Please Help! NOW!

I bought the Maya wrap but can't imagine it working well until Morgan is
bigger.

Try the upright newborn hold.


I've lost track of how old Morgan is, about 6 weeks? You should be able to
manage it, we use the upright newborn hold from around 4 weeks and it was
very sucessful.

In misc.kids.breastfeeding Carol Ann wrote:

: I bought the Bjorn yesterday and as soon as Kevin is able to be here long
: enough, I will try it on. I don't want to lock her into it until I have
: someone to help me get her out just in case the lock sticks. Just the first
: time.

I must say I don't like the Bjorn. IMHO there are better slings for
newborns. Can you find someone to help show you how to use the Maya
for a tiny baby?

Larry

I bought the Bjorn yesterday and as soon as Kevin is able to be here long
enough, I will try it on. I don't want to lock her into it until I have
someone to help me get her out just in case the lock sticks. Just the
first
time.

I must say I don't like the Bjorn. IMHO there are better slings for
newborns. Can you find someone to help show you how to use the Maya
for a tiny baby?

Larry

I'll watch the Instructional DVD again and see if I can manage it.



~Carol Ann
Mom to Morgan born 3.24.04
http://tinyurl.com/299ot ---Pictures of Morgan

On Mon, 10 May 2004 04:10:05 GMT, "Carol Ann"
wrote:

I bought the Bjorn yesterday and as soon as Kevin is able to be here long
enough, I will try it on. I don't want to lock her into it until I have
someone to help me get her out just in case the lock sticks. Just the
first
time.

I must say I don't like the Bjorn. IMHO there are better slings for
newborns. Can you find someone to help show you how to use the Maya
for a tiny baby?

Larry

I'll watch the Instructional DVD again and see if I can manage it.

Just a data point: Grace hateshateshates her Maya Wrap and loves the
Bjorn. Every baby's different.

Naomi

"Carol Ann" wrote and I snipped:

I've tried rocking, singing, swinging, bouncing.....some work some of the
time if she falls asleep. But, I don't know what to do when she doesn't
want to sleep. After I change her, play with her, walk around with her,
swing her, sing to her...I just don't know what else to do. Then, she
starts crying and crying and crying.......

I feel like a feeding machine.

Carol Ann, have you worked on Morgan's latch? Really, just one visit to/by
an LC or one LLL meeting, and you could find something that really helps. I
second the suggestion to use the football hold, get her to open her mouth
wide, and ram her on. Perhaps she needs to fill her tummy. (And, it will
avoid supply problems in the future, too.)

BTW, my DD was a 'high needs baby', and we didn't have a pleasant day until
she was about 8 weeks old. Some babies just take longer to grow out of that
newborn what-am-I-doing-here? phase.

Take care,
-Patty, mom to Corinne (6y) and Nathan (almost 4y)
and stepmom to Victoria (14y)

"Carol Ann" wrote in message news:nOgnc.54688$kh4.3166269@attbi_s52...

I bought the Maya wrap but can't imagine it working well until Morgan is
bigger.

I put DS in a sling the day he came home from the hospital at 5 pounds
3 ounces, so you can use one with Morgan! Ask if you need any help
getting it to work properly; lots of us have used slings.

FWIW, DS was just like that, and I desperately needed the sling to
work in order to, say, pee. Things were manageable with one, since he
just wanted to be held.

--
C, mama to eighteen month old nursling

Just hang in there and it's ok to let her cry on her own for a little
bit,
especially if you know nothing's wrong. A little crying will not hurt
her
at all and she might learn to put herself to sleep. You need your sanity
in
order to be a good momma, leaving her on her own does not make you a bad
mother. My pediatrician had to drill this into me because I felt so bad,
but knowing that she was just fine I dealt with it.

With me it was my darling neigbor Mary, across the street (who talked me
through more new parent crises than you can shake a stick at.). Repeat
after me, Carol Ann "Crying Will Only Make Her Tired."

It's the hardest thing in the world to do, to just let your sweet darling
cry, but sometimes there is nothing you can do to fix things. Newborns
cry.
If they're not hungry, tired, hot, cold, sick or bored... they are just
crying. I know how awful it is -- my blood pressure used to shoot up and
I
would instantly have a hot flash when Sarah started to wail. But try to
remind yourself that crying is what babies do. It will only make her
tired.
It will only make her tired. It will only make her tired.....

You're a good mom, Carol Ann. You are doing the very best anyone can do
with a newborn. Don't worry about transmitting your anxiety to your
baby --
let me tell you, every first time mom needs prozac, I swear. You're no
different than any of us are/were, with our first babies. You're going to
get through this just fine.

Donna

PS: I'm assuming you've tried tight swaddling, right?

Thank you, EVERYONE for your suggestions and comforting words. I hear you.
I'm listening.

I know it will get better (if only because I just accept that babies cry and
it's okay).

It seems so hot now to swaddle but I can try it again. She's also very big
now. I am up to the size 1 diapers and she's only 7 weeks along.

I think it is worse for me because the help I WAS getting is no longer
available and the only help I could count on (Kevin) isn't able to do much.

But, I am in love with Morgan so I will make it all work out for the benefit
of us both....I hope.

LOL!

~Carol Ann
Mom to Morgan born 3.24.04
http://tinyurl.com/299ot ---Pictures of Morgan

13608 This will mostly echo what others have already said, but since our
babes
are about the same age, I'll tell you what has worked for me:

-the bjorn - if she's super fussy I can strap her in there and get some
things done 'hands free' and she usually conks out
-do you have a bouncy seat or swing? sometimes those will work for a
while
-holding her facing outward; holding her tummy down over my knees. both
ways seem to put pressure on her tummy and helps with possible gas
-RELAX - if she cries, she cries. Its annoying and hard to listen to
but sometimes babies *need* to let off steam and just cry for a spell.
Sometimes when nothing works with M she fusses and cries and gets all
worked up and then suddenly relaxes and falls asleep.
Hang in there - the first 3 months are really tough with some babies,
but it generally improves drastically as the weeks go on...

cara

Thank you, Cara (and all of you who responded).....thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kevin is playing with her at the moment. Yesterday she was divine. Today
she has been fussy. I welcome the encouragement and comforting words.


~Carol Ann
Mom to Morgan born 3.24.04
http://tinyurl.com/299ot ---Pictures of Morgan

"Sophie" wrote in message
...
I used to put my kids in the Bjorn by myself all the time. Put the Bjorn
on
the bed or couch, put the baby it in, lean right down, and slip it on.
It's
not that hard.

That's also the way to get the baby out of the carrier: lay her down and
slither out of the harness yourself.

Beth

"Larry McMahan" wrote in message
...
I must say I don't like the Bjorn. IMHO there are better slings for
newborns. Can you find someone to help show you how to use the Maya
for a tiny baby?

Wish I'd known about a Maya wrap when Teddy was a newborn; our NoJo would
not tighten up because of the padded rails. Hrrrh!

Beth