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The right choice?
This isn't exactly easy for me to say, but I feel like I have to.
I'm 16 and I just found out what really happened to me. I was circumcised, and yeah, my parents never bothered to tell me that or tell me why they had it done, and I don't feel comfortable asking them. Thanks to the internet I got to find out on my own. I feel sooo violated and sooo angry at them. I honestly can't believe they let someone do this to me. They actually let someone strap me down when I was at my most defenseless and most vulnerable and rob me of normal, functional genitalia. Why didn't they protect me? Why did they betray me? Maybe this doesn't matter to most of you, but it matters to me. The vast majority of men in the world are intact and get to take their normal, functional organs for granted, but because my parents didn't give ****, mine got mutilated. I'll never ever get to experience it. They denied me that, and for what? I really don't trust them anymore. I have difficulty reconciling these emotions. If they are my parents and they love me, why would they let this happen to me? Were they ignorant? Or did they know full well what they were doing and go ahead anyway to make me "look like daddy" like I'm some ****ing piece of property instead of person? I honestly don't know, and I'm not sure I want to. Now I'm stuck this way for the rest of my life. Great. I'd really like to forgive them, but I don't think I ever can. I understand you all want what's best for your children and there's lots of decisions you'll have to make for them, but this is certainly not one of them. Please, please, please let him decide what he wants to do with his body. He's only in your care for a few years, and if you do this to him he will be STUCK THAT WAY FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE and if he doesn't like it HE WILL HATE YOU! The thought of another guy finding this out and having to feel the way I do right now makes me sick. Please let your son choose! |
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Can you please take you anticircumsicm debate stuff the news groups who
care? Jeff |
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"xfredwx" wrote in message
m... This isn't exactly easy for me to say, but I feel like I have to. I'm 16 I doubt it. Mentally, perhaps (or less). |
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"Byron Canfield" wrote in message news:JFJUc.31236$mD.23944@attbi_s02... "xfredwx" wrote in message m... This isn't exactly easy for me to say, but I feel like I have to. I'm 16 I doubt it. Mentally, perhaps (or less). I don't think he'd appreciate it that you snipped his post. (sorry) |
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"db" wrote in message ...
"Byron Canfield" wrote in message news:JFJUc.31236$mD.23944@attbi_s02... "xfredwx" wrote in message m... This isn't exactly easy for me to say, but I feel like I have to. I'm 16 I doubt it. Mentally, perhaps (or less). I don't think he'd appreciate it that you snipped his post. LOL! And when he's obviously without the means to make an intelligent choice -- what a shame! -- "There are 10 kinds of people in the world: those who understand binary numbers and those who don't." ----------------------------- Byron "Barn" Canfield |
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xfredwx ) writes: This isn't exactly easy for me to say, but I feel like I have to. I'm 16 and I just found out what really happened to me. I was circumcised, and yeah, my parents never bothered to tell me that or tell me why they had it done, and I don't feel comfortable asking them. Thanks to the internet I got to find out on my own. I feel sooo violated and sooo angry at them. [...] The thought of another guy finding this out and having to feel the way I do right now makes me sick. Please let your son choose! I hear your grief and frustration and I sympathize. I believe that by posting messages such as yours, you can help to reduce the number of people who will have to go through such an experience. -- Cathy |
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CBI ) writes: Because 99% of the time these posts are being made by one of a few activists posting under a false name just to try to dig this same tired discussion up again. There's nothing wrong with being active in trying to make the world a better place. There's nothing wrong with being one of a few people who hold a certain point of view. There's nothing wrong with expressing one's opinion if one is in the minority. Actually I think it shows courage, and helps society progress. There's nothing wrong with using a pseudonym when posting to a newsgroup. I've been posting under nicknames on some web fora, to get some privacy when discussing personal matters. Is your name really "CBI"???!! People who are tired of a discussion can just skip it. Many newsreaders have filters or "killfiles" that people can use to, for example, skip all messages containing the word "circumcised". People who don't want a discussion to be long can also help improve things for others who agree with them by refraining from posting on those threads. -- Cathy |
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Catherine Woodgold wrote:
CBI ) writes: Because 99% of the time these posts are being made by one of a few activists posting under a false name just to try to dig this same tired discussion up again. There's nothing wrong with being active in trying to make the world a better place. There's nothing wrong with being one of a few people who hold a certain point of view. There's nothing wrong with expressing one's opinion if one is in the minority. Actually I think it shows courage, and helps society progress. Certainly not. However, badgering people who are tired of the discussion with repetitive posts is probably not a good tactic. You lose whatever credibility and sympathy you may have had. There's nothing wrong with using a pseudonym when posting to a newsgroup. I've been posting under nicknames on some web fora, to get some privacy when discussing personal matters. Is your name really "CBI"???!! There is nothing wrong with the reasonably consistant use of a pseudonym. Really, Usenet is by its nature simultaneously anonymous (because you never really know who is posting any given post) and not (because it is amazing how the identities get found out). Anyone who either expects full anonymity or trusts entirely that they know who is posting is being naive. We have no idea whether or not you are really named Catherine and there is no way you could prove it without resorting to some other media. However, all that aside, it something is entirely different to make up a new identity for the purpose of deception. |
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