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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
Man, oh man, what an active topic. I had to pop in here. With 8yo frat boys
and now an almost 4yo girl (raising my niece since 22 mos), we've crossed this bridge, sort of. The boys always knew that they had penises and testicles. (Suddenly remembering a bath time surprise "Mom!!! There's a ball in my scrotum!!!" when one found his testes! ROFLMAO at the time! He thought something he had eaten had gotten stuck!) Anyway, the general term for that area in our house is their "parts" as in private parts, and as in more than one thing down there. We figured that it leaves us lots of room to improve as time goes on. It also shortens the conversations during bath time, as in "Did you wash your parts?" or "Is all the soap out of your parts?". It gets the message across and they can check around themselves and make sure they're clean, etc. When it comes to specific terms for specific situations, we use them. One DS had a terrible, irritated fungal rash last year around his anus from improper wiping and we used that term at the doctor's and after when discussing that specific problem. (It was kinda gross having to apply ointment, but it was all very matter of fact and we kept him informed of his recovery each time.) He is now much more careful BTW. When we talk about using the slot in their underwear to go to the bathroom (a new concept to them) we use the term penis. With our "new" DD, so far, we've just used the term parts, because that's all we've needed, however, at potty time, she does ask for help wiping her "bum". She knows that her bum is part of her parts down there. As she gets older and more curious, we'll be there with the factual answers as is age appropriate. Oh, and one last thing, with a girl in the house, modesty has suddenly become a big thing with the boys. Even around me. They get quite embarrassed being caught in "the buff". Makes for some funny times. HTH Lorraine in Los Alamos |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
But, again, the OP is asking for the term for what a female urinates
from--which is not the vagina!!! So, using the word "vagina" for this question would be giving them the wrong info, right? Or should the whole area be refered to as the vagina? I'm not trying to be sarcastic, I just really don't know... -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03--I better be figuring this out soon, huh?) In article , lid says... On Fri, 25 Jun 2004 05:52:35 GMT, Seth Jackson wrote: I was once given the advice that the children should be given as much information as they ask for. I think it was good advice. I think I stated this poorly. The advice was to give them enough information to satisfy their curiosity. -- -Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at: http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...ypictures.html Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson www.mp3.com/loudspeaker www.SethJackson.net |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
But, again, the OP is asking for the term for what a female urinates
from--which is not the vagina!!! So, using the word "vagina" for this question would be giving them the wrong info, right? Or should the whole area be refered to as the vagina? I'm not trying to be sarcastic, I just really don't know... -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03--I better be figuring this out soon, huh?) In article , lid says... On Fri, 25 Jun 2004 05:52:35 GMT, Seth Jackson wrote: I was once given the advice that the children should be given as much information as they ask for. I think it was good advice. I think I stated this poorly. The advice was to give them enough information to satisfy their curiosity. -- -Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at: http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...ypictures.html Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson www.mp3.com/loudspeaker www.SethJackson.net |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
I really like this solution, Helen. We've been using "privates" for
years--just like your elbow is a part of your arm-- your vagina and urethra are part of your privates. Sounds good to me! -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) In article , says... Paula ) wrote: We haven't had to deal with it yet, but my girls' developmental therapist and I just happened to be talking about this subject the other day. She has a girl and two boys, and with her DD she uses "front bottom" and "back bottom". :-) This can be *very* confusing when you're communicating with people who grew up with the expression "bottom" meaning buttocks only. I was well over thirty before I ever had anyone refer to "bottom" meaning vulval/vaginal/perineal area around me, and I was thoroughly confused. In fact, a day or two after my son was born, my OB came around and asked, among other things, "How's your bottom?" I assumed he meant hemorrhoids and just said, "Oh, fine," and then after he went away, wondered why he hadn't asked me at all about how my vaginal tear was doing! I think I would just say something like "The place where the pee actually comes out has a funny name, the urethra, but we mostly just call that whole area between your legs 'private parts.' " --Helen |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
I really like this solution, Helen. We've been using "privates" for
years--just like your elbow is a part of your arm-- your vagina and urethra are part of your privates. Sounds good to me! -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) In article , says... Paula ) wrote: We haven't had to deal with it yet, but my girls' developmental therapist and I just happened to be talking about this subject the other day. She has a girl and two boys, and with her DD she uses "front bottom" and "back bottom". :-) This can be *very* confusing when you're communicating with people who grew up with the expression "bottom" meaning buttocks only. I was well over thirty before I ever had anyone refer to "bottom" meaning vulval/vaginal/perineal area around me, and I was thoroughly confused. In fact, a day or two after my son was born, my OB came around and asked, among other things, "How's your bottom?" I assumed he meant hemorrhoids and just said, "Oh, fine," and then after he went away, wondered why he hadn't asked me at all about how my vaginal tear was doing! I think I would just say something like "The place where the pee actually comes out has a funny name, the urethra, but we mostly just call that whole area between your legs 'private parts.' " --Helen |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
