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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
Jill wrote:
I just have a few questions.. 1. With your first baby is it normal to be scared/worried? (Again, I am terrified I will go on with insomnia, labor will hurt, etc) It is quite common--it would probably be abnormal if you didn't have some fears ;-) The insomnia will probably get better (then worse, then better, then worse...) and will probably also improve if you get the anxiety more under control. Labor will hurt, but you will be able to cope with it (and if you can't, there are options for dealing with *that*). That said, while it's normal to be scared and worried, it is also a very good idea to try to work through your fears so that you're not in a constant state of anxiety. That's not great for you or the baby. Knowledge is your friend here. The more you know, the more confident you'll feel and the less you'll be afraid. And since fear leads to tension which leads to pain, the more you can get your fears under control the better you will be able to cope with labor. 2. My doctors are not believers in a pregnant woman taking ANYthing other than plain Tylenol or Zantac. At least in the first trimester....I was taking Zanaflex and Klonopin to prevent migraines- it worked very well but of course I stopped as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I checked weekly.) So currently I am taking no medications except Zantac, and am doing well, no headaches. I have researched it and get conflicting info...some doctors allow Klonopin if the MTB is having major panic attacks etc..others don't. I have read where some say they took Klonopin with no adverse effects on the baby. I am NOT taking it, to be safe...but what are your thoughts on medications during each trimester...do you doctors have different opinions? I think mine err on the safe side and so I follow their advice, but being unable to sleep and just toss and turn every night is mierable (I never used Klonopin for sleep, it doesn't make me sleepy, but it was a good headache preventive for me)...I am just wondering how to deal with anxiety/insonmia in a medication free way? Yes, doctors vary considerably in their approach to drugs, and it's easy for them to be conservative because they know there won't be any side effects if you're not taking anything. Some women find that their migraines go away while pregnant, and you might be among the lucky. If you are not, and you're in pain, don't let your doctors' conservatism leave you struggling. If they won't work with you to find effective drugs for your migraines, change care providers. There are drugs you can take--and probably some of them are ones your doctors may not feel comfortable prescribing. But it's your head and you shouldn't have to be in serious pain. And one more thing, I am scared to death...can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok??? I will be posting and reading here often I am sure... Sorry, but pregnancy is often annoying and uncomfortable and labor hurts too. But the outcome is worth it, and you can learn to deal with whatever you need to deal with. Stubbing your toe hurts a *lot* too, but we manage when it happens ;-) Pregnancy is a process you go through, and when you confront the fears and challenges involved and surmount them, you'll feel like a million bucks and ready to take on the world-- and you'll need that confidence when faced with a new small human to bring up in the world ;-) Hang in there--you'll make it! Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Jill wrote: I just have a few questions.. 1. With your first baby is it normal to be scared/worried? (Again, I am terrified I will go on with insomnia, labor will hurt, etc) It is quite common--it would probably be abnormal if you didn't have some fears ;-) The insomnia will probably get better (then worse, then better, then worse...) and will probably also improve if you get the anxiety more under control. Labor will hurt, but you will be able to cope with it (and if you can't, there are options for dealing with *that*). That said, while it's normal to be scared and worried, it is also a very good idea to try to work through your fears so that you're not in a constant state of anxiety. That's not great for you or the baby. Knowledge is your friend here. The more you know, the more confident you'll feel and the less you'll be afraid. And since fear leads to tension which leads to pain, the more you can get your fears under control the better you will be able to cope with labor. 2. My doctors are not believers in a pregnant woman taking ANYthing other than plain Tylenol or Zantac. At least in the first trimester....I was taking Zanaflex and Klonopin to prevent migraines- it worked very well but of course I stopped as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I checked weekly.) So currently I am taking no medications except Zantac, and am doing well, no headaches. I have researched it and get conflicting info...some doctors allow Klonopin if the MTB is having major panic attacks etc..others don't. I have read where some say they took Klonopin with no adverse effects on the baby. I am NOT taking it, to be safe...but what are your thoughts on medications during each trimester...do you doctors have different opinions? I think mine err on the safe side and so I follow their advice, but being unable to sleep and just toss and turn every night is mierable (I never used Klonopin