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Adult stuck at 14 years old
This probably isn't the best place to ask this but I don't know where
else I can ask. I guess I'm hoping that maybe someone has dealt with a similar situation and can offer advice. I have a 25 year old step sister who I know needs help. After high school she didn't go to college and didn't get a job. She was extremely stressed out from high school and wanted to take a year off. She's been doing nothing for seven years. She's very shy, has no friends, is afraid to drive (has no driver's license) and just stays at home all the time. She has a few untreatable sleep disorders that may her constantly fatigued. When she wakes up she feels like she could sleep for another 8 hours. She also has had an anxiety disorder and depression since early childhood (3 or 4) but wasn't diagnosed until a year or two ago, it currently isn't being treated. She also says that she feels like she's 14 years old. As if that's when her life stopped and she got stuck there. She says that the idea of getting a full time job and all the things that come with it are as overwhelming to her as it would be to a 14 year old. Could you imagine being 14 and your parents telling you that you have to get a full time job, drive to work, pay taxes, etc.? Wouldn't that be scary and overwhelming at that age? That's how my sister feels. She says that everything in her life feels wrong and has for a long time. She feels that's something isn't right but can't figure out what. No one else knows about this except for me. She does an excellent job of hiding her true feelings from everyone. She says that if she has to get a job, that she thinks she'll have a mental breakdown from the stress. In high school she kind of did go a little crazy/psychotic for a few years. Although, I don't think anyone else knew or was aware of that. Mental illness does run in her family. She can't go to the doctor because she doesn't have insurance or money. There's no free clinic around here and her parents won't pay because they obviously don't understand. I also don't have any money to help her. Does anyone have any suggestions on what she or I can do to help? Any ideas on why she feels like she's stuck at 14? I think that's a huge part of the problem. I just don't know what to do. I'm scared for her. |
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"enigma" wrote in message . .. wrote in ups.com: This probably isn't the best place to ask this but I don't know where else I can ask. I guess I'm hoping that maybe someone has dealt with a similar situation and can offer advice. she has a mental health problem, or possibly autism. I agree. She definitely has a mental health problem, or more than one. She may have agoraphobia, which is fear of public places. There are many other mental health problems she may have. Even if we could diagnose it here, she still needs to see a psychologist or psychatrist. Treatment should help. parents are just telling her to buck up & get a job, they are not helping AT ALL for either scenario. she needs to see a psych doctor and get a diagnoses of her problems. it may be possible that she can be helped by medication. if she doesn't have insurance she needs to talk to your state welfare organization. she can't work, so she may be eligible for Medicade. is she living at home? if they want her to get better, they need to take her to a qualified doctor. did they just ignore the childhood depression & hope it would go away? has she never been seen for the sleep disorders? this is all tied in together & unless someone gets her the help she nedds, she will never be able to function as an adult. she feels overwhelmed because she IS. I agree. She definitely needs to see a mental health professional. Family counseling may help, too, to help clue the parents in on what the problem is and what they can do to help. Jeff lee |
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"Ignoramus15359" wrote in message ... What is her pulse in the morning? Her problems may not necessarily be mental, she may have an underactive thyroid, or other problems. i Excellent point. A perfect place for her to start would be go to her family physician. Eliminating other factors, like hypothyroidism is part of the evaluation for depression and other mental disorders. Jeff On 10 Jun 2005 00:29:54 -0700, wrote: This probably isn't the best place to ask this but I don't know where else I can ask. I guess I'm hoping that maybe someone has dealt with a similar situation and can offer advice. I have a 25 year old step sister who I know needs help. After high school she didn't go to college and didn't get a job. She was extremely stressed out from high school and wanted to take a year off. She's been doing nothing for seven years. She's very shy, has no friends, is afraid to drive (has no driver's license) and just stays at home all the time. She has a few untreatable sleep disorders that may her constantly fatigued. When she wakes up she feels like she could sleep for another 8 hours. She also has had an anxiety disorder and depression since early childhood (3 or 4) but wasn't diagnosed until a year or two ago, it currently isn't being treated. She also says that she feels like she's 14 years old. As if that's when her life stopped and she got stuck there. She says that the idea of getting a full time job and all the things that come with it are as overwhelming to her as it would be to a 14 year old. Could you imagine being 14 and your parents telling you that you have to get a full time job, drive to work, pay taxes, etc.? Wouldn't that be scary and overwhelming at that age? That's how my sister feels. She says that everything in her life feels wrong and has for a long time. She feels that's something isn't right but can't figure out what. No one else knows about this except for me. She does an excellent job of hiding her true feelings from everyone. She says that if she has to get a job, that she thinks she'll have a mental breakdown from the stress. In high school she kind of did go a little crazy/psychotic for a few years. Although, I don't think anyone else knew or was aware of that. Mental illness does run in her family. She can't go to the doctor because she doesn't have insurance or money. There's no free clinic around here and her parents won't pay because they obviously don't understand. I also don't have any money to help her. Does anyone have any suggestions on what she or I can do to help? Any ideas on why she feels like she's stuck at 14? I think that's a huge part of the problem. I just don't know what to do. I'm scared for her. -- |
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Some people got improvement from agoraphobia by taking flax oil, a source of omega-3 essential fatty acids (EFA). Most people in modern society have diets deficient in EFA's. Flax oil can help, or if that is too expensive, eati ng fish more often is another way to get these important brain nutrients. Some nuts and seeds also have them. Other nutrients impotrtant for proper brain function include vitamin C and the B-complex vitamins. For example, switching to whole-grain bread for B vitamins could possibly help a bit if she's deficient, though she might need supplements if she needs more if these vitamins than the average person. Getting plenty of exercise might help. You can look in the library for books by David Burns. These books are really great for help ing people with depression and anxiety disorders, by working with thoughts and behaviours. Changing the thought patterns and behaviour patterns can lead to positive changes in brain chemistry -- though if the main cause of her problems is hormones or something the amount of help may be limited. they've done studies, though, and his books are as good or better than drugs on average in treating depression. Part of the treatment for agoraphobia is to just get out thereA: face your fears, go places you're afraid of going. After a few times the fear tends to diminish. You also use positive self-talk: "I'm OK. I'm safe here." etc. The Burns book can help with these things. If the main probelm is anxiety or agoraphobia I recommend his "The Feeling Good Handbook". For depression I recommend "Ten Days to Self Esteem". For a variety of problems I recommend "Feeling Good". All these books are rather similar and cover a variety of problems. -- Cathy Woodgold A *much* better world is possible. |
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