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It seems like lately I've barely had time to even keep up with the group, my
life has been so crazy. My mother, who lives with us, had a heart attack a couple months ago. At the same time, the boys' grandpa (their dad's dad) was killed in a car accident. Then of course there's all the spring work of getting gardens going, fruit trees pruned, etc. Now I think the boys are feeling the stress and are acting out in the only way they know how: by fighting with each other. They get really vicious with each other and I'm worried one of them will get hurt very badly. When it starts, I try to immediately separate them and get them calmed down, but I'm only one person. I guess I've answered the "why" just by typing this post. No wonder they're acting out so much! I don't usually put them in time out for it since it seems like a natural reaction for them, but I've been putting them on either side of me on the couch and just getting a little quiet time until they settle down. Unfortunately, I can't just sit there with them for an hour and read story after story. Most of the time they play outside while I'm working out there but eventually they start competing with each other over something then fighting. Any other suggestions besides what I'm doing? For background to those who don't remember us, they're almost 4 (!!?!), they go to preschool 4 days a week for 3 hours a day, I'm a single mom (dad in a different state), and Alex and Jordan are really wonderful little boys mostly. :-) TIA! -- Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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Just a thought Leslie, if you are sitting them close to you and reading them
stories because they were fighting, you are actually rewarding their bad behaviour with your undivided attention. They will keep doing it as long as they get this payoff. My suggestion would be to separate them into different rooms. They will get bored and realize that because they were fighting they now have nobody to play with. Also, we tend to forget that our multiples are with one another 24 hours per day (unless they are in school and in different classes), they even share a room in the majority of households. It's perfectly normal for them to get sick of one another and need some time apart. Can you imagine us spending every minute of every day with our husbands? We would be sick of him and start fighting too! Hope this helps, Peggy http://www.babygardengifts.com "Leslie" wrote in message ... It seems like lately I've barely had time to even keep up with the group, my life has been so crazy. My mother, who lives with us, had a heart attack a couple months ago. At the same time, the boys' grandpa (their dad's dad) was killed in a car accident. Then of course there's all the spring work of getting gardens going, fruit trees pruned, etc. Now I think the boys are feeling the stress and are acting out in the only way they know how: by fighting with each other. They get really vicious with each other and I'm worried one of them will get hurt very badly. When it starts, I try to immediately separate them and get them calmed down, but I'm only one person. I guess I've answered the "why" just by typing this post. No wonder they're acting out so much! I don't usually put them in time out for it since it seems like a natural reaction for them, but I've been putting them on either side of me on the couch and just getting a little quiet time until they settle down. Unfortunately, I can't just sit there with them for an hour and read story after story. Most of the time they play outside while I'm working out there but eventually they start competing with each other over something then fighting. Any other suggestions besides what I'm doing? For background to those who don't remember us, they're almost 4 (!!?!), they go to preschool 4 days a week for 3 hours a day, I'm a single mom (dad in a different state), and Alex and Jordan are really wonderful little boys mostly. :-) TIA! -- Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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Delurking again to ask a question
Just a thought Leslie, if you are sitting them close to you and reading them
stories because they were fighting, you are actually rewarding their bad behaviour with your undivided attention. They will keep doing it as long as they get this payoff. My suggestion would be to separate them into different rooms. They will get bored and realize that because they were fighting they now have nobody to play with. Also, we tend to forget that our multiples are with one another 24 hours per day (unless they are in school and in different classes), they even share a room in the majority of households. It's perfectly normal for them to get sick of one another and need some time apart. Can you imagine us spending every minute of every day with our husbands? We would be sick of him and start fighting too! Hope this helps, Peggy http://www.babygardengifts.com "Leslie" wrote in message ... It seems like lately I've barely had time to even keep up with the group, my life has been so crazy. My mother, who lives with us, had a heart attack a couple months ago. At the same time, the boys' grandpa (their dad's dad) was killed in a car accident. Then of course there's all the spring work of getting gardens going, fruit trees pruned, etc. Now I think the boys are feeling the stress and are acting out in the only way they know how: by fighting with each other. They get really vicious with each other and I'm worried one of them will get hurt very badly. When it starts, I try to immediately separate them and get them calmed down, but I'm only one person. I guess I've answered the "why" just by typing this post. No wonder they're acting out so much! I don't usually put them in time out for it since it seems like a natural reaction for them, but I've been putting them on either side of me on the couch and just getting a little quiet time until they settle down. Unfortunately, I can't just sit there with them for an hour and read story after story. Most of the time they play outside while I'm working out there but eventually they start competing with each other over something then fighting. Any other suggestions besides what I'm doing? For background to those who don't remember us, they're almost 4 (!!?!), they go to preschool 4 days a week for 3 hours a day, I'm a single mom (dad in a different state), and Alex and Jordan are really wonderful little boys mostly. :-) TIA! -- Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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Delurking again to ask a question
Just a thought Leslie, if you are sitting them close to you and reading them