for sleep, it doesn't make me sleepy, but it was a good headache preventive for me)...I am just wondering how to deal with anxiety/insonmia in a medication free way? Yes, doctors vary considerably in their approach to drugs, and it's easy for them to be conservative because they know there won't be any side effects if you're not taking anything. Some women find that their migraines go away while pregnant, and you might be among the lucky. If you are not, and you're in pain, don't let your doctors' conservatism leave you struggling. If they won't work with you to find effective drugs for your migraines, change care providers. There are drugs you can take--and probably some of them are ones your doctors may not feel comfortable prescribing. But it's your head and you shouldn't have to be in serious pain. And one more thing, I am scared to death...can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok??? I will be posting and reading here often I am sure... Sorry, but pregnancy is often annoying and uncomfortable and labor hurts too. But the outcome is worth it, and you can learn to deal with whatever you need to deal with. Stubbing your toe hurts a *lot* too, but we manage when it happens ;-) Pregnancy is a process you go through, and when you confront the fears and challenges involved and surmount them, you'll feel like a million bucks and ready to take on the world-- and you'll need that confidence when faced with a new small human to bring up in the world ;-) Now I look back I would say that until I had been through pregnancy birth and new motherhood I had no idea what I was capable of! I feel like I can do anything now. I agree with Ericka, it is very hard at times and yes labour hurts! But I also agree with her that it is all worth it. Good Luck Judy |
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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
Jill says:
And one more thing, I am scared to death...can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok??? First of all: congratulations! I was phobic about childbirth before I became pregnant. My first pregnancy was indeed planned, and we hit it on the first try, but that didn't keep me from feeling absolute dread during a good portion of it. I spent that 9 months becoming as educated as I could, coming to terms with labor as well as I could. A nice thing that happened to me during that 9 months was that despite the fear, I couldn't help but be in awe of the amazing feat my body was accomplishing. It truly is humbling, this incredible power we women possess. No other pregnancy will be like your first. I hope once the morning sickness passes, you can start to feel that sense of amazement at what's going on inside of you. It really is special. :-) Best of luck! -- Alpha alphawave at earthlink dot net |
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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
1. With your first baby is it normal to be scared/worried? (Again, I am
terrified I will go on with insomnia, labor will hurt, etc) It's TOTALLY normal to be scared. This baby is my first, and I am scared to death. Scared of labor and delivery, scared of raising a child, but you just have to have confidence in yourself! but what are your thoughts on medications during each trimester...do you doctors have different opinions? I was told tylenol (acetomeniphen) ONLY for pain, and I was really nauseated for the first 2 months, so I had a prescription for phenergan. I am just wondering how to deal with anxiety/insonmia in a medication free way? Well, I like to read, or do some sort of crafty thing, like crochet. Take a bath or go swimming. That always calms me. can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok? Well, no one can tell you all of these things for sure. Except that pregnancy is a joy. You'll feel miserable, but once you see your baby, or hear it's heartbeat, it makes it a little better. As for uncomfortable...it's going to happen. I am only 16 weeks, and I am so uncomfortable, but whenever I feel those little flutters inside me, I remember WHY I'm uncomfortable. There is a little life inside me. It makes me happy. Labor is an experience that no one can prepare you for...just try to stay optomistic, and prepare yourself as much as possible. *catherine edd 2/29/04 pictures-http://www.geocities.com/vanillaxbliss/index.html journal-http://cat_claws.livejournal.com |
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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I just have a few questions.. 1. With your first baby is it normal to be scared/worried? (Again, I am terrified I will go on with insomnia, labor will hurt, etc) I know I am! The best thing I am doing is asking allot of questions, reading a few books, watching television shows on pregnancy. I also rented and watched Pregnancy for Dummies Part 1 and will be watching Part 2 soon. Education seems to have alleviated much of my fear. Though honestly, I'm still worried. 