sad news (m/c)

I am so sorry.
Kristi
"A&G&K" wrote in message
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My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.
After waking up to bright red blood ... not a lot, but a change in
pattern,
I rang my Ob.
I saw him yesterday afternoon and he could not find the baby on the u/s at
first, just the sac in the uterus. When he did find a shadow in the sac,
he
said it measured almost the same as we'd seen it the week before and had
probably died shortly after the last scan. I was prepared for this news
but
poor DH was ever the optimist, so I think the news hit him harder. My Ob
was wonderful throughout and let us weep in privacy while he organised a
D&C
(at the hospital right next door) and all the paper work.
I had a curette last night and the Ob said my cervix had already started
to
dilate, but would have taken quite some time to naturally miscarry. Even
though I was apprehensive about the D&C (the Anaesthetic mostly) I'm glad
it
is done as I don't think I could have coped emotionally with a natural
m/c.
I have almost stopped bleeding this morning and am feeling a lot brighter
about the world. Of course I think I'll be rather emotional for some time
to come.

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by
light.

Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have
my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy


Amanda

DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny Angel Nov 2004

"Some day I'll wish upon a star and wake up where the clouds are far
behind
me. Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops
that's where you'll find me".

On Tue, 11 Nov 2003 06:42:51 +1000, "A&G&K"
wrote:

My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.

Sorry to hear that.
--
Never knock an idea that started out on the back of a beer mat.
(Colin Pillinger, brains behind Beagle 2.)

A&G&K wrote:

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Warning - m/c D&C mentioned...


My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.
After waking up to bright red blood ... not a lot, but a change in pattern,
I rang my Ob.
I saw him yesterday afternoon and he could not find the baby on the u/s at
first, just the sac in the uterus. When he did find a shadow in the sac, he
said it measured almost the same as we'd seen it the week before and had
probably died shortly after the last scan. I was prepared for this news but
poor DH was ever the optimist, so I think the news hit him harder. My Ob
was wonderful throughout and let us weep in privacy while he organised a D&C
(at the hospital right next door) and all the paper work.
I had a curette last night and the Ob said my cervix had already started to
dilate, but would have taken quite some time to naturally miscarry. Even
though I was apprehensive about the D&C (the Anaesthetic mostly) I'm glad it
is done as I don't think I could have coped emotionally with a natural m/c.
I have almost stopped bleeding this morning and am feeling a lot brighter
about the world. Of course I think I'll be rather emotional for some time
to come.

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by light.

Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy

Amanda

DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny Angel Nov 2004

"Some day I'll wish upon a star and wake up where the clouds are far behind
me. Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops
that's where you'll find me".




{{{{{{{{{Amanda}}}}}}}}}}So sorry. Hope you feel better soon. Take good
care of yourself.

--
Vidya
mom to Vandu(4)
EDD May 6th '04

"A&G&K" wrote in message
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I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by
light.

Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have
my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy


I'm very sorry to hear about your baby, Amanda. Your dream sounds
reassuring. Best wishes and ((((hugs)))) to you.

--
Em
mama to Lann, 9/21/03

On Tue, 11 Nov 2003 06:42:51 +1000, "A&G&K"
wrote:

My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.

I am very sorry for your loss.

--
Daye
Momma to Jayan
"Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004
See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/

"A&G&K" wrote in message
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My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.

Thanks to everyone for their kind words and thoughts. I'm doing OK today
and am trying to organise my week so that I don't have long periods of being
on my own (DH could only have 1 day off work).
It feels a bit like I'd just set sail in one direction for the next 12
months, when suddenly a storm has brewed up and knocked me off course and I
can't find my original compass bearing. I'm sure this feeling will pass as
I get used to the new path.
I'm a great one at coping with things that happen directly to me though (not
so good when its somebody else I'm worried about). I'm sure I'll be my old
self in a short while.
Can't wait to start trying again though so a little patience might be
required.
Amanda
--
DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny angel Nov 03

"New York Jen" wrote in message
t...

Oh Amanda, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience
before I became pregnant with Laszlo, as did my sister in law and several
of
my friends. EVERY one of us went on to have a healthy pregnancy right
away.
I'm not saying that's a rule, just that it's happened to at least 5 people
that I can think of off the top of my head and I'm 1 of them. My sister
in
law always said that the D&C "cleaned her out" and got her all ready for a
healthy pregnancy to live there. I tried to have the same attitude when I
had mine, although mine came after several years of infertility treatment
and that was our first positive pregnancy outcome. As devastated as we
were
at the time, I'm quite glad that things turned out as they did, I'm
positive
that Laszlo is the baby that was meant for me to have at the time that I
had
him. That may sound strange, but it's how I truly feel.

Apparently, 30% of all pregnancies end up in miscarriage, and most of
those
times the moms don't even know they were pregnant because they just
attributed it to a late period that was heavy due to the extra few weeks
in
the cycle.

I hope you heal well and quickly and that you go on to have more good news
to share in the very near future.

Best,

Jen


Thanks Jen.
I agree that some babies are meant to stay with us and some aren't - we get
the ones we are supposed to raise. Its funny actually .... in a perverse
sort of way ..... we had wanted to get pg in December (so the kids would be
roughly 2 years appart) but thought we'd better start early given that it
took us a while last time. We ended up getting pg straight away. But, if
all goes according to plan, we should be ready to TTC again in December
right on the original shedule .... just gotta hope that the next baby knows
the plan!
Thanks again
Amanda

--
DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny anegl Nov 03

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My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.

Oh oh oh....
I'm SO sorry.
I justposted to your last thread, but I am catching up after several
days away and posting as I go.

I feel bad that I didn't read futher.

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by light.


Oh, how lovely!
I had many dreams of my DS before he was born, knew utterly that he was
a boy, and in fact recently realised that a dream that had seemed odd
was in fact premonitory (is that the right word?? it was a dream that
turned out to foretell an event)

Dawn, with no better words of comfort, but glad you had the dream

"Dawn Lawson" wrote in message
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Oh oh oh....
I'm SO sorry.
I justposted to your last thread, but I am catching up after several
days away and posting as I go.

I feel bad that I didn't read futher.

Thanks Dawn - don't feel bad as the other info you sent was useful as
well...

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by
light.


Oh, how lovely!
I had many dreams of my DS before he was born, knew utterly that he was
a boy, and in fact recently realised that a dream that had seemed odd
was in fact premonitory (is that the right word?? it was a dream that
turned out to foretell an event)

Dawn, with no better words of comfort, but glad you had the dream


Yeah - I really liked the dream. I strongly "felt" the presence of this
friend when I had DD (my friend had died 20 mo previously). I remember
thinking it was strange at the time. I'd like to think she is looking after
this baby for me ... kinda makes it all easier to bear.

Before DD was conceived, I dreamed that I was standing in our kitchen and a
girl of about 2.5-3 was shepherding a crawling boy (about 6 mo) down our
hallway. I could hear DH in the bedroom telling them to go and "kiss Mummy
goodmorning"...... well I've had the girl now, so I'm really hoping that
the dream was premonitory (reckon that is the right word) and the rest of it
comes true as well. The girl had the same coloured hair and the same build
as DD.

Thanks
Amanda

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Irene