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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Hi everyone I'm 16 going on 17 in october and I have a a baby boy, he's a year and 9 months and he's so great. I live with my mom and she helps me out. My baby's daddy helps out too so dont' worry he's a good guy but were not together still. Well if you have any questions or comments just reply or e-mail me at . Hope to hear from you soon thanks. -Veronica
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
"Vero" wrote in message ...
Hi everyone I'm 16 going on 17 in october and I have a a baby boy, he's a year and 9 months and he's so great. I live with my mom and she helps me out. My baby's daddy helps out too so dont' worry he's a good guy but were not together still. Well if you have any questions or comments just reply or e-mail me at . Hope to hear from you soon hanks. -Veronica Hi, Veronica. Welcome from Canada. I'm Kat, 20, two boys just over 3 and 4. I'm glad I'm not really the youngin' of the group anymore! -- A: Because it messes up the order in which people normally read text. Q: Why is top-posting such a bad thing? A: Top-posting. Q: What is the most annoying thing on usenet? |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Subject: I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people From: "Vero" Date: 3/18/2004 12:43 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: boutparenting.com Hi everyone I'm 16 going on 17 in october and I have a a baby boy, he's a year and 9 months and he's so great. I live with my mom and she helps me out. My baby's daddy helps out too so dont' worry he's a good guy but were not together still. Well if you have any questions or comments just reply or e-mail me at . Hope to hear from you soon thanks. -Veronica Hello Veronica ! Welcome................ My 16 year old daughter just recently had a baby girl . She is gonna be 3 months old this Sat.I am supporting my daughter just as your mom is supporting you. I hope you have been able to continue your education it is very important that you do if it is possible. You will need it. I know first hand how hard this must be on your family and I am glad that you have their support. Our household is always hopping since the baby came home . With careful organisation of our schedules my daughter is attending school . So your son is just about 2 years old, oh boy ! the fun you are having ! LOL! They are great ! Bev |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Thu, Mar 18, 2004, 12:40pm (EST-1) From: ('Kate) snip Was your mother a teen parent too? Is there some reason this is important? just wondering? Bev 'Kate |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Thu, Mar 18, 2004, 12:40pm (EST-1) From: ('Kate) snip Kate wrote: Was your mother a teen parent too? Bev wrote: Is there some reason this is important? Kate wrote: Important.. maybe. Her mother is likely to be more understanding so from the daughter point of view, it's important. Bev wrote: Yeah , I could see that being somewhat possible that a mother who was a teen parent could understand the teens point of veiw better, In my case with Sara I was not I had my first when I was 21. I can admit I sure don't see eye to eye with Sara lately. I am trying to ease out of making all these decisions with the baby cause lately when ever I say my opinion she gets upset and says "why don't you just say I am a bad mother" when this is not what I feel. I feel she is a teenager and her judgement is off when it comes to certain issues. This is getting harder now. Kate wrote; From the generational point of view, teen parenting may run in families as if what's OK for the mother is OK for the daughter. I'm not sure that's the answer but I know there's ongoing research. Bev wrote: Oh I am sure as well there is indeed ongoing research on this one. I think it depends on the family. For instance my sister was a teen mother and her daughter became a teen mother, so there you have it right there but that is where this starts in our family. My mother was not and her mother was not a pregnant teen.I'd have to ask my neice who is 22 now with 2 children if this was the impression she grew up with "Mom was so why not me ?" Kate wrote: I also know of one woman who was a teen mother who had three girls by two fathers, neither father remained involved; two of the girls became teen mothers. I lost track of the family though so I don't know the outcome of the third daughter. I wonder if she was able to resist the trend. Bev wrote: It would be interesting and again I am still thinking that with abortion and adoption of these babies conceived by teens included, the statistics are probably extremely high in the numbers and that teen pregnancy is not statistically higher because it "runs in the family" all types of backgrounds are involved here.Teens make bad choices sometimes