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the dreaded "sleep thru night" thread
Stephanie and Tim wrote in message
... "Cheryl S." wrote in message ... I don't know anyone that has an easy time with toddlers. I am well aware that I am a freak. But I thought the toddler times were a BREEZE. There was a stressful period around 2.75 when ds was turning "three" AND a new baby came home. But the actual toddler time was easy for me. Huh. That's actually my situation right now - she's going on 2.75 and we have a new baby. Toddlers have wants and are often completely illogical or their wants conflict with their needs. Or they want one thing then if you give it to them they have a crying fit because they *don't* want it, or want something else instead. This did not happen with my son 'til he was more of a preschooler than a toddler, ie. had been walking for a really long time. By then it was easy enought to give in when appropriate and ignore otherwise. I'm exaggerating a bit. ;-) When she was really a toddler, I did find things got easier once she could communicate her needs pretty clearly. Now she's really not much of a toddler anymore, but isn't quite a preschooler yet either. I know that when she gets difficult now it's really about control and feeling like she doesn't have enough of it, or the frustration of just wanting to do things she's not able to yet. But knowing that doesn't usually make it easier to live with when I'm in a no-win situation because everything I do just makes her more upset until I just have to walk away because she can't be reasoned with. -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 7 mo. And Jaden, 2 months Cleaning the house while your children are small is like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. |
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the dreaded "sleep thru night" thread
Penny Gaines wrote in message
... Cheryl S. wrote in : This has not been my experience. My daughter always nursed before going to sleep and she slept through the night from when she was 3 months old. It probably depends on the child as well. I had one baby who could be put into a darkened room, and would fall asleep easily. I had two others, who if they were put in a darkened room would cry. And cry. And cry, until someone came and cuddled them off to sleep. I'm sure it does depend on the child. I just didn't want to leave unchallenged the notion that breastfeeding is a recipe for sleep problems. -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 7 mo. And Jaden, 2 months Cleaning the house while your children are small is like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. |
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the dreaded "sleep thru night" thread
"Stephanie and Tim" wrote in message . ..
"Cheryl S." wrote in message ... I don't know anyone that has an easy time with toddlers. I am well aware that I am a freak. But I thought the toddler times were a BREEZE. There was a stressful period around 2.75 when ds was turning "three" AND a new baby came home. But the actual toddler time was easy for me. snip Everyone is different. I loved it when my son started talking. We could reduce some of the otherwise unfun times, like in the car, by chatting and singing. In many cases, I did not really know what he was talking about, but he was happy just feeling I was listening. Everyone's perspective is different. Thank goodness. Otherwise the world would be so boring. Again, in this as in the sleep thing, my experience so far (with a youngish toddler) is in alignment with yours. Before my son could talk, my biggest stressor with him aside from his lack of sleep was his hatred of the car! I'd constantly hear from people that babies love riding in cars, and it'd make me grind my teeth, because he just HATED it. I had really thought I would love being with a baby, because I love babies, but that was before I had one who never slept and never let me go anywhere. I loved him, but it'd be a stretch to say I loved being with him. Now that he's started talking a bit, we can while away car rides with conversation (although his side mostly consists of "yeah", "no", and "dut!" which means "truck!"). He sleeps better, for whatever reason, and we can play games and talk about things in books and wander around outside picking up stuff and talking about it... it may well be that he'll have a terrible-two stage that will make me eat my words, but right now he's much easier for me than he was as an infant, unreasonable demands and all. For me, that's the coolest thing about Usenet, getting different perspectives on things like this. Beth |
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Dave wrote:
Very true. We applied what we had learned the hard way with child #1 to child #2 and things went much much much much smoother. I think the big thing for us was knowing what was possible... it's tough for most people to start heading for a destination they are not sure exists... True, and you hear so many stories about how horrible it is that you often *do* tend to doubt that it's possible. We were slower on the uptake with sleep issues with #1. He slept just fine, but by 8 months or so we still hadn't gotten around to standardizing bedtime, less because we didn't think it possible than because we just hadn't disciplined ourselves to do it. We decided we were being silly and started having more of a routine and it worked beautifully. There hadn't been problems before, but having a bedtime helped us get more things done and gave us more couple time in the evenings and, I think, built a foundation that came in very handy later. Best wishes, Ericka |
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the dreaded "sleep thru night" thread
Don't change. Your posts are always thoughtful AND often extremely
entertaining. "Stephanie and Tim" wrote in message ... I think I may be a little bit known for my --- bluntness. I can't help it. |
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the dreaded "sleep thru night" thread
On Wed, 19 Nov 2003 11:35:55 -0500, "Cheryl S."
wrote: Now she's really not much of a toddler anymore, but isn't quite a preschooler yet either. I know that when she gets difficult now it's really about control and feeling like she doesn't have enough of it, or the frustration of just wanting to do things she's not able to yet. But knowing that doesn't usually make it easier to live with when I'm in a no-win situation because everything I do just makes her more upset until I just have to walk away because she can't be reasoned with. This is the hardest stage, but actually, I am sure that your knowing that it's about her wanting control should make it a bit easier to deal with. And you are right that reasoning is not a strong point at this stage, still knowing that it is normal and that it *will* end should help some. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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"Elizabeth Reid" wrote in message Again, in this as in the sleep thing, my experience so far (with a youngish toddler) is in alignment with yours. Before my son could talk, my biggest stressor with him aside from his lack of sleep was his hatred of the car! Oh my goodness. After reading your sleeping post and now this...I'm convinced that your ds and mine are separated at birth...weird. FWIW, the car thing got better after two. He also started napping better after two. -- JennP. mom to Matthew 10/11/00 remove "no........spam" to reply |
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"toto" wrote in message ... While you may think this is good, it's a sign that the baby did not bond properly with you. While separation anxiety doesn't have to be severe, NO signs of it ever is not a *good* thing. So my son didn't properly bond to me? Tell that to dh, my ds or any other person who knows us. He is EXTREMELY bonded to me and he NEVER had any separation anxiety. He is VERY affectionate and SECURE and loves me INTENSELY thankyouverymuch! Talk about sweeping generalizations. Sheesh. -- JennP. "I base my fashion on what doesn't itch" Gilda Radner |
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the dreaded "sleep thru night" thread
toto wrote in
: On 19 Nov 2003 10:45:23 -0800, (Elizabeth Reid) wrote: Before my son could talk, my biggest stressor with him aside from his lack of sleep was his hatred of the car! I often wonder whether or not this is because the infant carseats seem so uncomfortable. You can't really do without them, but for newborns, they scrunch up his tummy and I would think that some babies really are uncomfortable with that so they hate the car. with Boo we didn't have any problems with the carseat until he was around 4-5 months. we had a Britax, which is actually comfortably padded & doesn't scrunch the poor baby... but at 4-5 months Boo decided he didn't like facing backwards. i think looking out the window that way did make him carsick to some degree. he was better after i covered the window & attached a mirror & some toys to the seatback he was facing. at 15 months he got a new carseat because the Britax had a worn strap. i *should* have got another Britax, because we've been fighting the uncomfortable carseat battle ever since. i added padding under the cover which solved 98% of the problem though. if he ever gets to 40 pounds, *i'll* be sitting in the boosters to test the comfort before i buy one! g lee |
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