SO sad :(

I dont post much anymore but I think some of you remember me.

Im just utterly heartbroken. My baby kitten died this morning. She was 5 mos
old. I have NO idea why or what caused it. She was sick early this morning,
about 4-5ish am. Threw up on the bed a few times. I put her in the bathroom
thinking she needed a drink. I never saw her again. When I called her to eat
about 8:00, I couldn't find her. I figured she was sleeping. I found her
under the bed while cleaning up to leave - for vacation today - to Florida.
I dont even want to go now and we've been planning this trip for 2 years.

Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have
always wanted. My kids are going to take this terribly, they are in school
and loved her more than I did I think. We're scheduled to leave today around
5:00 and now, I dont know how this is going to affect this trip or how we're
even going to be able to have fun.

Kari
mom to Kaylie, noah and Xander

"firedancer" wrote in message
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Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have
always wanted. My kids are going to take this terribly, they are in school
and loved her more than I did I think. We're scheduled to leave today
around
5:00 and now, I dont know how this is going to affect this trip or how
we're
even going to be able to have fun.


I'm sorry about your kitty
I probably wouldn't tell the kids before you leave, maybe wait and tell them
when you get home? No reason for them to have an unhappy vacation.

Melody wrote:
"firedancer" wrote in message
news:PeDWe.841$T55.519@trndny06...


Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have
always wanted. My kids are going to take this terribly, they are in school
and loved her more than I did I think.

It's really tough to do. You just have to take it
one step at a time. Cry and grieve and do what you have
to do. You will be able to enjoy your vacation, even if it
will be bittersweet at times. Just keep putting one foot in
front of the other.

I'm sorry about your kitty
I probably wouldn't tell the kids before you leave, maybe wait and tell them
when you get home? No reason for them to have an unhappy vacation.

Unless they're all *extremely* young, I wouldn't do
that personally. I'd feel very betrayed if my parents held
out on me like that. Plus, it forces mom to grieve alone
and in silence and puts the kids in the position of wondering
what they did wrong to make mom so sad. Share the news.
It will be very sad, but sometimes grieving together helps,
and kids can be very comforting through the process.

Best wishes,
Ericka

In PeDWe.841$T55.519@trndny06,
firedancer wrote:

*Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
*loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have

That's rough, Kari. Cats are good at hiding sickness until they are very
very ill. It is of course next to impossible to try to figure out what
specifically was wrong in this situation, but it is possible there was
something congenitally wrong with the kitten that just didn't show up
before. I'm sorry for your loss. The only words of wisdom I have a you
did your best to give the kitten a good life while she was with you, and
that is more than a lot of other people do for their pets. In time you
will come to terms with the loss, but it will probably be hard for a while


--
Hillary Israeli, VMD
Lafayette Hill/PA/USA/Earth
"Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is
too dark to read." --Groucho Marx

"firedancer" wrote in message
news:PeDWe.841$T55.519@trndny06...
I dont post much anymore but I think some of you remember me.

Im just utterly heartbroken. My baby kitten died this morning. She was 5
mos old. I have NO idea why or what caused it. She was sick early this
morning, about 4-5ish am. Threw up on the bed a few times. I put her in
the bathroom thinking she needed a drink. I never saw her again. When I
called her to eat about 8:00, I couldn't find her. I figured she was
sleeping. I found her under the bed while cleaning up to leave - for
vacation today - to Florida. I dont even want to go now and we've been
planning this trip for 2 years.

Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have
always wanted. My kids are going to take this terribly, they are in school
and loved her more than I did I think. We're scheduled to leave today
around 5:00 and now, I dont know how this is going to affect this trip or
how we're even going to be able to have fun.

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your kitten. It is so difficult to lose
a pet, particularly when she is young and you don't know what happened. I
don't have any advice for telling your children (I haven't dealt with this
yet), but I wanted to give you my sympathy.

Sarah

"firedancer" wrote in message
news:PeDWe.841$T55.519@trndny06...
I dont post much anymore but I think some of you remember me.

