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If the teacher is Miss Herfirstname . . .
Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel
funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. |
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toypup wrote: Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. Good question. DS' gymnastics teacher is Miss Herfirstname, but when we go around the circle to introduce ourselves, the parents just use Myfirstname. OTOH, we've started using Miss/Mr. Firstname for the people in our office who ds sees on a regular basis, largely because one of our staff started introducing herself to him that way. Our neighbors mostly use Firstname, but one family's kids tend to Miss/Mr. Firstname. Clear as mud? aka Miss Irene |
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In article ,
"toypup" wrote: Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. I generally introduce myself with my full name (no title) and invite folks to call me by my first name. If the situation seems more formal, I invite them to call me "Ms. Lastname". Some of the parents at church invite their children to call me "Miss Firstname" (especially if they are from some parts of the south) and I'm getting used to it, but would not invite it from an adult. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"toypup" wrote in message m... Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. IMO, she introduced herself as Miss Herfirstname, so that is what you call her. You introduce yourself as YourFirstName, and that is what she calls you. I would think it a little dopey for me to call someone Miss or Mrs while they call me Stephanie. But I don't know who Mrs. Stowe is, but it sure is not me.... So either the teacher just introduced herself so you know which of your childn's teachers she is, and will say Oh call me Kate (or whatever) or you are stuck calling her Miss Whatever. One caviat. If calling her Miss Whatever while you go with your first name is going to cause you to feel you are speaking with an Authority Figure rather than a professional peer, then you might want to adopt Mrs Lastname. You do not want to set a tone of poor beggar at the doorstep of the Authority. |
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"toypup" wrote in message
m... Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. I don't think that what the kids call the teacher should have any bearing on what the teacher and the parent call one another. When my kids were in preschool, their teachers were Miss Firstname to *them*. *I* called the teachers Firstname and, if we were meeting for the first time, introduced myself as Firstname Kidsname's Mom. Now that my older kids are in elementary school, their teachers are Mrs/Ms/Mr Lastname. When we meet for the first time, I introduce myself as Firstname Lastname, Kidsname's Mom. The teachers typically reciprocate and introduce themselves as Firstname Lastname. Most of my kids' elementary school teachers prefer that we are on a first name basis, however, and make that clear early on. Some teachers prefer to be called Mrs/Ms/Mr Lastname, however, but if that is what they prefer, they generally call me Mrs. Lastname as a courtesy. I prefer a situation in which the teacher and I treat each other as peers, rather than my treating the teacher as an authority figure while the teacher treats me as a subordinate by using my first name. Shudder -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Mr. Congeniality (7), the Diva (5) and the Race Car Fanatic (3 tomorrow) I have PMS and ESP...I'm the bitch who knows everything! (T-shirt slogan) |
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"Irene" wrote in message oups.com... toypup wrote: Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. Good question. DS' gymnastics teacher is Miss Herfirstname, but when we go around the circle to introduce ourselves, the parents just use Myfirstname. OTOH, we've started using Miss/Mr. Firstname for the people in our office who ds sees on a regular basis, largely because one of our staff started introducing herself to him that way. Our neighbors mostly use Firstname, but one family's kids tend to Miss/Mr. Firstname. Clear as mud? When around neighbors, other parents and whatnot, we ask them in DS's presence if they perfer first name or Mr., Mrs.... I did without thinking one time with the neighbor of my in-laws. I asked her if she perfer her first name or Mrs. B.... (very long name). She indicated she really did prefer Mrs. B... DS asked about it and we had a nice conversation about politeness, etc. and how it is an extension of respect. I know that DS does not really understand all this the first time mentioned. But over time, he gets the general gyst. aka Miss Irene |
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toypup wrote:
Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. Teachers are all Mrs. Miss or Mr. Theirlastname and I am Mrs Mylastname at school. My GP calls me Mrs. Mylastname. These are the only people that actually know me yet call me Mrs. Mylastname. I am called Mrs. Mylastname or Madam in formal(ish) situations like restaurants or solicitors but this feels OK to me. Everywhere else I am Mary Ann. Mary Ann |
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Stephanie Stowe wrote: "toypup" wrote in message m... Am I Mrs. Mylastname? I'd feel funny being Miss Myfirstname. I even feel funny being Mrs. Mylastname. It's so formal. I like being Myfirstname, but that's too informal, if I have to call the teacher Miss Herfirstname, which I figure I have to, since she introduced herself that way. What is the best way to introduce myself to a teacher who introduces herself as Miss Herfirstname? This happens so much, I never know what to do. I just say my whole name, but I'd rather figure out what I'm most comfy with, so I'd like to know what other people are most comfy with first. IMO, she introduced herself as Miss Herfirstname, so that is what you call her. You introduce yourself as YourFirstName, and that is what she calls you. I would think it a little dopey for me to call someone Miss or Mrs while they call me Stephanie. But I don't know who Mrs. Stowe is, but it sure is not me.... So either the teacher just introduced herself so you know which of your childn's teachers she is, and will say Oh call me Kate (or whatever) or you are stuck calling her Miss Whatever. Wow. I'm not at all accustomed to people being Miss Herfirstname . . . it's always been the last name around here. One caviat. If calling her Miss Whatever while you go with your first name is going to cause you to feel you are speaking with an Authority Figure rather than a professional peer, then you might want to adopt Mrs Lastname. You do not want to set a tone of poor beggar at the doorstep of the Authority. I was thinking this too. I remember when I was in my early 20s, my mom worked with a woman who also taught my youngest brother. We were at some kind of event (fundraising, concert, something) and I was sent by mom to ask this woman for something. To get her attention, I called her by her first name (we had been introduced by first name by my mom). She said, "oh, my students call me Mrs. G." I thought, "well, I'm not your student." I admit I continued to call her by her first name b/c I felt she was trying to establish a power dynamic that I didn't appreciate. I'm a first name person, generally, but if someone insists on being called by an honorific, I expect the same in return. It would seem really silly, to me, to see two women calling each other Miss Jennifer and Miss Heather (or whatever). In a similar situation, I might be sneaky and say, "I'm ds's mom!" And then she would either be forced to call me Ms. Mylastname or ask my first name - and presumably then say, "please, just call me Kate," or whatever. Melania Mom to Joffre (Jan 11, 2003) and #2 (edd May 21, 2005) |
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In article .com,
"Melania" wrote: I'm a first name person, generally, but if someone insists on being called by an honorific, I expect the same in return. I, on the other hand, am a first name person (partly because people tend to not pronounce my last name correctly, but mostly it's just my nature) and will call people what they wish to be called and still invite them to call me by my first name. Somehow, it never makes me feel that I am in a "lesser" position, though I understand that for many people, it does. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"dragonlady" wrote:
: "Melania" wrote: snips : I'm a first name person, generally, but if someone insists on being : called by an honorific, I expect the same in return. : I, on the other hand, am a first name person (partly because people tend : to not pronounce my last name correctly, but mostly it's just my nature) : and will call people what they wish to be called and still invite them : to call me by my first name. That is pretty much how I feel. I will call them whatever it is that they wish to be called, but still prefer to be called by my fist name. : Somehow, it never makes me feel that I am in a "lesser" position, though : I understand that for many people, it does. Nah, me either. It does steam me a bit when I ask to be called Ruth by a child, and their parent insists that I be called Mrs. Baltopoulos. I mean, I understand that is their wishes, but it is *my* name and I cannot stand Mrs. Baltopoulos (not to mention most kids can't come close to saying it). Also, for whatever reason, I have always had a knee-jerk aversion to calling or being called Miss Myfirstname. Not sure why, but it makes me grimace... -- Ruth |
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