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Mourning for what could have been, rather than what was.
My Grandfather passed away on Sunday, it was also the first day of snow.
He'd been battling cancer for a couple years. His memorial is tomorrow and apparently there will be close to 200 people there, as he was very active in the community and well respected. God, I'm going to be a mess tomorrow. I just finished reading his obituary, and I feel so much sadness at his duality. The people that he worked with saw a different side to him than his own family. I felt most of my life that I was a disappointment, mostly for becoming a single parent. I struggled over the years and didn't live up to my potential in his eyes, yet I don't regret my choice. I know on my death bed, wishing I worked more won't be something I'll be thinking about. My grandmother told me though, that when he was dying, he told her to take watch out for me. I just wish he was able to show me he loved me while he was alive, because I rarely felt it. Christine |
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Mourning for what could have been, rather than what was.
"CME" wrote in message news:Nrdcf.117261$yS6.42032@clgrps12... My Grandfather passed away on Sunday, it was also the first day of snow. He'd been battling cancer for a couple years. His memorial is tomorrow and apparently there will be close to 200 people there, as he was very active in the community and well respected. God, I'm going to be a mess tomorrow. I just finished reading his obituary, and I feel so much sadness at his duality. The people that he worked with saw a different side to him than his own family. I felt most of my life that I was a disappointment, mostly for becoming a single parent. I struggled over the years and didn't live up to my potential in his eyes, yet I don't regret my choice. I know on my death bed, wishing I worked more won't be something I'll be thinking about. My grandmother told me though, that when he was dying, he told her to take watch out for me. I just wish he was able to show me he loved me while he was alive, because I rarely felt it. Christine So terribly sorry for your loss... I understand what you are saying and it is indeed a bitter pill on your tongue... You are a wonderful mom... You are doing a great job... You have no regrets... Why should you have? Your grandfather missed out on a good thing... You!! That's HIS regret and obviously he's realized it way too late in life... *HUGZ* I truly am sorry! Kim |
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Mourning for what could have been, rather than what was.
"CME" wrote in message news:Nrdcf.117261$yS6.42032@clgrps12... My Grandfather passed away on Sunday, it was also the first day of snow. He'd been battling cancer for a couple years. His memorial is tomorrow and apparently there will be close to 200 people there, as he was very active in the community and well respected. God, I'm going to be a mess tomorrow. I just finished reading his obituary, and I feel so much sadness at his duality. The people that he worked with saw a different side to him than his own family. I felt most of my life that I was a disappointment, mostly for becoming a single parent. I struggled over the years and didn't live up to my potential in his eyes, yet I don't regret my choice. I know on my death bed, wishing I worked more won't be something I'll be thinking about. My grandmother told me though, that when he was dying, he told her to take watch out for me. I just wish he was able to show me he loved me while he was alive, because I rarely felt it. Christine (((Christine)))) Trust me, he loved and adored you. That generation of men, they mostly aren't about showing affections. My grandfather was the same way. It wasn't until my grandma died that he actually said he loved me and that was in a card. He then died a year later and while in the hospital, he was then concerned for me and mydaughter (who had just lost her father). Don't doubt for a second that he was proud of you. I feel this will become more apparent to you in the upcoming weeks. T |
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Mourning for what could have been, rather than what was.
Thanks everyone... His memorial was today and it was amazing how much his life affected others. There was over 200 people at the service, I don't think when he planned it, he realized how many people admired him and were going to attend. lol But I found out some things about my Grandfather I didn't know. That he was behind many policies in labour relations, health and safety, education, and politics here in Alberta. He was the first chairman of the board of NAIT, helped build the Dew Line up north, as well as the Pipeline that runs through Northern Alberta, the Dam in Sask, numerous buildings in Iran etc etc. He was a highschool math teacher, and an engineer. He put himself through University while he had a wife and 4 kids to support, and visited over 30 countries. Those were the things I remember, he accomplished much more. He obviously placed a great deal of importance on his career and contribution to his community, to the detriment of his family at times but still, he was a good man. He loved us all very much, he just had difficulties showing it. I was proud today, to be related to such a man. Christine |
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Mourning for what could have been, rather than what was.
"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Thu, 10 Nov 2005 08:13:15 GMT, "CME" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: Thanks everyone... His memorial was today and it was amazing how much his life affected others. There was over 200 people at the service, I don't think when he planned it, he realized how many people admired him and were going to attend. lol But I found out some things about my Grandfather I didn't know. That he was behind many policies in labour relations, health and safety, education, and politics here in Alberta. He was the first chairman of the board of NAIT, helped build the Dew Line up north, as well as the Pipeline that runs through Northern Alberta, the Dam in Sask, numerous buildings in Iran etc etc. He was a highschool math teacher, and an engineer. He put himself through University while he had a wife and 4 kids to support, and visited over 30 countries. Those were the things I remember, he accomplished much more. He obviously placed a great deal of importance on his career and contribution to his community, to the detriment of his family at times but still, he was a good man. He loved us all very much, he just had difficulties showing it. I was proud today, to be related to such a man. Christine Wow.. what a life he had! That's so neat. 'Kate Yeah whoa does mine pale in comparison! lol Christine |
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