stories because they were fighting, you are actually rewarding their bad behaviour with your undivided attention. They will keep doing it as long as they get this payoff. My suggestion would be to separate them into different rooms. They will get bored and realize that because they were fighting they now have nobody to play with. Also, we tend to forget that our multiples are with one another 24 hours per day (unless they are in school and in different classes), they even share a room in the majority of households. It's perfectly normal for them to get sick of one another and need some time apart. Can you imagine us spending every minute of every day with our husbands? We would be sick of him and start fighting too! Hope this helps, Peggy http://www.babygardengifts.com "Leslie" wrote in message ... It seems like lately I've barely had time to even keep up with the group, my life has been so crazy. My mother, who lives with us, had a heart attack a couple months ago. At the same time, the boys' grandpa (their dad's dad) was killed in a car accident. Then of course there's all the spring work of getting gardens going, fruit trees pruned, etc. Now I think the boys are feeling the stress and are acting out in the only way they know how: by fighting with each other. They get really vicious with each other and I'm worried one of them will get hurt very badly. When it starts, I try to immediately separate them and get them calmed down, but I'm only one person. I guess I've answered the "why" just by typing this post. No wonder they're acting out so much! I don't usually put them in time out for it since it seems like a natural reaction for them, but I've been putting them on either side of me on the couch and just getting a little quiet time until they settle down. Unfortunately, I can't just sit there with them for an hour and read story after story. Most of the time they play outside while I'm working out there but eventually they start competing with each other over something then fighting. Any other suggestions besides what I'm doing? For background to those who don't remember us, they're almost 4 (!!?!), they go to preschool 4 days a week for 3 hours a day, I'm a single mom (dad in a different state), and Alex and Jordan are really wonderful little boys mostly. :-) TIA! -- Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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Hi Leslie.....waving! I've been wondering where you've been. I've missed
"seeing" you here. I'm sorry about your mother and the boys' GF. I hope things will settle down and you'll be able to post more often. Jordan and Madison started fighting with each other a lot more a few months before they turned four also. Usually I send the offender to time-out in her room, but sometimes it gets so bad that I make one go upstairs and one stay downstairs. For some reason they HATE that. You'd think if someone was getting on your nerves that badly then being separated would be a relief. It at least gives me some peace from their bickering for a while. Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 |
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Delurking again to ask a question
Hi Leslie.....waving! I've been wondering where you've been. I've missed
"seeing" you here. I'm sorry about your mother and the boys' GF. I hope things will settle down and you'll be able to post more often. Jordan and Madison started fighting with each other a lot more a few months before they turned four also. Usually I send the offender to time-out in her room, but sometimes it gets so bad that I make one go upstairs and one stay downstairs. For some reason they HATE that. You'd think if someone was getting on your nerves that badly then being separated would be a relief. It at least gives me some peace from their bickering for a while. Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 |
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Hi Leslie.....waving! I've been wondering where you've been. I've missed
"seeing" you here. I'm sorry about your mother and the boys' GF. I hope things will settle down and you'll be able to post more often. Jordan and Madison started fighting with each other a lot more a few months before they turned four also. Usually I send the offender to time-out in her room, but sometimes it gets so bad that I make one go upstairs and one stay downstairs. For some reason they HATE that. You'd think if someone was getting on your nerves that badly then being separated would be a relief. It at least gives me some peace from their bickering for a while. Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 |
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Isn't their relationship funny Andrea? My girls will fight all day, but if
only one is napping the other will pace outside the door and keep asking me for her sister. "Andrea" wrote in message ... Hi Leslie.....waving! I've been wondering where you've been. I've missed "seeing" you here. I'm sorry about your mother and the boys' GF. I hope things will settle down and you'll be able to post more often. Jordan and Madison started fighting with each other a lot more a few months before they turned four also. Usually I send the offender to time-out in her room, but sometimes it gets so bad that I make one go upstairs and one stay downstairs. For some reason they HATE that. You'd think if someone was getting on your nerves that badly then being separated would be a relief. It at least gives me some peace from their bickering for a while. Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 |
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Delurking again to ask a question
Isn't their relationship funny Andrea? My girls will fight all day, but if
only one is napping the other will pace outside the door and keep asking me for her sister. "Andrea" wrote in message ... Hi Leslie.....waving! I've been wondering where you've been. I've missed "seeing" you here. I'm sorry about your mother and the boys' GF. I hope things will settle down and you'll be able to post more often. Jordan and Madison started fighting with each other a lot more a few months before they turned four also. Usually I send the offender to time-out in her room, but sometimes it gets so bad that I make one go upstairs and one stay downstairs. For some reason they HATE that. You'd think if someone was getting on your nerves that badly then being separated would be a relief. It at least gives me some peace from their bickering for a while. Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 |
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Delurking again to ask a question
Isn't their relationship funny Andrea? My girls will fight all day, but if
only one is napping the other will pace outside the door and keep asking me for her sister. "Andrea" wrote in message ... Hi Leslie.....waving! I've been wondering where you've been. I've missed "seeing" you here. I'm sorry about your mother and the boys' GF. I hope things will settle down and you'll be able to post more often. Jordan and Madison started fighting with each other a lot more a few months before they turned four also. Usually I send the offender to time-out in her room, but sometimes it gets so bad that I make one go upstairs and one stay downstairs. For some reason they HATE that. You'd think if someone was getting on your nerves that badly then being separated would be a relief. It at least gives me some peace from their bickering for a while. Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 |
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