and the results of those choices are biting us in the ass. Heh. Kate wrote: What's interesting, to me, are the questions, "Does teen motherhood make it more likely that children will become teen mothers?" and Bev wrote: In my opinion no, again I feel it is situational.Girls and boys (teens) are having sex( heck some not even teens!) and not heeding the warnings or involving themselves in drugs and or alcohol which diminishes their judgments and moral values taught or are running from some bad situation from home and they are getting pregnant . I can tell you here in P.A. the number of kids pregnant is unbelievable. Drug use is horrendous, drinking as well by these kids . I'm sure this is everywhere. It is very scary. Kate wrote: "Do second generation teen mothers fare better or worse than first generation teen mothers?" In the latter question, if second generation teen mothers do better, is it because of the support of the mother or because they've learned that lifestyle? Bev wrote: In any situation being supported is going to make a stronger person/outcome in whatever the challenge don't you think? Or is it just simply that they are good mothers because they were supported by a loving parent or parents, that cared enough to understand they made a mistake , and see them through it? I don't think it is a learned "lifestyle" I know you like to evaluate these things, you run very deep and I enjoy your thoughts. I hope my own thoughts on this subject are understood. Bev 'Kate just wondering? Bev 'Kate |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Subject: I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
From: (Bebelestrnge) Date: 3/18/2004 6:18 PM Eastern Standard Time I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Thu, Mar 18, 2004, 12:40pm (EST-1) From: ('Kate) snip I meant to include in that last post that I do not think it is always something the parents have done wrong. I think sometimes **** just happens , I can not believe I did something that caused my daughter to become pregnant at 16 years old. I know I did not. So if I may ask the OP Why did you become pregnant so young ?My daughter planned it, it had been an issue for a while for her and I guess I screwed up somewhere huh? Oh hell..........................I hate this .. |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
'Kate wrote in message ... On Thu, 18 Mar 2004 16:12:52 -0500 (EST), (Bebe lestrnge) I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Thu, Mar 18, 2004, 12:40pm (EST-1) From: ('Kate) snip Was your mother a teen parent too? Is there some reason this is important? Important.. maybe. Her mother is likely to be more understanding so from the daughter point of view, it's important. snip My mom was young when she had children and she was very understanding for me, so I can see why a question like that would be asked. It seems the more understanding the more support. V |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
"Vero" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... Hi everyone I'm 16 going on 17 in october and I have a a baby boy, he's a year and 9 months and he's so great. I live with my mom and she helps me out. My baby's daddy helps out too so dont' worry he's a good guy but were not together still. Well if you have any questions or comments just reply or e-mail me at . Hope to hear from you soon hanks. -Veronica Welcome Vero, Any questions you have? V, mom of J and C, 10 and 8. |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Subject: I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Thu, Mar 18, 2004, 12:40pm (EST-1) From: ('Kate) snip I meant to include in that last post that I do not think it is always something the parents have done wrong. I think sometimes **** just happens , I can not believe I did something that caused my daughter to become pregnant at 16 years old. I know I did not. So if I may ask the OP Why did you become pregnant so young ?My daughter planned it, it had been an issue for a while for her and I guess I screwed up somewhere huh? Oh hell..........................I hate this Kate wrote: Yeah... I know you hate it. It may not have been your "fault" and I hate that word because it follows that there should be guilt and guilt is not productive. Why your daughter did what she did is for her to think about and the answer may be as simple as Gayle having died. What happened already happened and feeling one way or the other is not going to change it. But... being too helpful may make your daughter have another and another until you're overwhelmed and withdraw your help. She wants to raise that baby herself. I think you'd better let her and support her by telling her to ask if she needs a hand. Bev wrote: Why don't ya just hit the nail on the head Kate , I have thought that it was losing Gayle that fueled this decision she made. I tried so hard to do the right things . I know I made mistakes that first year, I was drinking and she was drinking and drugging and I denied it all and I don't know how we got through that without her getting pregnant then , but we did. I met Mari and got sober ,we dealt with things together. I could not come out of where I was, bad bad things happened and I lost it. Ya know I am laying my throat out here in this group and I am kinda anxious, past history says somebody has the knife...........I'm just not gonna deal with that. So in a nutshell yes I am to blame to a point. I did do the best I could under the circumstances. I know I never wanted to hurt anyone. I know Sara wants to raise Jaime on her own and I want her to be able to and I know I have to let go. Why am I crying now? Guilt? You betcha ...........How do we not do what we are doing ? I get up at 4 a.m. and if the baby gets up between 4-5 I change her diaper and put on the music and she goes back to sleep .. I leave at 5 a.m. to work....Sara gets up at 6.a.m. goes out to the bus at 7a.m. Mari gets up between 4-5 has coffee with me goes back to sleep till the baby gets up around 7-8 a.m. She does the day.... feedings, bath , entertainment which I hear is lots of fun At 1 p.m. she packs up baby and drives to my work where we pass off baby from one car to the other we smoke a cigarette outside my car talk about Jaimes' day. How we are too old for this **** laugh and off to work she goes from 3 -11 p.m. then I am on my way home from work now baby on board. when I get home the mommy and daddy are there a few minutes ARGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! before me .I pass baby to parents and find the coffe pot . I get my time now do what I want , play with baby usually for about an hour. Talk to the teens listen to what imature teen adventure they had for the day , fill em in on last bottle, last diaper any special moments Mari passed on to me to pass on to them. I hear maybe about a fight they had in school how Sara destroyed his 25.00 hat and he went to the principal and she was told she had to pay for it so she told the principal "Fine he will just get off easy one week and not have to pay for diapers and wipes and that will pay for the hat" hehe I have yet to hear from the principal? I figure after he swallowed his teeth he decided to let the new parents work it out on their own. Other days the daddy teen is off to work right after school till 6 p.m. then he is at the house till 10 p.m. ( the other days he is here from 3-6 p.m. then goes to work till 10 then home to his parents.I have baby duty from 10-11p.m where she usually falls out and looks like such the little angel in her sleep and I go to bed, night night I'm late tonight but that is o.k. today was lucky nap day LOL! I was off from work ! This is how Sara is continuing her education ...............I try to not involve myself while they are here the mommy and daddy and she gets all uppity with me when I say no to her for them to go out to burger king and leave the baby with me or to hold her cause she has to get the socks and he is getting her toys and I am like "What" ? "You are not taking that baby out in 20 degree weather so you can both go get burger king one of you go, James since he is the one with the license". Jaime just had a bad cold not that long ago, a friends 3 month old infant has been in intensive care for two weeks now fighting for life because of the rsv virus, which I am told comes from an upper respiratory infection, and infects the blood . Call me paranoid fine, but adults know or at least should know better. Oh that is right they are teens! So who is looking out for the babies best interests? There you go, Nanny bebe that is me....................I don't know how to do it any differently. suggestions? Bev 'Kate |
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I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
Subject: I'm a 16 year old mom I wanna chat w/ people
From: "'Kate Date: 3/18/2004 8:41 PM Eastern On 18 Mar 2004 23:18:55 GMT, (Bebelestrnge) Bev wrote: In any situation being supported is going to make a stronger person/outcome in whatever the challenge don't you think? Kate wrote: Yes but the quality and type of support will vary. Think about the 22 year old (above). Why would she have another child? That doesn't show that she learned that raising children as a single teen mother is difficult. Bev wrote: actually she moved in with the 35 year old father of their first child when she was 16 , Her mother, my sister has been sick and terminal with AIDS since her daughter was seven or eight years old.The girl was raised mostly by my parents not my sister and yeah dysfunctional that is my family how about yours ? g I really try not to admit it LOL! last I looked the world was pretty dysfunctional itself........we fit in. |
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