I really like this solution, Helen. We've been using "privates" for
years--just like your elbow is a part of your arm-- your vagina and urethra are part of your privates. Sounds good to me! -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) In article , says... Paula ) wrote: We haven't had to deal with it yet, but my girls' developmental therapist and I just happened to be talking about this subject the other day. She has a girl and two boys, and with her DD she uses "front bottom" and "back bottom". :-) This can be *very* confusing when you're communicating with people who grew up with the expression "bottom" meaning buttocks only. I was well over thirty before I ever had anyone refer to "bottom" meaning vulval/vaginal/perineal area around me, and I was thoroughly confused. In fact, a day or two after my son was born, my OB came around and asked, among other things, "How's your bottom?" I assumed he meant hemorrhoids and just said, "Oh, fine," and then after he went away, wondered why he hadn't asked me at all about how my vaginal tear was doing! I think I would just say something like "The place where the pee actually comes out has a funny name, the urethra, but we mostly just call that whole area between your legs 'private parts.' " --Helen |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
At any rate. I have been telling Riley and James the correct names for their private parts recently. Is it because they have asked specifically? No, not really. I have done so because they are starting preschool in September and I will be leaving them in the care of strangers for the first time really. I want them to be able to understand that James has a penis and it is his private part. It is not for show and tell and if he is being touched in that area by anyone other then Mommy, Daddy, Grandmas, Aunties and the Dr at checkups he should tell them to Stop and that he does not like that. He should also tell Mommy and Daddy if this is happening to him, because it is not appropriate. Same goes for Riley. I have told both her and James that she has a Vulva and it is her private area. Again same rules. I tell both of my kids that they have beautiful bodies that they should not be ashamed of. Also that part of what makes their private areas so special is that they are not for everyone to see. Michelle I'm sharing some of the same concerns with my girls starting full-time K in the fall. I read something a few weeks ago that along with this info, you should also tell your children that adults should never ask them to keep a secret. Explain that sometimes an adult will ask them not to tell a surprise (like what their brother is getting for his birthday). The difference is that everyone always finds out about a surprise. And they should tell mommy and daddy immediately if any adult asks them to keep a secret. I thought that was worth repeating. -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
At any rate. I have been telling Riley and James the correct names for their private parts recently. Is it because they have asked specifically? No, not really. I have done so because they are starting preschool in September and I will be leaving them in the care of strangers for the first time really. I want them to be able to understand that James has a penis and it is his private part. It is not for show and tell and if he is being touched in that area by anyone other then Mommy, Daddy, Grandmas, Aunties and the Dr at checkups he should tell them to Stop and that he does not like that. He should also tell Mommy and Daddy if this is happening to him, because it is not appropriate. Same goes for Riley. I have told both her and James that she has a Vulva and it is her private area. Again same rules. I tell both of my kids that they have beautiful bodies that they should not be ashamed of. Also that part of what makes their private areas so special is that they are not for everyone to see. Michelle I'm sharing some of the same concerns with my girls starting full-time K in the fall. I read something a few weeks ago that along with this info, you should also tell your children that adults should never ask them to keep a secret. Explain that sometimes an adult will ask them not to tell a surprise (like what their brother is getting for his birthday). The difference is that everyone always finds out about a surprise. And they should tell mommy and daddy immediately if any adult asks them to keep a secret. I thought that was worth repeating. -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
At any rate. I have been telling Riley and James the correct names for their private parts recently. Is it because they have asked specifically? No, not really. I have done so because they are starting preschool in September and I will be leaving them in the care of strangers for the first time really. I want them to be able to understand that James has a penis and it is his private part. It is not for show and tell and if he is being touched in that area by anyone other then Mommy, Daddy, Grandmas, Aunties and the Dr at checkups he should tell them to Stop and that he does not like that. He should also tell Mommy and Daddy if this is happening to him, because it is not appropriate. Same goes for Riley. I have told both her and James that she has a Vulva and it is her private area. Again same rules. I tell both of my kids that they have beautiful bodies that they should not be ashamed of. Also that part of what makes their private areas so special is that they are not for everyone to see. Michelle I'm sharing some of the same concerns with my girls starting full-time K in the fall. I read something a few weeks ago that along with this info, you should also tell your children that adults should never ask them to keep a secret. Explain that sometimes an adult will ask them not to tell a surprise (like what their brother is getting for his birthday). The difference is that everyone always finds out about a surprise. And they should tell mommy and daddy immediately if any adult asks them to keep a secret. I thought that was worth repeating. -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) |
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