sure you're spending PLENTY of time with him when he's awake. Give him 1 on 1 time without the baby whenever you can. This may be partly an attention-getting thing. That is very probable. Most children feel quite jealous when a new baby suddenly takes all the attention. You have to make sure the older one doesn't feel rejected. Perhaps dad can spend more time with him, take him swimming or something like that while you are busy with baby. Next, NO, you've got to be firm. Even if he screams, he's not the kid who nurses. He's the kid who's in grade school, who can throw balls, etc. Remind him of what he IS and what he CAN do that the baby can't. And be firm about what he CAN'T do. He can't fight with other kids, he can't eat dessert without dinner, and he can't nurse. I was sort of wondering whether perhaps his demands stem from the fact he was allowed to nurse thru the night for too long and so finds it only too easy to slip back into that habit. When did you stop nursing him in your bed? |
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