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Ericka Kammerer wrote: I think it depends a lot on the environment. To follow up on Ericka's comment, have you toured the hospital (I'm assuming you're going with a hospital birth, based on the OB's comment)? It might be best to check out the birthing facilities themselves, not so much for kid-friendliness, but moreso for whether the 'standard' births at the hospital would not be unnerving to your daughter. (I'm only suggesting this as the final piece of the plan -- given that you know your daughter, you know yourself, it just seems reasonable to check out the environment, too.) Some hospitals are great w/r/t laboring women, and the women and their partners are likewise great -- others are less private, and potentially seeing some of the other patients might be unnerving to her, or not (I am a veteran of the 'Take A Hike' school of childbirth, where I just want everyone to leave me the..well, alone. Happily, for both unmedicated labors the hospital staff and DH were more than willing to do that. I'm not big on admitting *anyone* into the room when giving birth, but that is entirely me.) Caledonia |
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oregonchick writes:
: However.... My OB has indicated that she feels 8 yrs old is not old enough : for most kids, and has suggested that I rethink this. I think my daughter : is fairly mature for her age and she has expressed alot of interest in : participating. Should I follow my instinct here, or am I overly confident : in my daughter? My daughter Clara was present for her brother Niel's birth. She was 22 months old for God's sake! I think you should get a new OB. I don't think any older sibling should miss the birth of a younger one unless the mother is not comfortable with it. I would say more about sibling bonding, etc, etc, but you get the idea. Larry |
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Follow your instinct, I'm sure you will make the right decison for you
and your daughter. It doesn't really matter what the OB thinks -- she will probably only be there herself for a fraction of your labour. Besides, it's not like they lock you in the room! Labour can be long, and if your daughter wants to be there for certain parts and not others for whatever reason (bordom might be one of them!) there's nothing stopping her. I'll bet it would be a wonderful memory & experience for her to be present at the birth of her sibling. Elle oregonchick wrote: I want my 8 yr old daughter present for the birth of her little sister. I think this will be a very special time for me, her, and my husband. My husband is my 8 yr old's step dad, and there have been some feelings of anxiety from her feeling left out or worried that she wouldn't be important anymore. I want her to be a part of this special moment, and have her wholly participating to the point that she is comfortable. If she becomes uncomfortable, I will have a contingency plan for her to have someone in the waiting room with her. However.... My OB has indicated that she feels 8 yrs old is not old enough for most kids, and has suggested that I rethink this. I think my daughter is fairly mature for her age and she has expressed alot of interest in participating. Should I follow my instinct here, or am I overly confident in my daughter? Betsy |
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I was 12 at my sister's birth. She was 8 at my daughter's birth. My
daughter was 11 at her sister's birth... it scarred none of us. |
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DD slept on the couch in the dining room and we woke her up when the
birth was close...she slept through my howling and bellowing and came over in time to see "the head pop right out!!!" Wouldn't have had it any other way. I sort of thougth she'd be cool with some of the labor support thing, but she kept staring at me and asking if the baby was coming so I sent her to lie down. Jenrose |
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oups.com... I was 12 at my sister's birth. She was 8 at my daughter's birth. My daughter was 11 at her sister's birth... it scarred none of us. Well, as someone who is not good at math and word problems, I'm going to be scarred for life because of the above sentence... -- Jamie -- still rereading it and scratching my head... Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- My Big Girl, who started preschool, and loved it! Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- My Little Walker, who wants nothing more than to go explore the world! Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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