2. My doctors are not believers in a pregnant woman taking ANYthing other than plain Tylenol or Zantac. snip but what are your thoughts on medications during each trimester...do you doctors have different opinions? My doctor asked me to stop taking the water pills and valium I was taking. I did take them up to my 5th or 6th week of pregnancy. I think mine err on the safe side and so I follow their advice, but being unable to sleep and just toss and turn every night is mierable (I never used Klonopin for sleep, it doesn't make me sleepy, but it was a good headache preventive for me)...I am just wondering how to deal with anxiety/insonmia in a medication free way? I applaud your physicians for erring on the safe side and you for following their advice. I would ask your ob/gyn about what you can do to deal with the anxiety/insomnia. And thanking god I haven't had a migraine. I normally use Imitrex and was told I can have none of that while pregnant. Narcotics generally don't help my migraines. But my ob/gyn told me that after the first trimester it would be possible for me to take a monitored number of Darvocet or something, one of the prescription pain relievers with a Tylenol base and a little bit of narcotic...can some of you share your experiences with me, and what your own doctors have and have not allowed during pregnancy? First and foremost I want to do everything possible for a healthy baby... Glad you haven't had a migrane. I stopped ALL medications. I have suffered body aches and headaches AND insomnia, but I just can't take any medications. It would cause me more worry. I take my prenatal vitamin and folic acid daily. And one more thing, I am scared to death...can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok??? I will be posting and reading here often I am sure... Wow. This is my first pregnancy. I'm 39. I haven't gotten to the "joyful" part, but at the same time, I haven't thought about the "pain of labor" short of asking my doctor to make it as painless as possible. I can already, at 4 -5 weeks or so, tell that my body is changing....weird things. I have hot flashes- I have always been hot natured, but am now VERY hot natured...I crave salt really bad (yes I am taking a prenatal vitamin!)...I am VERY moody, very much....and my skin is itchy everywhere! My back itches, my legs itch, my face itches..my skin allover feels dry and itchy. I feel tearful...and a few more embarassing things.... Good grief. I hope that once your fears are alleviated many of your negative symptoms dissepate. Do keep us posted on your progress. Hang in there. Ask questions. Read. If you believe, pray. Talk with other mothers. You will be fine. Try to enjoy the ride! ~Carol Ann |
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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
"Jill" wrote in message
Hi all...my name is Jill and I just turned 27. I have been married since last October 6...my husband and I decided to stop trying to prevent a baby just a few weeks ago. I figured it would take a while to get pregnant, but boom, here I am. I have my first visit with the nurse tomorrow and my doctor's appointment is at the end of next week when I should be far enough along (the doctor's office wouldn't take me until I am at 8 weeks or later, is this normal? I did have the pregnancy confirmed by my primary care doc...) Seeing a doctor for the first time between 8-12 weeks is very normal. With my pregnancy, I saw a doctor at 4 weeks because I was having some spotting. I saw her again at 7 weeks for an ultrasound. If I hadn't had the spotting and she hadn't recommended the early ultrasound, I woudn't have had a first visit until 8 weeks with that practice. I saw my doctor at the birth center for the first time at 14 weeks. They would normally have scheduled me for the for the first appt. at 12 weeks, but since I had been seeing the other doctor, we waited until 14 weeks. Anyway I have developed a big case of cold feet. This is my first pregnancy and I *am* happy but I am scared to death....will it be uncomfortable, will it HURT, etc. For one thing I am suffering from nausea almost constantly and also, I can't sleep. I am having great difficulty in even getting a few solid hours of sleep. I have stayed up all night several nights already. That itself, I think, is making my anxiety worse..when you can't sleep and have hormonal changes...=anxiety. I had very bad anxiety early in my pregnancy--it was all over fear of losing the baby though. I was pertrified that my body couldn't really *do* this and that it would fail me and fail to take good care of the baby (now, I realize that my body is a pretty fabulous and competent thing :-) I didn't have any nausea or any trouble with insomnia, so that made my pregnancy easy to adjust to--it wasn't uncomfortable for me. Even now, six days from my due date, I wouldn't describe myself as uncomfortable. I realize that I have had a very easy pregnancy and have been lucky to have very few of the common pregnancy "complaints." I do think that part of feeling comfortable and not "inconvenienced" by pregnancy, is a bit in how you approach things though--if you expect to feel uncomfortable, huge, and miserable, you most likely will feel that way! Aside from the anxiety about things going wrong, I have approached the physical parts of my pregnancy as being "neat changes" :-) I suffer from migraine headaches and the good news is I have not had a single one. I didn't get migraines per se, but I did have frequent (almost daily) headaches pre-pregnancy, as well as a once or twice monthly *very severe* headaches. I have had very few of either kind, since becoming pregnant--I wish the same for you! I just have a few questions.. 