Im just utterly heartbroken. My baby kitten died this morning. She was 5
mos old. I have NO idea why or what caused it. She was sick early this
morning, about 4-5ish am. Threw up on the bed a few times. I put her in
the bathroom thinking she needed a drink. I never saw her again. When I
called her to eat about 8:00, I couldn't find her. I figured she was
sleeping. I found her under the bed while cleaning up to leave - for
vacation today - to Florida. I dont even want to go now and we've been
planning this trip for 2 years.

Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have
always wanted. My kids are going to take this terribly, they are in school
and loved her more than I did I think. We're scheduled to leave today
around 5:00 and now, I dont know how this is going to affect this trip or
how we're even going to be able to have fun.

((((Kari))))

I'm so sorry :-( Our 13 month old kitten was hit on the road in early 2001
and I still feel very sad when I think about it. The trip won't be what it
would have been, but perhaps it will give you and the children space to
grieve away from school and work. Classmates & workmates don't always
understand the depth of feeling pet owners have for their pets, and the
utter grief of losing them, so I think time together as a family can only be
a good thing, regardless of the circumstances.


--
Amy
Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02,
& Ana born screaming 30/06/04
http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/
My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/

In misc.kids.pregnancy Ericka Kammerer wrote:
: Melody wrote:

: I'm sorry about your kitty
: I probably wouldn't tell the kids before you leave, maybe wait and tell them
: when you get home? No reason for them to have an unhappy vacation.

: Unless they're all *extremely* young, I wouldn't do
: that personally. I'd feel very betrayed if my parents held
: out on me like that. Plus, it forces mom to grieve alone
: and in silence and puts the kids in the position of wondering
: what they did wrong to make mom so sad. Share the news.
: It will be very sad, but sometimes grieving together helps,
: and kids can be very comforting through the process.

: Best wishes,
: Ericka

Exactly. I couldn't agree more with Ericka!

Larry

In article PeDWe.841$T55.519@trndny06, "firedancer"
wrote:

I dont post much anymore but I think some of you remember me.

Im just utterly heartbroken. My baby kitten died this morning. She was 5 mos
old. I have NO idea why or what caused it. She was sick early this morning,
about 4-5ish am. Threw up on the bed a few times. I put her in the bathroom
thinking she needed a drink. I never saw her again. When I called her to eat
about 8:00, I couldn't find her. I figured she was sleeping. I found her
under the bed while cleaning up to leave - for vacation today - to Florida.
I dont even want to go now and we've been planning this trip for 2 years.

Please send me some advice on how to cope with this sudden death of a MUCH
loved pet, she was my 30th b-day present and the Siamese kitten I have
always wanted. My kids are going to take this terribly, they are in school
and loved her more than I did I think. We're scheduled to leave today around
5:00 and now, I dont know how this is going to affect this trip or how we're
even going to be able to have fun.

Kari
mom to Kaylie, noah and Xander



I'm a big believer in ritual to help deal with grief and loss. When our
cat died, we had a memorial service that involved reading "The Tenth
Good Thing About Barney" (great book by Judith Viorst), and the kids
made a list of 10 great things about our cat. We painted her name on
the top of a rock, and put her picture and the list on the bottom of the
rock, and put it in the garden. (We'd had her euthenized, and didn't
have a body to bury.) It seemed to help, both me AND the kids.
--
Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care

In message PeDWe.841$T55.519@trndny06, firedancer
writes
I dont post much anymore but I think some of you remember me.

Im just utterly heartbroken. My baby kitten died this morning.

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious kitten. I'm sorry I can't
do anything to help apart from lighting a candle for the poor baby.
--
Mogget

Hugs. It is sad to lose a pet. I hope you will be able to enjoy your trip,
in spite of this sad turn of events.
--

Jamie
Earth Angels:
Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- My Big Girl, who started preschool, and loved it!
Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- My Little Walker, who wants nothing more than to
go explore the world!

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