1. With your first baby is it normal to be scared/worried? (Again, I am terrified I will go on with insomnia, labor will hurt, etc) Yep. Normal! :-) And one more thing, I am scared to death...can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok??? I will be posting and reading here often I am sure... I can already, at 4 -5 weeks or so, tell that my body is changing....weird things. I have hot flashes- I have always been hot natured, but am now VERY hot natured...I crave salt really bad (yes I am taking a prenatal vitamin!)...I am VERY moody, very much....and my skin is itchy everywhere! My back itches, my legs itch, my face itches..my skin allover feels dry and itchy. I feel tearful...and a few more embarassing things.... Like I touched on above, I think a certain amount of pregnancy discomfort is based on how you approach things (I'm *not* discounting that there are uncomfortable parts of pregnancy or that people that complain more than me, are just complaining about things that are all in their heads or something). I have been fairly lucky in that I *don't* have many of the common pregnancy complaints--nausea, heartburn, insomnia, etc. The things that I do have that are slightly bothersome, like lower backache and frequent Braxton-Hicks contractions, I choose to let kind of roll off. I don't dwell on them or let them bother me much at all. I *do* honestly feel that pregnancy is a joy and would not describe it as uncomfortable or painful at all. (I don't know about labor yet ;-) I feel energetic and alive and happy and in love with my baby. I do not feel uncomfortable or lumbering or unattractive or like I wish it would all be over (though I am getting eager to finally have the baby in arms!). My body is a pretty cool thing--it knows how to create, nourish, and sustain a new life. It takes good care of me and it takes good care of my baby :-) I'm getting a tiny bit of cold feet about my ability to be a *mother* 24/7 now! Didn't have those feelings early on when all I wanted was for the baby to stay alive, but now that I'm on the very last bit of my pregnancy I have had occasional feelings of, "it would be okay for the baby to just stay inside forever, I'm not quite ready for the constantness of an outside-baby yet." Best wishes and good luck--it is very normal to feel fearful and nervous about something so new and something that is such a huge change! -- Em edd 9/23/03 (39w1d) |
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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
"Jill" wrote in message m...
1. With your first baby is it normal to be scared/worried? (Again, I am terrified I will go on with insomnia, labor will hurt, etc) Yup, it's normal to be worried. Just remind yourself that pregnancy is a normal part of life, and that we are designed to do this. 2. My doctors are not believers in a pregnant woman taking ANYthing other than plain Tylenol or Zantac. Well, they are right, it's best to take nothing. But, there comes a point, that you have to ask yourself, which is worse, prenatal exposure to a drug, or a hurting exhasted mother. Weigh that question carefully, and try to take as little as possible, but if it becomes necessary to take something, don't beat yourself up. I took only tylenol occasionally, and then when I had such a horrible cold at 8 months pregnant, I finally broke down and took a cough medicine with codeine so that I could sleep without coughing And one more thing, I am scared to death...can someone please tell me that pregnancy is a joy, is not that uncomfortable or painful, and that labor will be ok??? I will be posting and reading here often I am sure... Pregnancy is often a joy, but it's uncomfortable at times too! And Labor will be fine, but it *does* hurt. However, your body is designed to handle labor just fine, so despite it's pain, you'll be just fine. The answer: Read, read, read! I recommend the following books: 1. The Pregnancy Book, and The Birth Book by William and Martha Sears 2. The Thinking woman's guide to a better birth 3. Anything by Shiela Kitzinger 4. Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way by Susan McCutcheon. I recomend you avoid the What to Expect When You are Expecting book. I hated it, and found it to be really dire, and the diet impossible. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
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Even now, six days from my due date I
Wow Em! You are soooo close now! How the time flies :-) -- ~~~Cheers!~~~ Jenn-WAHM-DS11-DD6-TTC#3 |
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"Fer" wrote in message
Even now, six days from my due date I Wow Em! You are soooo close now! How the time flies :-) Time does fly!! I cannot believe I am at this point already! I do sort of have an "eternally pregnant" feeling, but I also remember the early days of my pregnancy like it was yesterday and it seems unbelievable that here I am thisclose to my baby! -- Em edd 9/23/03 (39w1d) |
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Pregnant with 1st, and scared!
"Em" wrote in message news:zg1ab.490718$uu5.84269@sccrnsc04...
"Fer" wrote in message Even now, six days from my due date I Wow Em! You are soooo close now! How the time flies :-) Time does fly!! I cannot believe I am at this point already! I do sort of have an "eternally pregnant" feeling, but I also remember the early days of my pregnancy like it was yesterday and it seems unbelievable that here I am thisclose to my baby! Funny how we perceive time isn't it? I remember a few days before having my son looking at my profile in the mirror and being in awe that I had a full fledged baby inside ready to come out Jenn TTC#3 |
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